I don't care who you are, every little kid is guilty of this, whether they knew what they were doing or not. Does anyone else have any ideas?
2006-12-30 08:20:50 · 30 answers · asked by Michelle B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Usually when kids do stupid stuff its because they werent thinking chances are if they decided to dye the cat they didnt plan it through in advance. So yes there answer would legitimatley be i dunno
2006-12-30 08:45:22 · answer #1 · answered by nobody 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Same reasons adults do. Confronting anyone with "Why did you do that?" automatically brings up a sense of shame and anxiety. We all do stupid things; this is not just common to kids. Some kids really don't know. Others are frightened of the consequences. Try changing your tone and giving your child more leeway in his response like "Do you understand why Mom/Dad is disappointed?", or "What do you think you did to upset me?' These are much more leading questions. You'd be shocked at what children will say when they feel understood and are not put in a threatening situation. Have him/her clean up the mess with you, depending on the situation, or talk to him on his level (eye-to-eye, kneeling). Let the child know you love him and would never want him to put himself in danger. This will teach him empathy and compassion. The disappointment in your voice will be enough when he misbehaves. Thorougly praise all positive behavior and give as little attention as possible to the negative. Like all of us, kids just want to please. If you pay attention to them at their best, they will want to be that way most of the time (we all have our days!).
If confronted with a "Why did you do that" I would more than likely mumble "I dunno" as well - and I'm 32! Children are not really doing "stupid" things - they just often don't understand the 'why' rationale. Telling them it's "stupid" isn't going to do the trick either. Remember that the response is most often either fear or shame-based. I think the question is torture. Many kids know they have done something wrong and are bewildered by the question of 'why'. Too much to handle.
Good luck and happy New Year!
2006-12-30 10:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by Me, Thrice-Baked 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In most cases they do not a reason that we as adults would fine acceptable.I as the proud mom of 2 can say that there are three people that I would just love to get my hands on and strangle
I don't know
It wasn't me
and He did it.
They always seem to be around when ever anything gets broken drawn on, wet dirty or comlpeaty trashed.
Man I tell you if I could have just 3 second with those little buggers I'd.. well I 'm sure all mothers know what I would do.! LOL
2006-12-30 11:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by blue_eyed_brat78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that was my famous phrase when iw as little. I think because they get frightened of a pnishment, saying i don't know means, i didn't know what i was doing so don't spank me, when i was little i thought that would work for me, and it did till i was 5 lol
I haven't had that yet, my girl is only 2 and we know she knows what she did, like today, she took a special teddy i have and put it in the dogs water bowl and then dumped all the remaining water all over the pantry floor - lovely! I asked her why she did it, what was she thinking (and by the way i was preparing lunch before someone says neglect!) and she looked at me with these huge sorrowful eyes and low trembly sowwwy lol how can you be mad at that really!?!
2006-12-30 08:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by Kat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mine is the worst lol. whilst i replaced into little, my dad taught me to slam my head against the door till now eating. So each time till now dinner, i'd walk as much as the front door, and slam my head against it and then walk returned to the table like no longer something got here approximately. yet another element replaced into we've been at this restraint and that i desperate to sing. the main refrain of the music I sang replaced into "intercourse on the sea coast!" so I sang that out loud at a restraunt. Fail.
2016-12-15 11:46:55 · answer #5 · answered by moncalieri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say 'I dunno' because they don't know. This goes on clear up to teen years. It's because the brain is not fully developed and some rational thinking hasn't been developed as well. That's why when you deal with something similar with say 21+ they have reasoning behind what they did. It doesn't matter how 'mature' or 'advance' you think the child is. They still have serious growth going on in their brains.
2006-12-30 08:32:59 · answer #6 · answered by Zabe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I asked my 6 year old son why he got in trouble at school the other day. He said '' I forgot" I said '' Let me get my belt and see if it helps you remember" He said " Oh, I remember now" He hasnt had a spanking in almost 2 years, but he knows that its still an option if he lies or steals something.
2006-12-31 03:51:00 · answer #7 · answered by MIKE L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Little kids are very impulsive...they do things without thinking them through..thats how they learn. So when you ask them why they do things they probably really dont know. Try re-phrasing the question, like "what do you think you did that made mommy un-happy?" It will help them learn from their mistakes
2006-12-30 09:51:18 · answer #8 · answered by missbee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they don't know why? I know plenty of adults who say the same thing.
When a child is afraid of consequences..I would imagine that they aren't able to come up with a reasonable answer immediately.
And...why would you ask why they did it? Again, I know a lot of adults who wouldn't be able to answer that with out some thought before answering.
2006-12-30 08:31:12 · answer #9 · answered by Steph 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hello, they say "i dunno" cuz they either don't know what exactly they did (they don't know what you want them to say) or bcuz they feel if they dunno, then they aren't AS guilty as if they did know. i'm not sure the age of your kids, but i have 3 ( 2yo, 4yo, & 9yo) and i run a business with 75+ "big kids" (they might as well be toddlers...lol), anyways, i have learned how to deal with my adults at work by raising my kids. Few tips:communicate very clearly, keep it simple stupid for them, be consistent, set a few house rules (ex be nice, clean up, etc) be consistent with reward and discpline, make sure kids understand your conversations, don't over-react) Make sure they understand the pos and neg results of their actions, and encourage them to make the right decision, if they make the wrong one, give them fair and consitent discpline (if you said time out is result, the no exceptions, they go to time out) Hopefully they will learn to make the right decisions, and if they make a wrong decision, they will understand they WILL take accountability for their own actions.
2006-12-30 17:21:35 · answer #10 · answered by kofeeandkreme 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They very well know the answer however they are going to say they dont know when you ask them in the least amount of anger, kids get scared so they tell you that they dont know just to keep you from getting mad at the truth
2006-12-30 10:44:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋