im about to be married to a guy in january but i want him to meet the guy i was dating before him just because my x was a jerk and loser and he said id never get married and i want my x to see how wrong he was and how happy i am without him and that ive moved on to someone much better
2006-12-30 08:45:33 · 9 answers · asked by angel j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, it was wrong of you to ask him. How would you feel if the tables were turn, what if you’re soon to be husband wanted you to meet his ex so that he can show you off? You wouldn’t feel really good about yourself would you? I think it may have bruised his ego, he may wonder if that’s the only reason why you agree on marrying him.
I say who cares about your ex…it’s the past. You’ll soon have a future with you soon to be hubby so focus on that. And I’m sure someday in the future when you run into your ex by accident then he’ll see for him self that he was wrong. If you go try to prove that he was wrong he’ll just think you still have feelings for him. And that he still has a hold/control over you.
So, I think you should just drop the idea because pushing the idea may make your finance want to reconsider.
Good Luck!
2006-12-30 09:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by UnknownJaneDoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its wrong why do that to yourself you need to let the X go and know in your heart that you have moved on to someone better trust me in time he will see your happiness some how just be happy that your marrying a great man and is no longer dealing with the crappy X BF
2006-12-30 16:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by Angel Virgo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are wrong. Do not tell your fiance about this. Eventually you will run into your ex- and or he will find out through the grapevine. Either way, your fiancee will take this completely wrong. It almost sounds like you still care about this guy ~ you care enough to want to throw your marriage into his face. This is not healthy for you. You have already won - take your prize and be happy.
2006-12-30 16:50:06 · answer #3 · answered by 2mom35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong of you to ask him this. If you are so concerned about what your ex things then you are not fully over him. If you were you wouldn't care what he thinks. If you ask your fiance to meet him just to get revenge your practically telling him that you don't love him as much as you said you did.
You'll know when your over that person when you don't give a f*** about what they think. Especially if your ex was a jerk to you.
Your fiance doesn't deserve it and he doesn't care about your ex he cares about your future.
2006-12-30 16:52:36 · answer #4 · answered by Moni0718 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong to ask him of that. Thats good to show him the other person and what that person did to you so he knows not to. If he totally rejects and doesn't want to then don't push him into it. Its a good thing that you have moved on and found someone better. Good luck to you.
2006-12-30 17:08:49 · answer #5 · answered by vwbabe7463 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not that its wrong its just weired i can understand why u would want ur x to see him but i think ur future husband would feel a little awkward wouldn't it just be better to send him an invitation to the wedding? instead then again u shouldn't have to prove anything to anybody let alone ur x
2006-12-30 16:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by pure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very wrong. Are you doing this for you fiance's benefit or for the satisfaction of throwing your current relationship in the face of your ex?
2006-12-30 16:50:12 · answer #7 · answered by jhartmann21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so what you said was, i want to rub his face in it,,but i guarantee he heard,,i still care what my ex thinks and want to see him. yes it is very wrong,,you shouldnt care what this guy thinks of you,especially as you are supposed to be in love and happy,,at what point is your ex popping in and out of your head? this may mean arguments for you and your soon to be husband! be warned.
2006-12-30 16:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are happy than leave your x alone ,you don't need to prove a point ,action speak louder than words you are getting married.good luck
2006-12-30 16:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋