when things are begining to get serious i panic and make a silly excuse to get out. do i have a problem and what could it be?
2006-12-30 08:59:40 · 17 answers · asked by snowflakes 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just to add that i am 22 and old enough. i am not scared of anything in particular
2006-12-30 09:08:15 · update #1
You do have a problem...you're scared of commitment...maybe you don't want to be with just one person, maybe you can't make up your mind, maybe you want what you never seem to get......
2006-12-30 09:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by JackLove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean, as I have the same problem. You sound youngg though - I'm nearly 28 and I hit the panic button as soon as anyone shows any interest, then I wonder why I'm alone.
I don't know what the answer is, but I hope you manage to get to the bottom of it before you are my age.
I have decided that this will be the year I get it sorted - I will not be ssitting alone watching crap on TV next New Years' Eve if it's the last thing I do! In the meantime, if you find the answer, please tell me about it! Good luck.
2006-12-30 09:08:13 · answer #2 · answered by Funky Little Spacegirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
itchy feet,,i used to have a four year itch when i would start to look for things wrong because i couldnt possible be happy,,nothing to do with him but the itch picks at you doesnt it.you have to find what works for you,,i used to make lists to find the good and the bad,,reasons to show i was right all along,,but to be honest they dont mean crap,,i think i gradually accepted people have faults and that INCLUDES ME,and this is one of mine,,i learned what i think today i may not think next week so i kept my mouth shut and lo and behold,,i was right,,it wasnt such a huge deal and my relationship lasted a week longer,,it was ,i have to admit,small steps but even now my feet itch and i question things and because i speak my mind sometimes they come out and i think,"you dumb cow" and i have words with myself but at the end of the day i have to admit,,i am happy,i may not be happy tomorrow but is that actually my relationship or is it just me,,so i sit on it and again,,im wrong and im a ....you get the routine,,,,when your itches turn to blisters it is time to go but an itch can go away on its own if you just wait a bit.(this is between you and me and if you tell i will hunt you down like a moose in season) lol
2006-12-30 09:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do the same thing. After it starts to get serious, I back out. You just have to tell yourself to let things flow and see where the relationship goes. You'd hate yourself if you jumped out to soon and that was your true love. Dont' worry so much about the seriousness and have fun with the guy. The only way to see what happens, is to let it happen.
2006-12-30 09:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your not ready for that commitment and that is OK someday you will be ready next time tell the guy no or your parents wont let you date until college that way you can stay out of the relationship until your ready to be with someone
2006-12-30 09:03:12 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Virgo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don’t have a problem. Maybe you don’t stay because you don’t want a long term relationship—you’re just not ready. I’m sure when you find “the one” you’ll know and would want to stay committed in a long-term relationship.
2006-12-30 09:05:36 · answer #6 · answered by UnknownJaneDoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like you are not ready to commit. Maybe you haven't found the right one yet. You need to be confident with yourself and want a relationship, and need to find the right person---maybe then you won't feel like some thing is wrong with you.
2006-12-30 09:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by lilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u r affraid from being hurt, it's normal, u try to protect urself. If u r still a virgin then there's really no problem, if not, it must be the fault of ur first....but the good one will certainly come one of those days
2006-12-30 09:06:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u have a problem and its being scared of commiting urself to someone. i used to have that problem til i let a great man slip away. its good to be cautious but dont be scared of commiting, everyone will have their heart broken, thats how we learn to love. GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-30 09:05:46 · answer #9 · answered by LC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant stay in a relationship for that long either. i usually tend to be attracted to guys that are not so great, but in ur case i think ur afraid of commitment.
2006-12-30 09:05:00 · answer #10 · answered by smilez118 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋