It is a bad thing if he uses it to try to control you or cut you off from people you like.
2006-12-30 07:56:04
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answer #1
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answered by Dovahkiin 7
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At the beginning of a relationship, an abuser will always say the jealousy is a sign of love. He/she may question you about whom you have spoken to or seen during the day, may accuse you of flirting, or be jealous of time you spend with family, friends, children or hobbies which do not include him/her. As the jealousy progresses, he/she may call you frequently during the day or drop by unexpectedly. He may be unhappy about or refuse to let you work for fear you'll meet someone else, check the car mileage or ask friends to keep an eye on you. Jealousy is not proof of love, it is a sign of insecurity and possessiveness.
Controlling Behaviour
Controlling behaviour is often disguised or excused as concern. Concern for your safety, your emotional or mental health, the need to use your time well, or to make sensible decisions. Your abuser may be angry or upset if you are 'late' coming back from work, shopping, visiting friends, etc., even if you told him/her you would be later back than usual. Your abuser may question you closely about where you were, whom you spoke to, the content of every conversation you held, or why you did something he/she was not involved in. As this behaviour gets worse, you may not be allowed to make personal decisions about the house, clothing, going to church or how you spend your time or money or even make you ask for permission to leave the house or room. Alternately, he/she may theoretically allow you your own decisions, but penalise you for making the wrong ones. Concern for our loved ones to a certain extent is normal - trying to control their every move is not.
Quick Involvement
Many victims of abuse dated or knew their abuser for less than six months before they were engaged or living together. The abuser will often claim 'love at first sight', that you are 'made for each other', or that you are the only person whom he could ever talk to so openly, feel so at home with, could understand him so well. He/she may tell you that they have never loved anyone so much or felt so loved by anyone so much before, when you have really only known each other for a short amount of time. He/she needs someone desperately, and will pressure you to commit to him/her or make love before you feel the relationship has reached 'that stage'. He/she may also make you feel guilty for not committing yourself to him/her.
2006-12-30 16:25:18
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answered by ? 2
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Hmm when I get jealous I:
Act like it doesnt bother me at all.
Brush it off like its nothing.
When talking to her on the phone or sonthing, I won't say much.
Be all pisy.
Not say much when around her.
You can tell like, I wont say much and they usly ask me whats wrong and ill be like, nothing or i dont feel good.
Try to get her jealous by talking to somone else.
You know, just acting different than I usally do, witch is talkative, funny, and allways playing around.
If they make a comment like they love me, ill be like yeah. or whatever.
Those are just some things I do... i guess each boy is different tho. They might say they dont get jealous, but deep down all males get jealous if they like you lol.
Hope I helped a little lol...
2006-12-30 16:03:29
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answered by Alan 3
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Some red flags are not giving you space, angry when you spend time with friends or family. Does not want you to talk on the phone. Choosing what you should wear. Bad things to say about your friends. A bit of Jealousy is good in small doses.
2006-12-30 15:59:08
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answered by shoes_717 4
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If has relay bad jealous he would ask you were are you going every five minutes.Also with what girlfriend ,what time are you going to get back.If your not back at that same time he told you to be back.I can go on for ever baby girl.That would be very bad relationship for you and him.You might want to have a talk with him and maybe a friend for support.good luck sweetie.
2006-12-30 17:16:17
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answer #5
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answered by Anonymous
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* Acts rude
* Tries to talk to another girl in front of you
*Tries to ignore you
*Talks about some other girl with you
*Keeps looking at you annyoed
*Doesnt want to talk to you
and there is a lot more but you basicly get the idea. Guys easily get jealous :)
2006-12-30 15:57:03
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answered by Boss 6
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Jealousy can destroy so be careful about what you see in him. On the other hand it can be light-hearted just to make a point that you want to show someone you like them. If there is any anger involved dump that one quickly!
2006-12-30 15:56:48
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answered by Anonymous
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some signs are he gets angry when you talk to other guys or blames you if somethiung goes wrong it is not bad as long as he is not absusive and it hurts the relationship if he is doing it then get out of the relastionship
2006-12-30 15:59:03
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answered by bell 4
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well being jealous is not so bad you know
2006-12-30 15:56:03
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answered by HI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4
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1.if he kisses you more then usial or comes over more than usial or something more that you like of what he does
2006-12-30 15:56:25
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answered by Julie 3
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