I'm at a really scary point in my life. Please help?

Question

My father passed away when I was 16, it was devestating to me and my family. I had dropped out of school the following year. I became extremely depressed and uninterested in school. My mother's kidneys had failed from diabetes and needed someone to be by her side because of her health, so I never returned to school, and I do not regret this decision. I saved her life countless times just because I was there. My brother and sister are drug addicts and are total losers. I'm 23 now and my mother has passed away. Our home had to be sold because none of us have jobs. My brother and sister got their share of the home sale. They will probably waste it away on drugs till they're on the street. I used the money to find a place to rent. So here I am without a highschool diploma, no driving experience (couldn't afford insurance), and no job, but some money from my home sale which will not last forever. I'm really scared, I don't really have anyone left in life. Please give me some encouragement.

Thanks everyone. Your words give me strength to go on.

Answer 1

You need a mentor. An older person that you feel is wise, who has made good life decisions for themselves and who you would like to advise you in your decision making.

Choose this person carefully. It should be of the same sex as you, preferably married and stable, with references that you can check or known to you through others.

We all need someone who can help us to make choices, affirm our decisions as we grow to trust our own judgment and rejoice with us when we are successful.

Consider this as a choice. It might make a difference in your life. If you want to discuss the process further, mail me. Would be glad to help you search for the right person.

You'll be fine, honey. You have more going for you than you think.

Answer 2

You've had a pretty tough seven years. You've survived and it sounds like you are a stronger person because of it. Consider this, you now have your whole life ahead of you. So the question you are asking yourself is, "Where do I go from here?" Only you know the answer. No matter what you decide, the foundation for everything to come is a solid education. There are many local, state and federal programs that can help you complete your high school education, and then assist you with job training, college or technical training as well as tuition assistance and job placement services when you complete your chosen program. I'd spend some serious time searching these opportunities out. The military isn't a bad option for you until you figure out what you want to do with your life.
Like you I had a very unpleasant youth. The one thing that has enabled me to turn it all around has been a solid education. I paid for my education using benefits I earned while in the military. But that was me, you will have to make up your own mind.
Stay away from all the drugs, alcohol, junk and people that want to use you, that does nothing but rob you of any chance you have to make it.
You can do anything if you put your mind to it. All it takes is hard work, discipline and belief in yourself. You are a survivor, you've proven that. Now grab that future and make it give you what you want.

Answer 3

I am really sorry to hear about your situation... but here is something to consider.. Have you heard of JobCorps? http://jobcorps.dol.gov/ Since you have not yet turned 24, this should be a great way for you to get a GED, learn a trade and they even have after care services that will help you find a job. I tried looking on the website for more information on the different vocations that they have, since you are alone, you should do the research and make sure to choose the right one.. not all centers are the same and may not offer the same services. My brother went throught the job corp system and earned his LPN license, and after that he went on to get an RN.. but most importantly, it gave him stability and Ability to make his own way in the world without depending on anyone else. Here the phone number (800) 733-JOBS or [phone]. Don't procrastinate (cause you can only join until your 24, not sure if this means that you have to do it before you are 24 or if they will still allow you in if you are 24) and call on Tuesday and or visit the website for more info. Try to stay clear of the negativity and be strong. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Wow! You've been through a lot already in your short life! I'm sorry for the trials you've faced. You acted in a noble way and should be commended for the wise choices you made. What to do from this point on? Continue making wise choices. The most you can do for your brother & sister right now is pray for them. They cannot be helped until they want help. Your mother is gone. May she rest in peace. Now is the time to find you. Find your direction in life. Find your purpose. You can look at this two different ways. You can wallow in despair and take on a "woe is me" attitude or you can see this as a new and exciting beginning and realize that your life is totally up to you. You can make it what you want it to be. Get a GED. Have a friend teach you to drive. Possibly find a job within walking distance of your house. If you go to church ask them for help starting your life. If you don't go to church now would be a good time to find one. There are many caring a loving people who would love to help you. You will also find support groups there and good instruction for your life. Just try to keep in mind that "this too shall pass." The troubles you are enduring now will pass and you will be a stronger person when you come out on the other side if you choose not to let it destroy you.

God bless & keep you & give you the strength you need in the coming days. Let Him lead you and guide you. He's never let me down.

Answer 5

If you live in the US, you are actually in an ideal situation to return to school, get your GED, and then go on to college. Your income level will be so low that you will qualify for all different kinds of grants, and if you look hard enough, you will find scholarships as well. What is your dream of what you want to be? Now is the time for you to pursue it. You sound like a caregiver... how about nursing? Doctor? Social Worker? Go see the movie "Pursuit of Happiness" in theatres right now, and it will show you another person that went through a scary time and came out awesome (and it's a true story). You can do it as well- just set some goals and keep climbing until you get there!! Good luck!

Answer 6

Okay, This is my advice I don't know if you attend church or not but you might what to start there alot of times they offer free GED classes and counseling cause I think that should be your first order of business. Now if you don't belong to one just walk into any church and tell them about your situation. They have many resources that may be helpful to you housing, food and employment. They'll be others worst off then you there so you wont be big surprise to them. As far as your brother and sister you should love them from a distance for now especially if they are abusing drugs and alcohol. Besides all of that they'll be people there that you can trust and maybe you'll be able to develop a new family. Good Luck I'll be praying for you and remember don't give up.

Answer 7

Hey, yeah this is a really hard moment and the thing that you might have to do the most is look at the brightside of everything.....

the first thing that you might need to do is make friends that will support you. or first ttry to find a job that will get you more money than of what you already have.... try to get a cheap place where you dont have to pay much and try not to get in trouble much. (if you get in any trouble at all)
you know the #1 reason why I tell you all this is because I kinda feel in a way that thats gonna happen to me..... my brother is a total loser and my parents had me when they werre pretty old so they might die b4 I reach a descent age... but I know that there are always people that will try to look out for me and will care for me not matter what.... maybe theres some people out there for you too you just need to work hard to find them and move on with your life.

Answer 8

Talk to your old school and find out how to get a high school equivalency diploma. If you have any relatives nearby, aunts ,uncles grand parents, ask about your moving in with them giving them some money toward expenses, and try to get a degree in a technical school of some kind. when you have a good job, you can breath a little easier. Sorry about the bad luck, but you sound like a survivor, I know you will bounce back from this.

Answer 9

figure out the bus routes, don't worry about a car right now, call a local college and get info. on getting your GED. In the mean time get a job at McDonalds(or something like that) if you have to,just to get a start somewhere.Not only will you make a few bucks,you will meet new ppl,and it may boost your spirits. You have been thru a lot at such a young age.God Bless

Answer 10

youve got enough smarts to get your own place with your money. Go back to school, they will have a counsellor or somenone who will help direct you so you can make and reach your goals for a successful future. You will defininitly benefit from one on one counselling and this way you,ll always have someone you can talk to when you feel stuck or lost....
You can do it. You,ve made all the right choices it seems. You have a good head on your shoulders. Go for it... and be proud of yourself....don,t give up.....for 2007 focus on yourself.
good luck