I have a 6 year old cousin that still uses the bathroom in his pants. He do not have any health problems that I know of and he do not come from an abusive family. He makes up excuses like, "I did'nt know that I peed in my pants", "I really did'nt have to go, it just came", "I don't know why I did it",or the truth, "I did'nt want to go to the bathroom". I know his excuses are not truth because you can tell that he knows when he has to go to the bathroom. We would tell him to go to the bathroom, but he does not listen and would sit their doing what ever and pee or doodoo himself up.He does not do it all the time but it is becaming a problem. He looks up too me like a big sister, is there any thing that I can do to get him to undertand that he is a big boy and to stop being so in to what he is doing and go to the bathroom?When I try to tell him why he should or shouldn't do things he says that I am being mean and he covers his ears.How can I get him to understand that Iam not being mean?
2006-12-30 08:45:31 · 19 answers · asked by #1animallover 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
take him to a doctor just to rule out any hidden med problems. if there are none then put him into diapers and completly treet him like a baby, feed him, make him take naps, and only let him do baby things. he will hate it so much that he will stop. we had to do this with my younger brother. 2 days and he was good for ever.
2006-12-30 11:12:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Two things. Sometimes when this occurs it is like a temper tantrum. They do this because it gets a lot of attention right away, even though the attention is negative, it is still attention, and it upsets everyone around him.
But, this might be a sign of some emotional problems and in this case the child needs to see his family doctor to rule out physical problems, and then he may need to either visit a good urologist or a child psychologist to find out why he enjoys (if in fact he does) doing this. This is not a problem you can solve. This is something his parents need to get resolved. If he is doing this at home, he is doing this at school and they will not tolerate it for long. He has issues, serious ones, he needs professional help.
2006-12-31 09:17:21 · answer #2 · answered by teacupn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were his caregiver, I would tell you this, so maybe you can share it with his caregiver... It has worked on every child that I know. Nightime wetting is different.
First you explain that using the bathroom is something that big kids do. So is having sweets. If you are too little to use the bathroom, you are too little to have sweets. Period.
This is not 'punishment'. It is not cruel. It is not even painful for the child. It is not said in a derogatory or threatening manner. It is stated as a fact. Then all sweets must stop. All. No cake, no candy, no cookies, no jam or jelly, no syrup on the pancakes, no powdered sugar on the french toast, you get the picture. If everyone in the child'slife can be consistent, it should be a matter of days if not hours before the child decides that going to the bathroom is a good idea.
PS If he tells you you are mean for trying to explain proper behavior to him, it sounds to me like he's a little spoiled.
2006-12-30 11:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by Woodsprite 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
2 issues. each and every so often whilst this happens it relatively is almost a temper tantrum. They try this because of the fact it gets extremely some interest suitable away, even however the attention is damaging, it remains interest, and it upsets all and sundry around him. yet, this could be an indication of a few emotional issues and for that reason the toddler needs to be sure his family participants surgeon to rule out actual issues, and then he might might desire to the two bypass to a good urologist or a toddler psychologist to be sure why he enjoys (if in certainty he does) doing this. it is no longer a topic you could clean up. it is a few thing his mum and dad might desire to get resolved. If he's doing this at homestead, he's doing this at college and that they gained't tolerate it for long. He has matters, extreme ones, he needs professional help.
2016-11-25 01:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is just an idea but it may work. This is what I did with my 4 yr old that would pee in the toilet and yet he pooped in his pants every day for a year after he started peeing in the toilet. I tried everything. Ice cream, new underwear, new bedding, rent a move, a new toy, NOTHING worked. One day out of the blue... I was at my parents house. My brother happened to be there. My son pooped his pants while there. Of course, I was prepared. Got him cleaned up and changed. My brother approached my son and told him that if he pooped in the potty uncle would give him a dollar for every time he pooped in the potty. If he pooped in his pants, mommy is going to tell me and then you have to give uncle a dollar because you were naughty and pooped in your pants. Ya might would know the very next day he pooped in the potty, he bragged to uncle he pooped in the potty, uncle gave him a dollar... ONE TIME thats all it took. He has never done it since, and he is now 8 yrs old. One dollar was all that it took! Because your cousin looks up to you, try it... it just might work! Good luck.
2006-12-30 11:49:53 · answer #5 · answered by butterfliesformom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a son that had the same problem......... but it took years before we found out what the problem was. He was scared to stay in the bathroom long enough to use the bathroom. He had acquired an irrational fear of the bathroom. And he was also scared of pain from big bowel movements. So he would always try to hold it in.
2006-12-30 12:51:57 · answer #6 · answered by Coodles 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most probably this kid is suffering from some psychological (and or other) problems. By this attitude he is drawing the attention to him self, meaning he is lacking attention and appropriate kindness, or he is jealous from younger kid/s that is capturing the attention of his family members.
Find out what is his real problem before trying to find appropriate treatment, may be this will go if his problem within his family is gone.
2007-01-04 23:41:45 · answer #7 · answered by noshka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be that he just want to keep playing so he dose it in his pants so he doesn't have to use the bathroom. maybe try putting some diapers on he i think they are called night time or something like that for 6 year olds I know they are for bed wetters but they might work for you.
2007-01-04 07:30:59 · answer #8 · answered by nicoladebari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't punish him. or tease him..Sometimes this can be a mental problem and he may be too scared to ask his teacher to let him leave the room...That is of course, if he goes to school...You know this has to be an embarassement for him...Try talking to his counselor, or maybe his doctor....All children are different and do things in their own time....My son was nine when he quit wetting the bed...It was blamed on laziness...Please have a talk with his doctor or even a Therapist....Good Luck!
2006-12-30 09:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
1 he might be right about not feeling it
2. medical condition
3. he just wants attention
maybe he is afraid of the potty take him to the bathroom and keep him company while he goes
2006-12-30 10:17:49 · answer #10 · answered by chuy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋