I mean, I can understand how it wouldn't work as a way of life, but, if someone consistently and purposely hurts you, undermines you, lies about you? Spreads false rumors? Damages your property? Takes pleasure in causing you trouble? I mean, is there EVER a situation where a little retribution is fitting?
2006-12-30 08:25:54 · 26 answers · asked by justwingit 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Retribution and self-defense/loss recovery are two different things.
Yes, contact the police. File restraining orders. Report their behavior to other appropiate athorities dependant on age i.e parents or principals if school age. Employer if you work together. etc. You could even gather evidence appropiate to sue for dammages including any cost associated with needing to relocated to get away form the person.
No, retaliation is not acceptable including making unsolicited negative statements about the person even if absolutely true.
In general people behave the way you described for one or more of three reasons: to get attention (negative or positive, from you or a peer/superior that encourages such behavior), out of fear that you or your beliefs are threatening (generally unfounded parinoid perceptions i.e. hate crimes against gays due to fear that their existence is causing straights harm. THey could be founded if your action or participation has disrupted their life such as neighborhood covenents regarding lawn care etc.), and/or retaliation for real or percieved wrongs you ahve committed toward them.
The Bible is clear that before you commune wiht God (make an offering) you must first go to anyone that has argument against you (not necessiarly you have argument against them) and attempt to make ammends including bringing a unbiased third party to assist reconciliation.
2006-12-30 08:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by mike g 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't believe there's a place for revenge. Only for fitting justice. When a punishment is going beyond payment for a crime, it is then revenge.
Society and individuals have to choose what standards they will aspire to, regardless of religion or not. To me, barbaric standards include revenge. Higher standards seek for the fairest justice possible.
There's no payment, no revenge you can take that will bring back a dead loved one. Nothing. Revenge is always cold, lonely and empty. There might be the slightest of satisfaction for a fleeting moment, then like a hit of crack that goes so fast, it's all gone, leaving you cold, lonely and hating yourself. Of course, I speak of revenge for dire crime perhaps.
Someone spreading false rumours deserves the justice of being simply exposed. Having their deliberate actions exposed. If they damage property, they should have to make it good again. If they take pleasure in causing you trouble, how would revenge help? It would fuel the fire. They have to be stopped, and then you have to find out why they take this pleasure. Even insane people have some belief, some reason(s). Discover these, and you might be able to get real justice and perhaps influence for the better two peoples lives.
Always seek for the higher value of justice where possible. Think for yourself, and step away from the emotions before decision time.
2006-12-30 08:32:34 · answer #2 · answered by karnautrahl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Revenge only istigates the hatred & i feel allows confirmation on the other end that they have truly hurt you. If the person is sincerely rebelling against u in some way, retaliate the appropriate way, by taking it up with the law. They will suffer the reprocussions the hard & legit way. But contributing 2 the situation thru revenge, as tempting as it can be at times, only adds fuel 2 the fire, keeps the battle going, & can even make u a bitter person
2006-12-30 08:29:22 · answer #3 · answered by Trinity 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think one should actively pursue revenge. If it's always the same person attacking, there is more to the story. What drives the person to victimize? Why is he or she so envious of the other's life? I find agressors are more pitable and human at second (or third, or fourth) look. Your revenge is being happy, while they squander their lives on petty jealousies. Their circle of friends gets smaller as the people around them see how ridiculous their goals are. They confine themselves to small, base worlds, and are locked into a tiny cycle of self-loathing and rage. You have every joy to look forward to, every sunny day. That's adequate retribution, don't you think? The sweetest revenge is simply living well.
2006-12-30 08:45:01 · answer #4 · answered by Medusa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the assumption at the back of an act , is what provides meaning to that act . consequently, revenge can by no skill be acceptable as you are able to nevertheless by no skill understand all the myriad innovations thatcontinual somebody else ! Revenge is consequently , suited left to an more advantageous mind that's omniscient .
2016-10-28 18:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romans 12:19.
2006-12-30 09:52:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In many faiths there is a spiritual law that if you do evil, then evil will come back to you. If you have a person who is tormenting you, first you must recognize the weaknesses in yourself that has attracted this person. Think of this step as a class for you to take to discover who you are. Once you know this then all of the wrong the other person is causing is their own fault (it no longer is co-created with you). At this point they could be made to feel all the pain they have caused. Be careful with this. Eventually we see that all our adversaries are really ourselves.
2006-12-30 08:34:31 · answer #7 · answered by Militia-Angel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, absolutely. But I would call it 'taking care of a problem'-not revenge. There is a difference in how one Christian should deal with another Christian and how they would deal with a non-Christian.
With a non-Christian you should confront them in a "nice "way and inform then that they are doing wrong. If that does not work, then you call the authorities and handle it through the law.
With a Christian you confront them the first time. If that does not work, then you take one or two witnesses along and confront them again. If that does not work, then you take the issue to the church and turn it over to them. If the other person belongs to another church, then your pastor contacts their pastor. If their pastor can not handle the problem you take it to the law.
2006-12-30 08:34:52 · answer #8 · answered by DATA DROID 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Revenge and retaliation mean to respond in kind; therefore, if what someone did to you is wrong according to your moral code, than doing it to them is just as wrong (perhaps worse). Justice is the appropriate response.
2006-12-30 08:32:57 · answer #9 · answered by dhcasti 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not revenge, but you can get justice.. You don't have to have someone who being a brat or a bully, give you a bad name.. But, in some cases just turning around and walk away is most better way to deal with someone.. I had to deal with people all my life, who spat on me, threw their lunch at me, threw their garbage at me and punch me in my chest to where it hurt the whole day..
Tell you what, it didn't make me feel good, always looking over my shoulders.. But, in stead of going over there and punch their lights out.. I did the right thing, looked at them, then walked away.. I didn't feel like it's the right thing to do, go pick a fight with them, walking away from it was better.. No one got hurt that day, I choose to forgive them and go on my way..
Not to many people do that anymore, not in to days world.. Everyone now, if you touch me, you get two black eyes and a busted up lip.. And some time worse, they get killed.. Everybody fighting everyone, no time to look at their consequences of their actions. You get in trouble just to look at someone at the wrong time, sometime any time, and then you got troubles.. Most of the time your looking down the barrel of a gun.. People not days are just to sensative and are looking for trouble..
I think revenge is wrong and everyone like taking things into their own hands.. If you have a problem with some one,(depeands what it is) first off all, try to resolve it your self, if that don't work.. Get someone who is stronger to go with you, then try to resolve it again.. If that don't help, take him to court, and if that don't resolve it.. Call the police, if that don't get them to stop.. Then have them arested..
Because sometimes it takes force to get someone to stop..
Try the most friendliest way first, and if not proceed to the more forcefull way..
2006-12-30 08:57:32 · answer #10 · answered by myst_v_the_fog_buster 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋