Alright so I got dumped almost 4 weeks ago. I loved the guy completley in love I've dated several other guys but never felt this way about anyone else. I was extremely hurt but we decided to be friends. So i did what i'm supposed to do.. I moved on... I stopped answering his daily calls, and only talked to him a little bit.. But when I started answering his calls he would be bitter and upset about me not answering. and he continues to leave voicemails stating " i love you pookey." and all that crap. Recently I started dating another guy.. 3 weeks after he broke up with me. Just casual friend dating. I don't love this guy. Well my x is extremely jealous and upset with me and is super bitter. He keeps asking if I kissed him and I won't reply because it upsets me that he is messing with my feelings. what is his problem? what do i do about this? I still love him but its making it harder to get over him.
2006-12-30 08:40:57 · 17 answers · asked by LIZ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow
just proof that you dont miss the well til the well runs dry
sounds like he got a case of the proverbial cold feet.
Bet if you would have been calling him and doing the same thing, he would have filed stalking charges on you.
You have the upper hand, if you love him and he loves you, have a heart to heart with him that starts out something like this
"look, I got your message and the truth is that I love you too, however, when you broke up with me I decided that I would not allow it to be the end of the world so I moved on and figured that you would have too. Whatever happens/happened in my new relationship is none of your business. As it is none of HIS business what happened in ours. If you want a relationship with me I dont mind trying again but if and only if you can promise that you will not run at the first sign of trouble or if you feel afraid of your feelings. Don't answer now, just think about what I said and I will call you in a few days so that we can discuss it'
GOOD LUCK
2006-12-30 08:48:44 · answer #1 · answered by kissmymiddlefinger 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your ex really has some issues. He's the one who did the breaking up. He needs to deal with that now that you are dating other people.
My guess is that your ex had ideas about going out with someone else, and it didn't work out the way he wanted. Even if I'm wrong here, you deserve better treatment than what your ex is putting you through.
Let him go-don't take his calls, and don't associate with him at all. You can't get over him if he's still around.
Good luck!
2006-12-30 16:49:17 · answer #2 · answered by dkuddle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn that when a guy breaks up with you, you are never aloud to date , have sex, or even have fun with another guy. That is just an unwritten rule. Unfortunately, no one ever follows that and are tender little egos are crushed. Don't feel bad though, he will get over it. After 10 or so years of mental health counselling and a list of women he had to emotionally hurt to try to get back at you.
2006-12-30 16:47:17 · answer #3 · answered by geeves 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh Man Girlfriend!! What a pile of mess you are in! If it were me I would move on. He is the one who dumped you!!!! The best revenge is happiness. Ignore his calls and delete the voicemails without listening to them if you can. He is the one that dumped you. Yes you love(d) him deeply. I totally understand that. I just got out of a 19 yr marriage..he left me for another woman. So I feel your pain. You didn't say how long you and the guy were together. But anyhow..if it were me I would just move on.
2006-12-30 16:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your ex has anger issues. You can try to be a friend and get him to open up but I don't know if this would be worth your trouble. Also, it sounds like he's upset because you didn't dance to his music, but in fact you moved on (you go girl). Be that as it may, tell him you will always care about him and if he needs someone to talk to you'll be there for him.
2006-12-31 01:59:04 · answer #5 · answered by ♨ Wisper ► 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop answering his calls and delete his messages without listening to them. He is only obsessed with talking to you now because he knows he screwed up and lost a good thing. Sounds like he doesn't want you, but doesn't want anyone else to have you either. Move on, you can do far better than that loser.
2006-12-30 16:44:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
YOU are making it hard to get over your ex. Why are you speaking to him? Why take his calls? Why does he know you are dating? It's not his business...
You are allowing him to stay in your life, knowing his is upset and bitter, and yet you want to complain that he's behaving upset and bitter. If you don't like it put a stop to it.
2006-12-30 16:43:50 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
omg, tell him to leave you alone... i mean you kind of have to get over him. he was the one who dumped you in the first place so why is he jealous? yea this guy has problems, i think he should apologize to you if he wants you back, not call you daily & tehn sound bitter!
2006-12-30 16:46:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
jealousy,,he wants you back and you wont accept. if you have no plans to get back together with him it may be better to make that last call and tell him you need to move on and to do this you wont be receiving any of his calls after this. sometimes blunt is the way to go.it isnt going to be easy because you still feel for him but you know you,and if you are telling yourself you need to have him out of your life,who better to listen to than yourself!
2006-12-30 16:47:15 · answer #9 · answered by lex 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Then dont. If you still love him and he still loves you ((which seems to be it)) then why move on?? Why not try harder to make things work out??
2006-12-30 16:43:39 · answer #10 · answered by R*A*N*D*O*M* 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋