i am 14 years old and i am fed up being shy i find the stupidist things ebrassing its impossible to make me do a speech cause im too scared and noone understands why im so shy some days its so bad that it makes me depressed my new year resalution is to become more confident but i dont no how to please give any help or tips!
2006-12-30 09:11:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
hey i have always been extremely shy, and i still am (im 16) but it gets better as you go along. im not as painfully shy as i was before, and now presentations dont bother me. eventually you get used to them and realize that everyone has to do a speech, not just you. plus, no one really pays attention so a minute after you sit down everyone will forget a word you had said.
2006-12-30 09:16:16 · answer #1 · answered by chikka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, when you do something that you THINK is stupid, laugh at yourself. I'm serious! Everyone goes through this. I'm older than you are and I took myself so seriously growing up, I panicked every time I did something wrong. Laugh and the world will laugh with you! It's an old saying but true. The first time I ever heard someone laugh at themselves I was horrified for them. But the odd thing was, other people who were there at the time told her "I do that all the time" or "I can't tell you how many times I felt so stupid." Don't be depressed. Shyness is just a growing up thing. You're taking yourself far to seriously. Relax. The next time you get embarrassed, look at the person next to you and make fun of yourself then laugh.
By the way, the next time you have to give a speech, make it on your shyness. Tell about some of the things that you've been so embarrassed about. Everyone will agree with you that they too have felt like you do. Good Luck!
2006-12-30 17:26:07 · answer #2 · answered by Emma J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, that will get better with time. I used to be extremely shy, and I know how it feels. You are not alone in this, if you do a simple search on google, you'll find a lot of sites for shyness and how to overcome it.
You may not know, but a lot of confident looking people out there are often very shy too.
Don't try to rush it. When you feel shy, try to remember that other people feel the same. Shy people usually have the feeling that veryone is looking at them and judging them. This isn't true. In fact most people are so wrapped up in themselves, they don't pay attention to what you're doing.
http://www.shyandfree.com/
2006-12-30 17:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by Xenophonix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to find out what things you are good at (sports, arts & crats, school, projects, computers, hobbies, etc) and succeed in that. Concentrate on being the best that you can at that and you will gain self esteem. When we are good at things and have accomplishments we feel good too. When I was your age I was naturally above average at sports, band, electronics, school, and my looks. I felt great because I could learn just about anything and be great. I had lots of self esteem and was more outgoing. Now that I'm older and don't have the chance to do great things that I feel good about doing I don;t feel so great. At work people tell me that I'm too quiet. I believe the two are directly related.
good luck finding something that you're good at! We all have more than one thing
2006-12-30 17:19:31 · answer #4 · answered by ur a Dee Dee Dee 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go in a room, lock yourself in, and yell at the world. Make it so no major opinion you've had is unspoken. Then give your speech. Shyness is due to fear of others not accepting what you have to say. By having already said it (or evenn better shouted it) shyness can be overcome.
2006-12-30 17:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes my ansewr to you is to go out there and be what ever it is that you want tobe hey im usually really shy and don't talk when im near some one i like or a really big group of popular people,.... but the real secret is is eitherbe your self and make people laugh hey im know for being weird but alot of people tell me thats why they like me
2006-12-30 17:15:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was also like dat but my friends broke me out of that. But I'm still kind of shy, I cant help it its in my nature.
2006-12-30 17:14:41 · answer #7 · answered by Portia P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just look in the mirror every day or more than once a day and find great things about your self and oggle over them and then you will gain confedence.
2006-12-30 17:15:24 · answer #8 · answered by chelsiey106 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i overcame it at the early 20s but stil i feel nervous around women. but stilll u can change. try selfgrowth.com or more-selfesteem.com
2006-12-30 17:18:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRY STANDING IN AN EMPTY ROOM & SING THEN RECORD YOUR SINGING!TRY IT UNTILL YOU GET THE BEST RECORD!THEN TRY TO MAKE A SPEECH!AND RECORD!TRY TO BOLDER AND MORE SELF CONFIDENT!TRY THIS AND TELL ME!
2006-12-30 17:22:16 · answer #10 · answered by donia f 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋