every saturday my bf sees me and when its time for him to go home,cause he lives 1 hour 15 mina way i get so upset and i just cry and get depressed.soemtimes ill blank him for 10 min.its not hes fault but i get so upset and cant deal with him going and been away from me.hes about to go know and i allready feel so depressed.i dunno if ill see him next week cause hes has important exams all wek and ened to do revison on the weekend.i cant stop feeling the way i do when he goes after seeing me i duno how to stop.
like just now when he left i felt sad and so depressed i just didnt speak to him.i dunno whats up with me cause its gets worst sometimes
2006-12-30 07:53:09 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need professional help.. sounds like you are emotionally dependent upon him and it is not right.. he doesn't even live that far away.
what did you do before him??
you need some security within yourself.. what are your fears about him leaving you for the week?? try to learn some self sufficiency... go out on your own, get your own friends, have a life outside of your boyfriend so you dont miss him so inappropriately.
2006-12-30 07:58:22 · answer #1 · answered by the queen is here 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a boyfriend like this - and I finished with him. You need to relax a bit (sorry if that sounds harsh) but when he leaves its not the end of the world is it? you can still contact him throughout the week. I'm in a similar situation and it is SO HARD so I know how you feel ok? But if they see you're unhappy they won't wanna see you so they don't have to leave you and make you unhappy again. Why should you spoil his evening - just make the most of the time you have together and give him a big kiss so he thinks about you for ages after :)
2006-12-30 07:59:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the exact same thing when my bf leaves. he left about tea time and i always get teary. He lives 45 mins away. I have been with him a year, and still happens! How long have you been with him? I think you just reall really like him and cant stand it when he goes, theres no other reason really. Hopefully he will understand your feelings towards him. Just talk to him and explain how you feel and that you dont mean to get "distant" when he goes. You never know he might have a little cry when he gets back too! :) all the best
2006-12-30 07:56:48 · answer #3 · answered by ms_jaffa_cake 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry, he'll dump you very soon. No man/boy put up with that crap for long. When you grow up and stop being so "high maintenance" you may get a bloke to stick around for a while longer.
In the mean time, learn English, it's a skill you can use throughout your life!
2006-12-30 07:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is a natural feeling. This may or may not be love but it is natural to feel sad or a little low when you disconnect from someone who's so close to you.
I can only advise you to... stay the way you are. Keep missing him, keep your love pure and who knows? one day.... you two might realise that you can't live without each other. You absolutely cannot!
2006-12-30 07:56:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there :) Well let me just advise you to stop that behaviour immediately because it could make you seem very clingy and your boyfriend may start to be put off by it. I know you say you can't control it, but you really do need to stop if you still want your relationship to work out. Just chill out and stop stressing about it... Perhaps you are having security issues with yourself? Negative behaviour is very unattractive...stay positive & be happy! You need to change your 'mindset.' There's no need to cry! You will see him again... :P
2006-12-30 09:15:07 · answer #6 · answered by Sky Empress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard i know, cuz when we were young my now husband, was at college in manchester and i only saw him saturday and sunday, so you just have to try and make the time that you have together special, if you keep not speaking to him and crying that is all he will think about when he leaves, and eventually he will get fed up and not enjoy being with you as he knows what is coming at the end of the day, so chin up and make him want to come home to you. good luck
2006-12-30 08:04:27 · answer #7 · answered by bluebell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to keep your self busy after his leaving, not just go home too and cry and put your self in a such bad mode.
Or get drunk and high at the same time you will vanish this bad mode. Trust me …. Try it.
Good luck ( do it legally)
2006-12-30 08:35:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeh its hard when u have distance but he probably feels the same so u crying like a baby (no offense!) probably makes things harder for him. also its not especially fair to blank him just cos he's going home
relax abit or ur gonna get very annoying and thus dumped!
2006-12-30 08:11:05 · answer #9 · answered by keeley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so clingy, if you are not going to see him for a few days then it is not the end of the world ,what are phone for!?
Guys DO NOT like to be suffocated, give him room, and give yourself room to grow INDEPENDENTLY as a person
2006-12-30 08:38:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋