he always put me down and made me feel bad about myself for no reason,but i miss and still love him
2006-12-30 08:21:10 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl!!! I went through that same sht with my ex. When I met her she had a 3 year old son whom I helped raised until he was 8. In the time we were dating I went above and beyond the 110% everyday to make both of them happy and to help her out with her son. Ex. taking him to and from daycare, to and from kinder, to and from 1st grade, doing homework with him, taking him to his sports like swimming and softball, playing with him in the yard, giving him bathes every night and playing with him by the tub, and the list goes on. I ended up to be the "father figure".
When she broke up with me my ex just treated me like crap just to make herself feel good. And on top of that she made up a bunch of lies and accusations just to get out.AAAANNNNDDD on top of that her best friend told her to break up with me.
Pretty rotten! after everything I have done for her.
I'm still hurting. But I'm so glad that there are people in this world like you and me that will go above and beyond for others to make them happy.
MJ
2006-12-30 08:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Jeff - It is what it is ☺ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have a bit of self respect.
Yes, you maybe (think you) love him but he obviously doesn't love you so why waste your time crying over spilt milk. Would you have been happy to stay with him for the rest of your life when he "always put (you) down and made (you) feel bad about myself for no reason"?
I doubt it.
When you find the right person you'll look back and laugh at how silly you're being. Trust me. I don't mean to sound cruel.
2006-12-30 08:25:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I have learned from experience that the more you give to a guy, the less you often get in return. It is all about balance. If you are too nice to a guy and give them everything they want, they get bored. You just have to learn how to make time for yourself and your friends so that he will notice how full your life is without him. When a guy knows that you don't need him, he becomes intoxicated in wanting you to want him again. The hardest thing to do is not anser that phone when he calls. But trust me, a few times being too busy for him and he will be begging for your attention again!
2006-12-30 08:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by cinarella 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just so selfish and self centered, if he treated you so bad then you are better of without him, move on with your life and find someone better who won't put you down or make you feel bad
2006-12-30 08:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on, there is someone out there who don't enjoy degrading a woman, do you really love him or are you just afraid of being alone and feel you won't be able to find someone else. Keep you head up high and don't settle for this type of abuse from any one.
2006-12-30 08:23:45 · answer #5 · answered by blueigurl34 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know if you broke up with him or he broke up with you but i will give you a possible answer for the different situation.
you broke-up with him: he feels resentment for the fact that you broke up with him. also, he hates that you broke out of the relationship where he was in control and made you feel like nothing. and you hurt him if he truely loved you.
he broke up with you: well, there is no reason. accept he isnt mature about it. maybe he felt like you deserved better and is mean because he wasnt your one.
surround yourself with friends.
keep busy.
cry and get up and get out there with people you love.
dont jump into the dating ring until your truely ready.
and tell him how you feel. then deal with what he has to say. and walk away.
2006-12-30 08:38:47 · answer #6 · answered by Niko 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Got great news for you Sweetie...now listen up and listen up good ok??? He did this and is ONLY doing this to make HIMSELF feel better. It has NOTHING to do with YOU!!! Ok???? Its a bully move and you do NOT need that in your life. I know you are hurting and trust me..it does get better in time!!! Keep yourself busy and you will find as each day goes by..the pain lessens. You are beautiful and worthy and NO MAN can't say otherwise!!! Hugs!
2006-12-30 08:25:27 · answer #7 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to stick up for yourself more, hun. I've never taken any crap from guys - it's desperate and submissive girls that have given them their egos, so its up to you as an independent and confident girl to put them in their place - that doesn't mean be rude to them, it just means don't take any crap and get them to treat you equally.
The guys who are worth your time will respect your dignity and confidence. You sound quite masochistic to me (dno if I spelt dat right but wateva lol) even though to some degree you know its wrong. It will take some time and confidence building to change, but just believe in yourself and then find someone better to be with!
Good luck sweetie x
2006-12-30 10:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you miss him or do you miss the compainionship?? Think about that one.
He's obviously got some deep rooted issues he needs to workout. Most men who put down their girlfriends or wives are just acting out feelings they have about them.
2006-12-30 08:24:15 · answer #9 · answered by xtrusoldierx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He treated you horrid because he was a jackass.
You miss & still love him because you, too, are a jackass.
Get over him, learn to respect yourself, and you'll lose the "jackass" moniker.
2006-12-30 08:24:11 · answer #10 · answered by My Evil Twin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋