i have been with my guy for two years now...i do love him dearly, BUT!!!, i am almost to my breaking point, he spends almost his every waking moment with his friends, whom i will say, i dislike terribly, they are troublemakers, love it when my guy and i argue etc etc...what would YOU do??
2006-12-30 08:02:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would leave him...family first! If you ♥ him sweetie, you'd leave him. It can be a tough world out there, but if he put his buddies first, and they don't enjoy it when you two are together, and THESE are the type of guys he hangs out with...what do you think I am going to say...leave him! Apprently he likes spending time with his buddies more, puts you last and if you can't stand it, dump him! He puts THEM first, and they're talking about you, laughing when you two fight. Leave him! You deserve better! A man should put his lady first, and in your case,your guy isn't!
This is the influence he is hanging around with.
Sure, don't leave him this second! Talk to him about how you feel, he'll feel guilty. Yet he probably still will put THEM first!! Men....*sigh*! No worries! Sure you love him, but think, are you happy? Is this what makes you happy? Think for yourself for a minute or two...! Good luck! Here to Help!
2006-12-30 08:09:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on both parties. You love this man a lot that is why it hurts you that he spends time with the guys. The deeper you love someone, the more pain that person can cause because they are closer to your heart. I'm sure you've all ready talked to your man about this situation. But if you haven't, you need to explain to him that you love him, and you want him to spend his time with you or at least with other friends that don't cause this rift in your relationship. You need to give it some time for you guys to talk about. Give him time to think about it, but while he's thinking you need to weigh how happy his love makes you against the amount of pain this relationship is causeing you. If the two of you don't resolve this, you need to decide if the love you share is worth the pain caused. If it's worth it by all means stay with him and let this difference go, but if it's not worth it you may want to move on.
2006-12-30 16:16:47 · answer #2 · answered by Ellie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of us actually prefer some space. I'd be happier with a guy who has an outside life than one who is clingy. I guess a lot of women like to do everything they can with their SO. I am not one of them. But it sounds like he's not really into you. If they guy spends more than 70% of his time with his friends and without you, he's obviously not seeing you as a significant other.
2006-12-30 17:19:31 · answer #3 · answered by filia_san 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i know exactly how u feel except i don't hate his friends but listen my husband got an xbox 360 for christmas from his mom right and 3 of his friends have been at my house for 6 days they haven;t left they have been staying up night after night playing it online and i also have a 2 yr old son i am 22 he is 21 al li have to say is u need to make sure he knows how u feel about the situation and he he acts like he don't care then he need to think to yourself how much u love him and much u r willing to put up with sometimes i think if u can't beat join them and maybe u might have fun??? never know
2006-12-30 16:08:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have to weigh the good vs bad
is it worth having all of this stress and frustration just so he can hang out with his guys?
you cant deprive him of that, not only is it not fair but im guessing he wont ditch them for you either...
do you love him enough to put up with this kind of emotional baggage?
sometimes, you just have to walk away... when you have nothing left to give without getting anything in return
there IS someone out there that would love you love you, and show you the attention and respect that you desevere, maybe you should find him... its hard but sometimes its just the only way
2006-12-30 16:12:21 · answer #5 · answered by ashkro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you need to talk it out without agruing and have him spend more time with you. When he is with his freinds chill with your freinds. If he doesn't give you the time you deserve after you have talked about it he is prolly not for you.
2006-12-30 16:17:27 · answer #6 · answered by Kelsey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him to spend more time with you. Tell him it is fine to habg out with friends, but you need some attention too. He won't get it if you just hint around at it.
2006-12-30 16:06:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it and see if we could work it out. If not I'd leave him because he's obviously got his priorities mixed up...
2006-12-30 16:06:15 · answer #8 · answered by Mille_D-Gurl08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk talk talk
tell him how you feel
communication is the key to a strong relationship
2006-12-30 16:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has sexually desires your not fulfilling and they are .I do not care if they say no, they are for filling HER deep desires
end of story
2006-12-30 16:26:58 · answer #10 · answered by david s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋