She's been at their home since Thursday. She just called me stating she wants to go home. I can't pick her up because I just put my car in the shop. Without ya'll knowing anything personal about us, should I feel guilty about wanting her to stay there until school starts January 3rd?
2006-12-30 08:07:37 · 14 answers · asked by Me 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Oh! I asked her why, and she only stated "because. I want to be by you."
2006-12-30 08:52:40 · update #1
Don't feel guilty but more importanly, be honest. Tell her about the car and remind her that she does not get to see her father often. Tell her that 6 years old is starting to get to be a big girl and that she would be helping mommy and daddy would like to see her for a few more days. If you are not honest with her, she will blame herself and think you don't want her. This way she won't feel bad about herself and if she can get past her own wants she can feel good that she is doing something good for both you and her father.
2006-12-30 08:19:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's just a little home sick is all. Since you know her best and you think nothing bad is going on, let her stay. At 6 she's old enough to understand things. Explain to her that your car is in the shop and you can't come get her right now. Tell her the truth. Try and get her mind on her dad and grandmother. Ask her what kinds of things she's been doing with them and what other kinds of things that they have planned to do. I know when I was little, I went to spend some time with my aunt and cousins. In 3 days, I was homesick and ready to come home. Once I talked to my mom on the phone, and she asked me all about the things I had been doing, I was ok. I hope that this helps.
2006-12-30 09:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly no, everyone needs a break and as long as you feel she's safe let her stay she needs time with her father and grandmother. And mama you need a break. But if you feel guilty and you think you should go and get her go get her then. Only you know what to do you are a mother you have that instinct. I would personally say as long as you feel she's safe let her stay! I hope I helped.
2006-12-30 08:14:14 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Lise 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me, personally, I would call her and ask her why she doesnt want to be there. (since we dont really know the situation its really hard to answer) If its just 'to come home' and nothing 'seriously' wrong is going on, then i think she should stay. Daddy needs time with child too. Now if theres stuff going on that she doesnt need to be around.. thats a different story and i would be getting my child ASAP.
2006-12-30 08:43:26 · answer #4 · answered by alysza81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked why or spoken to the ex and family? Find out why she wants to come home then make the decision. Sticky place to be. My daughter has the same type of set up and sometimes my granddaughter comes home and sometimes she has to stay. Good luck
2006-12-30 08:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by babycakesmommy1952 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want not tell her the completed actuality till she is older. you would be able to easily tell her that daddy is ill and is getting help. He can not come homestead till he's cured. ideal now it may be perplexing for her to comprehend dependancy to drugs or alcohol. If she asks some years from now and you experience it's time to tell he total actuality, she would desire to comprehend. additionally think approximately how lots of him would desire to she remember if he left while she became basically 3 years previous.
2016-10-19 05:55:13 · answer #6 · answered by benner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were it me, and I'm NOT trying to make you feel guilty, I would rather have my child with me than anywhere else. Could a friend help you to pick-up your daughter? Or a taxi?
2006-12-30 08:16:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't feel bad, but as a child with separated parents, you should try to respect her wishes. i remember when i was young (i am 20 now), i used to get to a point where i was just ready to be home again. i felt out of place with my father. she has spent some time with him. if she really wants to be home, i'd try to find a way for her to be home.
2006-12-30 08:16:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When did you drop her off? You should pick her up as soon as your car gets fixed. It might really be hard for her to be seperated from you especially if you 2 R close.
2006-12-30 09:18:17 · answer #9 · answered by nobody 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no matter what you do you'll feel guilty. i swear it's estrogen based. it comes with being a mom. she is probably homesick and she has every right to be.thats only normal.do your best to reassure her that you'll see her on the third. talk to her each day and enjoy the quiet while you have the chance. i know it's easier said than done.
2006-12-30 08:18:52 · answer #10 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋