I have been dating a great girl for 3 months and she is really pressuring the marriage topic. I say it is too soon and would like to keep dating and get to know each other more. She says she doesn't want to wait. My delima come because I am 36 years old and have never been married. Is time running out or should I keep waiting until I am more ready?
2006-12-30 09:16:01 · 40 answers · asked by geeves 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It deosn't matter how old you are - you should NEVER rush into a marriage. In fact, I still follow the advice given to me by an older woman many years ago - never marry anyone until you have spent an entire year with them. The reason is simple - you want to see that person in every season of the year. So folks get depressed in the winter time (called Season Affect Disorder of SAD) while others get lethargic and lazy in the hot summer months. You may love the holiday season and your friend may hate them. You want to see all that and learn how their moods change with the season so you can decide how you want to deal with it.
So wait - don't allow yourself to be pressured into marriage.
2006-12-30 09:24:44 · answer #1 · answered by warmdaddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a very sacred thing and you that is not supposed to be in a hurry.
It is true that you'll never know a person till you live together or share all the things. But one thing that i know
Most marriages that are really in a hurry ending up having legal separation, annulments and divorce because, once they found out that they are not compatible in the end....
However, if you focus in your age, question comes are you ready, for a guy they can be married at any time they dont have to worry of getting a child, but for ladies it can be critical if they actually bear a child in their 30's...
As far as marriage is concerned you should consider it sacredness that whatever you bind should never be separated. That is why it is through sickness and health.... through laughters and tears.... and blah blah blah
(i really dont know i haven't been married but of course i also want to settle down and also have my own family)
As a totality i believe that never enter a sacred relationship id you are not prepared but dont wait too long if you think that this is the right relationship for you.
2006-12-30 09:26:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find her rushing you into marriage, then this possibly isn`t the right girl for you. After 3 months, you would have an idea if this is the one you could possibly spend your life with. Sounds as if the attraction may not be there for you. I think she is rushing you though and this may be another reason why you are feeling pressured by the relationship. Just take your time and if it doesn`t work out then move on.
2006-12-30 09:19:41 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, that seems really, really quick.
i hate people who press marriage topics, like it is the only thing to accomplish in life. newsflash... it's not.
i feel far too many people rush into marriage because in the beginning of a relationship everything is oh so new and oh so exciting, and end up divorcing.
what you need to consider is does the relationship have a good foundation that can weather a long relationship.
36. that's young. it's the new 26. you have time to figure out if you are ready and if she is "the one"
2006-12-30 09:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by The MD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, whatever you do, don't start living with her. Trust me, it spells disaster. I mean, how will you feel if something bad were to happen? Just don't.
Anyways, if she truly loves you, she will understand. If not, she'll keep bickering you. If she won't get off your case... well, sorry, but things aren't looking so good for the two of you. Just let her know you love her with all of your heart. Let her also know that you aren't quite ready for marriage (because if you're not ready, she won't be able to depend on you).
Marriage is such an enormous choice. If you screw up even one single time, it can ruin your life forever. Be strong, and good luck.
2006-12-30 09:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no! i was with my husband 7 yrs bfr. we got married and even though i thought that was too long 3 mos. is ridiculous! drop her she is neeeeeeedy and on a mission, she might even go the baby route then you will never be rid of her. When it is right yoy will know - 7 yrs not nec. but 3 mos. get real. Try at least 1 1/2 years befor you even buy a ring. You have time many girls out there that are not in a rush. good luck
2006-12-30 09:21:56 · answer #6 · answered by RPW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention how old she is. I say you should wait. You can't possibly now everything about each other in only 3 months. What's her hurry. Is her clock ticking? If she keeps pressuring you you need to move on. 36 is not that old; you need to slow things down with her.
2006-12-30 09:20:05 · answer #7 · answered by CctbOh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you are ready - 3 months is way too soon to be thinking about marriage
2006-12-30 09:18:17 · answer #8 · answered by NAN G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait.........what's the hurry? If she don't want to wait and is willing to break up....then let her break up. That tells me that she really don't love you. Three months is a short time. Take your time with this. There is no hurry. You and her need time to find out if you are both compatible. When you buy a new car, don't you "test drive" it? It's the same with relationships.......needs a period of time where you can both learn each other.......and go from there. My advice to you is not to be in a hurry. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-30 09:25:39 · answer #9 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your own gut answer. 3 mos is hardly long enough to know a person in all situations. There is plenty of time to make a life committment. ALL good things are worth the wait. If she's unable to accept that, than all the more reason to wait.
2006-12-30 09:21:40 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋