i have been trying to decide if i want to be friends with my ex. i talked to him recently and i was telling him that you can't have your cake and eat it too. you would think he would deny it but all he could ask what was wrong with that.
and he was also talking about how our feelings will eventually fade and basically come to a point where we ignore the fact that we were together at one time. yes, they'll fade but pretending it never happened? and then he told me that he would respect my decision...if i didn't want to be friends anymore but he said it with such ease. but he continued on in saying that we should and listed reasons why. now i'm really confused with the whole situation. i'm afraid that if we remain friends, he's just going to keep hurting me but at the same time i don't like losing people that once had an important part in my life. advice?
2006-12-30 09:29:05 · 4 answers · asked by thebodyelectric! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he also talked about that first week after we broke up, he felt like he had made a mistake but it wouldn't have mattered because was "damned if he did and damned if he don't."
2006-12-30 09:30:24 · update #1
i'm not exactly sure that it's sex that he's after but more on the lines of "hey, i talk to all my exes" or "she really cares about me...that makes me feel better."
2006-12-30 09:48:43 · update #2
It sounds like he really doesnt know what he wants!! Talk to him first and let him know that you still have feelings for him but your not gonna be on the side or second for no one.
If you want to be a friend be a friend but that doesnt include you going out of your way to meet his needs or just to have sex.
Make sure you set some ground rules for yourself if you continue to be involved with him and that means that if he starts to take advantage of you or use you that you cut your loses and move on!! good luck!
2006-12-30 09:43:17 · answer #1 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First rule of dating honey.Your EX is tiring to make you feel Very guilty about what happened between the both of you.Don't fall for it!Like you said your wright in a way.He only wants his cake and eat it to.Sounds to me your man Sorry your Ex is plain the flied.You don't want anything to do with that.Brake it of.It's for the better.The way you sound,you will find a New Boyfriend in no time.Good Luck to you sweetie.
2006-12-30 17:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, if people would be honest. There would be a lot less questions. Guys need time to heal completely, if you were important to him he should still be nice to you
2006-12-30 17:40:08 · answer #3 · answered by grtoo9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just useing u. get what u wont out of it but he is just after sex
2006-12-30 17:43:24 · answer #4 · answered by ringer6942 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋