My ex bf and I have been on and off for a year. This is both our 1st relationship and we are both immature. He loved me alot in the 1st 6 months then i started to love him a lot after that. But once he senses that i wanna make this my last relationship and just wanna be with him he kinda changed. He broke up with me 3 times and took me 4 granted in that i always begged my way back to him. He broke up with me again 2 weeks ago, he doesnt know what he wants b/c everything seems too easy for him. So this time i stopped begging and didnt do anything to save this relationship. I was told that a friend and her bf were on and off for 3 years and everytime she tried to make it work until the last time she's finally tired of it and didnt do anything.2 months later her bf came back and didnt take her 4 granted any more. So this is what i'm doing right now i just need some hope that this will work. I mean, he doesnt wanna see others(i believe him) and there's no cheating,lying,drugs,alcolism,etc.
2006-12-30 08:36:38 · 4 answers · asked by little asian gal in cresent city 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am torn on this question. I too was once in an on again, off again relationship for two years. But my circumstances were way different and I'm pretty sure I'm older than you (so it's a different stage in life as well). My ex and I were great when we initially got together, then I was more into us for a long time. We were both into cocaine and the drug was more to him than I was. Once I quit and started being hard on him, he would change for a little while, but then start being a s*head again. So I cheated on him. Kind of a wake up call. And I told him about it right away. And it did wake him up, but the liberation of it all made me start to have more balls in the relationship and we spent the rest of it with him (off drugs by the way) very in love, but not willing to be responsible. He never worked or helped with bills. After two years of dealing with a guy who was almost 30 and still living with his mom (when he wasn't staying with me), I gave up. Some relationships just won't work. Relationships ARE WORK, but it shouldn't be a STRUGGLE to keep one alive! Sometimes it is just better for everyone to let go.
2006-12-30 08:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say this is both of your 1st relationship and that you are both immature. I don't know how old y'all are but I'd say go your separate ways...the constant breaking up is because you aren't a good match, you aren't seeking the same things, and neither of you have had enough relationship experience to know what you want out of it or who may be a good partner for you...don't stop at the first person you ever date...try others on for size so when you make a choice, you'll feel more satisfied that you chose the right one for you at the time...
2006-12-30 08:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She became 2 timing. Andrew wasn't her ex, he became her modern-day boyfriend, as have been you. The statuses wouldn't have been disregarded, and the image became no longer previous. Gee could no longer you tell from her hair, makeup, in step with threat outfits? That it became modern-day. interior the tip she chosen him. in step with threat they get on extra helpful, in step with threat she respects him extra (as you probably did enable her manage you like a door mat, yet i think of that became via being naive), in step with threat he lives nearer... yet for despite reason, she 2 timed you the two, to be sure who she needed, took a protracted time taking her time to bypass away you, and now has and is with Andrew completely. besides the undeniable fact that i does no longer rule out her dishonest on him down the line, because it style of feels to be the kind of person she is. So don't experience too jealous of him! sure i will comprehend you're harm, and you're able to desire to experience completely performed. To be common, i think of Andrew became probable performed too. He became texting you telling you to stay faraway from her, as though he became her in basic terms boyfriend, and you have been in basic terms some guy hassling her. I doubt he had any concept you 2 have been in a dedicated relationship, as nicely as him and her. And is she mad at you considering the fact which you acquire mad at her? I doubt it. I wager she wanted you acquire mad at her extra and had extra of a back bone, quite than believing all of her very obvious lies! You enable her wreck out with it! no longer which you're in charge. So extra for him. Yeah he gets the girl, yet seem at it this style... you're out of a relationship with somebody who lied to you, cheated on you, 2 timed you... And he's caught along with her because of the fact he's oblivious. What a mug! you have the top hand my pal! I have been given performed with the aid of an ex too. He cheated on me and dealt with me like crap. i became left feeling completely valueless. yet, I moved on, I have been given over it (even however you experience such as you on no account will) and that i'm extra suitable now. I now comprehend what i do no longer desire from a relationship (besides the undeniable fact that some issues are obvious) and that i wont make the comparable errors. i've got met somebody extra helpful and warmer lol, and am chuffed back. bypass out, see acquaintances, shop busy, circulate on, ignore this ****!
2016-11-25 01:25:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never heard of that
2006-12-30 08:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋