Yes I am again one here. ha ha
Okay, when my bf wasn't talking to me and being open it would make me really angry, well still does cuz he wont open up to me. Well, when he got angry today because he was in a bad mood i was trying to get him to tell me what was wrong. He wouldn't tell me. So I said, "well you can call me when you decide to tell me what's wrong or when you're not mad and taking it out on me". then hung up without saying i love you. Then i felt bad, because i do love him and he's having a hard time it's just hard on me too. So i called him right back five minutes later. He said that was no reason for me to hang up on him. then he said bye and hung up. i got him again and he finally listened and i told him i was sorry for always trying to make him talk to me when he didnt want to, and that i wasn't going to MAKE HIM talk to me unless he wanted to. and then he said he loved me.
Did i do the right thing?....I just want him to know i am there for him.
2006-12-30 08:59:54 · 16 answers · asked by Fresca Jesca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Steve you didn't understand the question. I told him that i wasn't going to make him talk to me about anything unless he wanted to. I let him know i was here so when he feels like opening up, then he can come to me.
2006-12-30 09:07:50 · update #1
Drama drama, grow up!
2006-12-30 09:02:45 · answer #1 · answered by djcapron 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
The last thing a man wants is to feel interrogated about things when they are going through a tough time. Men were raised to internalize their emotions while women were taught to express ourselves. Demanding him to open up to you is a surefire way to make him shut you out. It is good that you apologized.
If you want him to be more open, let him just do it on his own terms. When he does talk to you, listen. Show him with your body language and eyes that you have his attention. Don't offer your input unless he asks for it but if you must then ask him before you give him any unwarranted advice. (Say, "Want to know what I think.....?" before just telling him. If he doesn't want to hear it then just drop it, you can talk about it later.
The best thing to do is show him that you are there for him and a good listener when he needs to talk. Eventually you will gain his trust in that respect and he will be more open.
2006-12-30 17:10:00 · answer #2 · answered by On the upside 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is right that you told him how you felt and came out wit an answer
but wrong that you called him back after five minutes that is like letting him win
but since he is not tlking to you about many things letting him know your there for him is the right thing
soon he will feel more open with you he is probably coming through a rough patch in his life.
2006-12-30 17:08:26 · answer #3 · answered by ckr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were right when you hung up on him. Why try to drag information out of someone. Your mistake was calling him again and telling him you were sorry. He is now back in control of you.
2006-12-30 17:12:39 · answer #4 · answered by marilynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is kinda similar with me and my gf
I keep thinking that she is hiding things from me that are from her past that I want to know but she wont tell me, and yeah I know how you feel. I love her too and I tell her the same thing. (that she should tell me when she wants to but it would be nice to know the way she was in the past)
I think that you did the right thing in calling him back and telling him all that. you just gotta give him time and wait until he opens up to you with out you asking him to
2006-12-30 17:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by metal_same 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the wrong thing. Your boyfriend sounds like he is looking for a floor mat. You should never ask him to talk again, give him what he wants when he wants it. Your boyfriend sounds like guy you should work really hard to keep.
2006-12-30 17:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by Steve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no no no and no. STOP!!!! this is not your problem! he is you have to see that he is makeing you feel like you have to deal with his crap! YOU CANNOT CHANGE HIS LIFE! he is so emotionaly unavailable and you cannot change him i would get away from this relationship as SOON AS POSSIBLE!! tell him to look into getting some help. i was in a similar relationship. so i mean i am not new to this. just seriously. he needs help but you are not the one to give it too him. he will make you feel like there is something you can do to help but you cant.
2006-12-30 17:07:56 · answer #7 · answered by summer girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you didi the right thing by telling him. but my bf will tell me anything thats wrong. cuz hes open and he is always there 4me and im always there 4 him. if you would have just come right out and said it he might not have been mad at you
2006-12-30 17:04:54 · answer #8 · answered by Aeropostale23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes u have to be the bigger person not saying dat u were wrong just saying u r sorry for ur part of the fight.. it takes two u know and give him sum time just tell him u just want him to know ur there for him and ull be there to listen when hes ready to speak up.. im sure hell understand besides u dont want to force him to tell u , it should be willingly.
2006-12-30 17:04:13 · answer #9 · answered by tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you did the right thing you wanted to show him your love and you did by calling him back and saying you love him
2006-12-30 17:03:27 · answer #10 · answered by Dw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl every girl knows when to do the right thing you love him right then when you told him you sorry you cant go online for help its whats in your heart and what you feel about him. IM ME IF YOU NEED TO
PEACE AYIGHT
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2006-12-30 17:08:04 · answer #11 · answered by Corbin Bleu's Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋