the guy i am madly in love with likes one of my best friends.
my friend know that i like him and she likes him too. everyone has told me that she does but when i confront her she never says it. we have got in huge fights over a boy and i dont want to lose her as a friend. should i try to forget him and stay friends with the girl or try to get him? how do i get over a guy i have loved for 4 years? and how do i get over losing a bestfreinds from 8 years?
help!
2006-12-30 08:59:45 · 9 answers · asked by licinia19 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is coming from a guy,
Many of us have been in this type of situation before.
If he likes your friend and not you then i would just let him go,
If you guys have been friends for eight years i'd let it go.
However if she is doing this with multiple guys that you like then maybe you ought to dump her so you can get a boyfriend.
2006-12-30 09:14:26 · answer #1 · answered by the d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you really be madly in love with someone you are not actually with? There's a different love when you love someone as a friend and then love them as a partner in a way..
A guys is never worth breaking a friendship nor a fight in the first place. Is this guy leading you both on? Have either of you questioned that? I agree with an earlier post I guess.. tell the guy you like him and see what he says. If he says he feels the same about you and agrees you both should start dating, then go to your best friend together and tell her you guys are dating rather then telling her as one person.. and then talk to her later alone and say you want to stop fighting and continue being best friends.
If he does not reciprocate the same feelings, just forget him and value him as a friend and let your friend and this guy go out and work on your friendship to make sure no guy comes between you I guess.
I'm guessing you gals are still in highschool or something. There's alot more to life than being obsessed with some guy.
2006-12-30 09:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by lyssaria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are "madly in love" with a guy who likes someone else? There's the first problem. If it is a one-way street then it isnt worth worrying about. Sorry to say this, but sounds like you are a little obsessive about him. Don't be.
While it may be difficult, dont torpedo your friend's potential relationship with this guy just because the guy likes her instead of you. If your friend is a real friend she would know this could be a hurtful thing to you. Wish her well, tell her you want to stay friends with her, and then move on to find a new guy for yourself. No use losing a best friend over jealousy.
2006-12-30 09:06:26 · answer #3 · answered by sothere! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you already know that he likes your friend then you should probably let them work things out. You don't want to be with a guy who's secretly wanting to be with your friend instead, right?
Boys are not worth losing a friend over, even if he's someone you've liked for a while. I do think your friend needs to be honst with you and let you know how she feels about him. But at the same time, you need to be willing to accept the reality that they might get together. What would you do if you were in your friend's shoes?
2006-12-30 09:15:00 · answer #4 · answered by ilove9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them both an ultimatum. And see what happens.
If your so-called boyfriend of 4 years is any good, he'll stop playing games and choose which girl he prefers.
That's why you might be feeling competitive with your girlfriend.
But I would be prepared to lose them both, because that's what will happen if they go off together.
2006-12-30 09:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by Panama Jack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though you loved him for a really long time. friendship always comes first. you guys BOTH should leave the guy. because if your friend does like him and they get together then its wrong and difficult for you. so you should talk to your friend and work something out. but, your friends should always come first. because boyfriends can leave but friends are always there.
2006-12-30 09:41:09 · answer #6 · answered by j yanks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he's going with your friend, what kind of friend does it make you? You should just stay with your friend till maybe one day they may split or break up and you can take her palce. SO be patient.
2006-12-30 09:07:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been with him for 4yrs thers must be something there. your friend sould back off. But if your boyfriend is hitting on her then yes say goodbye. but i don't think your girlfrind should see him either. good luck
2006-12-30 09:10:24 · answer #8 · answered by SunnyDays 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell the guy u like him. if the guy doesnt like u back then move on. if he does like u then talk to your friend and she might move on because the guy doesnt like her. good luck and have a happy holidays.
2006-12-30 09:05:26 · answer #9 · answered by Joho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋