i found out that he had been emailing his ex saying certain songs reminded him of her and how he missed her. i took him back was that the right thing to do or do i deserve better?
2006-12-30 08:50:28 · 23 answers · asked by tarahabear 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dump him.
If you can hack into his email account, change the password and email her saying that she was crap inbed really! !!!! MUHAHHHHAAAA!!
2006-12-30 09:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by Rebz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are totally honest with him, then he should be the same with you. If thats a definately a no no, telling an ex certain songs remind you of them and you miss them and then hiding it from your back. If he lies about that, then he can lie about anything. You deserve someone who is honest with you as much as you are to them... Now that you have already taken him back, I guess you can try to work on it... but if he doesn't regain your trust again then there is no point, you should leave... You can find someone that will treat you the way you want to be treated.
2006-12-30 17:04:33 · answer #2 · answered by vwbabe7463 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He clearly has commitment issues and would love nothing more than several adoring women after him - so he's not the guy for you as you're interested in a meaningful realtionship where you're the only girl the guy needs.
They never change hun - seriously, take it from me - its one thing if he made a drunken mistake, but he obviously put time and effort into emailing and trying to get his ex back, so leave it out, as his conscience obviously has no problem with cheating on you.
2006-12-30 19:03:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you might deserve better, but how long have you been living together. is it possible he got a bit scared and made a stupid mistake. men do stupid things when they are nervous. however if this has been a long term thing i think only you know whats best. you can take the chance that he didnt really mean it and was being daft or he really is thinking of his ex, which is wrong and then yes, you do deserve better.
2006-12-30 16:59:56 · answer #4 · answered by cookie 85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Atleast he's being truthful. Every guy gets that believe it or not. Guys are actually more prone to stay attached to ex-girlfriends because while girls go out and talk to their friends about their problems such as break-ups, guys tend to bottle it up and it never becomes a finished thing, but I wouldn't worry, this happens with every guy and I wouldn't worry about it. Now, if does listen to these certain songs continously...then maybe you should worry, but like I said, this happens and no worries. I bet you have somethings that remind you of your old b/f, cologne, music, thigns like that.
Talk to him about it though if you're insecure about it, there's a chance it might escalate.
2006-12-30 16:55:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god! All you need to do is look at the situation like it was your best mate asking you this question about her boyfriend ,i think you know what your advice to her would be so take the same advise yourself,dont stay with the bastard, what he is doing is a type of 2 timing and if you stay any longer you are leaving it free for this all to get much worse and for him to break your heart . Get out there and get a guy who will treat you with the respect you should be getting now.Good luck.
2006-12-30 18:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by shadow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't the one for you. You should never live with a boyfriend. Sorry to say this so boldfaced! But you really should only live with your husband. I know, I know, you love him. Love is beautiful! But if you're not committed enough for marriage..... I mean, what's the point of getting married even!
You deserve better hon. I really believe you do. Start on a fresh slate, and this time, don't live with a guy until you're married to him! It may be "a radical idea" but you know what, it really is the only way to score a trustworthy, honest guy.
2006-12-30 16:59:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him basically you dont want to be anyones second best and if he wants her you would prefer him to go to her because you dont need his pity and you are no ones stand in,,,,you want someone who wants you and if he isnt it,,you will be upset but you will at least know. give him an out.if he wants you ,you come with rules and chatting up ex,s is a no no.he is giving her the impression you are nothing to him and that hurts you,,because it does,doesnt it! why should she feel sorry for you when he has the option to leave you ,he isnt tied by rope and he has a brain and a voice,,,,use them! bit of advice,,just because you are totally at ease with telling the truth dont assume others have the same balls,,some dont and it stinks doesnt it.
2006-12-30 17:00:34 · answer #8 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him you deserve so much better, i was in your situation and i couldnt trust him it was always at the back of my mind (was he thinking of her instead of me etc) i put up with it for many years it only ended when i found out he cheated on me, i should have gone with my own gut feeling in the first place and dumped him in the very first place my advice to you is go with what your hearts telling you to do..but dont end up losing years of your life with a waste of space. good luck
2006-12-30 17:02:01 · answer #9 · answered by Don 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I call: the dirtiness of men
Well, this is the first stage of leaving you; he found that his ex is better than you in certain things. This mean he is bloody a perfect actor.
Get him over
2006-12-30 16:55:43 · answer #10 · answered by Neeboo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she wanted him, he would be with her. He's disrepecting you. You deserve better. There are millions of men on this planet. There has to be at least one who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
2006-12-30 16:54:17 · answer #11 · answered by CoffeeBreak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋