Well, i just found out that the person I kinda like had many partners, sexually. And i know to some people it may not seem like such a big deal. But for osme reason it makes me think twice. What should i do? Any advice needed here.
2006-12-30 09:32:23 · 11 answers · asked by Rick james 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should let it go because you can not take a person for who they are today for the person they were in the past. It's also an insecurity of your because maybe you think you won't measure up to some of the guys who she has been with but that is still not the point. I say just get over it and life goes on. As long as she is STD free I would not work about it. As long as everything down there is still intact and it looks normal I would not worry about it. Just look at it this way if you did not know about her past it would still exist. So you have to get over this. Good luck.
2006-12-30 09:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, it depends on when this other person had so many sexual partners. Are they currently engaging in sexual encounters with many different people? Is this just a phase that they went though in the past?
If you feel that this person likes you too, then follow your heart. If you build a relationship with them, make sure to have a discussion about the kind of commitment that you expect.
If you plan on sleeping with this person soon, make sure to use protection all of the time since you know thier history.
2006-12-30 17:38:18 · answer #2 · answered by GingerMoon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love this person? the right thing is to sit down and have a open talk. What about you? How many partners did you have? You are in a new relationship and after talking to her (or him) you should put the past behind. The best way to maintain a good relationship and trusting in your partner. Good Luck!
2006-12-30 17:38:48 · answer #3 · answered by brazilian33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, i know that my partner has had too many to remember when i have only been with him and one other person. I think that everyone has a past. Maybe they are more vulnerable than others. But he's good at what he does.
Give them a chance. I did and now we are engaged and i love him more than anything.
good luck, God Bless, and Happy New Year
2006-12-30 17:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by Fresca Jesca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't think much of it. Many people sleep around, especially today. If it makes you uneasy about how much maybe you should sit down and talk to her. Ask her things that are bothering you. And please..ask her to get tested just in case. It has nothing to do with being untrusting...it's for your own protection and hers as well (she may never know). I think itll be a great step and a sigh of relief when you find out she is clean and fine. It's going to be hard to find someone who hasn't slept around...the rarity of virgins in women over 20 years old is increasing every year...but anyway..protect yourself
2006-12-30 17:38:20 · answer #5 · answered by * Kittles * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are bigger issues here. Were all of these partners people she was involved with or were they causual one nighters that she met at some bar? Does she have a history of cheating on the guy she was seeing or of seeing and sleeping with a lot of guys at once? Those are the answers to base your actions on.
2006-12-30 17:38:19 · answer #6 · answered by warmdaddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends....were they her partners...all at the same time as in she was cheating on them......or has she just had lots of boyfriends? If she was cheating on them....no. If she wasn't she was just looking and having fun, so I think that would be okay, jsut make sure she doesn't have any STD's.
2006-12-30 17:39:40 · answer #7 · answered by Miss.Hilton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she hasn't found the guy she's looking for. Don't knock it till you try it. Try and be friends first man and take it slow. If she talks alot about past lovers etc she will probably bore you, and you will do the same if you ask her about them, or if you talk about your exes. Hope it helped.
2006-12-30 17:35:39 · answer #8 · answered by FearDragons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you. i think it is a big deal. well before you hook up with her make sure.. that she doesn;t have any STD's at all. this is for your benefit and hers. and its normal for it to bother you its more of ur comparing urself to other people [ her other partners]
but if you don;t like that in someone its ok.
goodluck
2006-12-30 17:35:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it...everyone has a past.....if you like her then give her a chance....take precautions ....good luck
2006-12-30 17:34:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋