me and my husband had a huge argument last night because his so called best friend is trying to hook him up with the daughter of a friend, and his best friend gave this woman my husband's cell number. Well one thing led to another and I threw a hanger at him that scratched him on the eye area and there was some blood. He got phyisical with me then packed up all his belongings and left. I think it has gotten way out of hand now. We have only been married for a month and we have all this negativity from outside sources because they see me as a threat to his relationship with them. We are both studying Jehovah Witness' and I feel horrible. If he knows the truth will he divorce me because of what went down. He doesn't want to give up his friends whom he says doesn't like me but yet in still he still hangs out with them. Did I mess up big time and lose my husband for good?
2006-12-30 08:38:01 · 14 answers · asked by stella 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Hopefully you will be able to work this out. Perhaps you both should seek counseling with your pastor. Even if he won't go, it might do you good.
I know you were angry, but there is no excuse for physical violence. Do you realize that you tried to physically hurt him and that is a crime? If he had called the police, you could have went to jail for the night and been charged with domestic violence. Laws are very strict on domestic violence and whether the one causing the harm is male or female doesn't matter---it is still a crime (unless it is in self-defense, which you implied that it wasn't). If nothing else, perhaps counseling would help to give you different ways to deal with your anger that are healthier.
2006-12-30 11:44:52 · answer #1 · answered by Witchy 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, im not an expert or anything. But I in my opinion it sounds like you have a problem with trust. You just have to let your husband know that you trust him to have his own time with his friends and vice versa. Its only been a month for you guys-trust me fighting is all part of it. You should talk you husband again to see what actually happened and if you get angry then just leave the room and talk at later time when you calm down. If you find out that hes cheating; get a divorce-your wasting your time. Best of luck....
2006-12-30 08:45:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is taking phone number's from other female that his friend's are giving him why would you want to stay with him. Why do that to your self! If your husband can not stand up to his friend's an say look this is my wife I love her an you need to respect that If he is not doing that then you would be better off getting out now. Trust me if you don't it will get worse an it will cost you a hole lot more.
2006-12-30 08:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to do is PRAY. Then speak with the brother or sister you are studying with. They can help you look to the scriptures for guidance. Also, if your husband respects them, they might be able to help him with everything he's got going on.
Between the new marriage and possible new lifestyle of being Witnesses. He probably just feels alot of pressure.
2006-12-30 17:50:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? Do you want to be married to a guy who is going to "hook up" with another woman? This sounds terrible to me. You didn't mess up, your husband has. He should put you first. It doesn't sound like much of a marriage to me. I have been married for 18 yrs and would never expect my husband to horse around and tolerate it. Come on woman you deserve better.
2006-12-30 08:44:07 · answer #5 · answered by angel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, you didn't have to throw the hanger to him. That was probably an accident. But to give you credit, you husband shouldn't be with the friend that is hooking him up with a daughter!
2006-12-30 08:41:07 · answer #6 · answered by Webballs 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're both messing things up.
Please get help. I don't know what resources there is with the Jehovah's Wittnesses, but look into it. Also consider professional marriage counseling.
2006-12-30 08:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Bad Day 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, All I can say is that you are not in a good place with the JW's. Study a faithful Bible and see that Jesus is indeed God and the true Christ indeed can help those who come to Him in faith.
Hope things work out for you.
2006-12-30 08:42:07 · answer #8 · answered by beek 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with natesgirlks.
You should definitely pray on the matter and talk to the person studying with you. You might also be able to find an article at www.watchtower.org
2006-12-31 05:58:15 · answer #9 · answered by misskitty593 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's getting calls from other women and you're throwing things at him, get it over with and separate/divorce. There is no sense staying together; you're clearly not able to maintain a stable relationship. If you can't keep from abusing each other for one month you're not going to get any better over 20 years.
2006-12-30 08:40:47 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋