I told my bf "If someone told me they love me, I won't believe them" Is that why he hasn't told me?
My boyfriend wants us to have a baby, but has never told me he loves me, do you think because I told him that, he doesn't wanna tell me he loves me?
I just have a hard time trusting people to be honest, I can't fathom how someone could have strong genuine feelings for ME. So that's why I can't believe it. I've never told him I love him, although I do, can't bring myself to say it!
2006-12-30 08:01:01 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its natural to be scared of being hurt or having low self esteem, not thinking someone could love you...too good to be true, even. since you dropped the bomb in the first place with that comment, you could always be the first person to clear it up and tell him that you love him. it would be a shame if the two of you let your fear come in between you. i think you should tell him you love him and/or tell him you take that comment back and see if he says "I love you" right away...and im guessing he does since he wants you to be the mother of his child!
2006-12-30 08:05:05 · answer #1 · answered by Mackenzie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a baby is not a toy and it's not a dog that you can get rid of or toss aside when you get bored. It is a life altering decision. It will tie you down for 18 years, you will be responsible for feeding, clothing, providing shelter. Babies are expensive and they are time consuming. They are sleepless nights and then going to work anyway the next morning. They get sick and need medical care and they need 24 hour per day care. You literally hold another human beings life in your hand. After a baby, your life will never be the same. The person you are now will be gone. As a parent you will have a whole new life. You will no longer come first. Your child will come first. If there's only food for one, you must feed your child. If you can afford new clothes for one person, you have to go without and buy clothes for your child. And you need a solid relationship with the father because once you become parents, he will be in your life forever, married or not. This is not a decision you make lightly. Please get some professional counseling, both of you, before you make a decision like this. Also, if he hasn't said he loves you, he doesn't. What you said would not alter that.
2006-12-30 16:12:03 · answer #2 · answered by eydieville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously trying to protect yourself from heartache, but shitt girl, you can't say something like that! Love is about taking a swan dive into the waters and allowing things to come as they are. You ******* up by saying that. You need to see that you are worthy of being loved, that you as a person deserve to be adored. Find self worth and you will find your answer.
2006-12-30 16:05:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him that you arent ready for a baby till you both have the same feelings for each other. Maybe you should tell him that you love him. Even if it is tough, just try your hardest to do it.
2006-12-30 16:06:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you souldnt have said that because that would keep him from telling how he really feels. I suspect that if he wants to have a baby with you then he really does love you. And be confident of course people could have feelings for you and he is still with you so that should tell you somthing. if you want him to tell you i suggest you tell him how you really feel first.
Best of luck
2006-12-30 16:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by gotansas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll know when you want to say I love you- it's when you do! You should. People remember things, and you should just go to him and correct yourself, "If YOU told me that you loved me, I would believe you." But don't pressure him into saying something he might not mean, give him a choice. "I know I love you, you don't have to love me back, but I wanted you to know." If he doesn't love you back though, you should wait on children...
2006-12-30 16:08:34 · answer #6 · answered by T. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you sure as heck should not be having a baby. Theres no relationship without love. You both need help.
2006-12-30 16:03:01 · answer #7 · answered by Bonzai Betty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have issues, so for God's sake, don't bring a baby into this world until you have worked out your problems.
2006-12-30 16:04:03 · answer #8 · answered by Creampoof737 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends how he took it. If he took seriously then ya your in for a long wait. If you want you can tell him first, maybe that will break the ice.
2006-12-30 16:08:00 · answer #9 · answered by Vader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him you love him and let him respond id wait to have a baby though until you are sure of your feelings...
2006-12-30 16:05:22 · answer #10 · answered by upyafartpipe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋