ok.. im dating this guy about 3 weeks.. we have been great friends for over a year!! during that time there was amazing chemistry between us.. we both knew we liked eachother but never made a move.. until recently!!
things have been great!! but little things annoy me.. such as decision making!! .. i HAVE to decide everything we do! he wont make a single decision about what to when we spend time together.. what time what place..its all left to me.. it gets a little annoying after a while!!!
things are starting to get really unconfortable for me.. he doesnt talk much.. for example we went for a meal last night and he barely spoke to me.. it made me very uncomfortable and unsure!!
should i stay in the relationship???? please i do really like him!!
but are realtionships supposed to be this much work this early??
2006-12-30 09:29:57 · 7 answers · asked by cinderella 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For what it's worth, I am the same with my girlfriend, she makes most of the decisions, mostly because I dont have an opinion on the matter, for example if she wants mexican food or pizza, but cant decide, I'll just give her time to figure it out cos I dont care what I'm eating as long as I'm with her. The quiet dinner I cant explain may just be he had an off day or maybe he doesnt know what to talk about. But just becuase you make the decisions doesnt mean he doesnt care. Good Luck.
2006-12-30 09:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The act of not deciding for guys is usually because they want to do whatever makes you happy. It's probably just that he doesn't have a strong opinion and wants to please you. And as for not talking at dinner...you've known each other for over a year...maybe it's a comfortable silence to him. Don't worry about it. If it's bugging you just gently let him know and he'll probably step it up (once again in order to make you happy)...communicate ;) good luck
2006-12-30 09:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him this column, and explain how you feel. Let him know it is difficult to know him, and what he likes if all decisions are made by you. Good luck.
2006-12-30 09:38:10 · answer #3 · answered by lilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him to make a decision or play the game his playing and make him do what you do
2006-12-30 09:34:14 · answer #4 · answered by metal_same 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and make him talk if he doesnt then dump him. good luck and have a new happy new year.
2006-12-30 09:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by Joho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes probably in shock that u said yes to him or sumting, ask him wats going on....
he probably feels different somehow
2006-12-30 09:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by No one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem in the end i got dumped
2006-12-30 09:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋