I'm not trying to sound shallow, because I love him with all my heart but physically we just don't connect. His personality is amazing and I know that should be enough, but it hasn't always been like this. Nothing major has changed in his appearance...whats wrong? And what can I do to light up our flame again??
2006-12-30 07:51:58 · 20 answers · asked by sara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
try exercising together to get you both in shape and have something to connect or bond by.
and you also just need to see him in a new light. find small things about him that you missed and enjoy those things.
2006-12-30 08:00:37 · answer #1 · answered by TAD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you can do. I went through that about 4 years ago. I was with a man for over 3 years, and for some reason, i just wanst physically attracted to him anymore... We took a break. I moved out for a while.. we stayed friends.. He's an AWESOME guy and I'll love him forever, but we decided to part ways. He went back to school and is starting a great job soon, and I got back with an old bf from highschool and we have 2 beautiful baby boys... And I am still friends ith my ex. Good luck with whateve ryou choose.
2006-12-30 15:55:32 · answer #2 · answered by C F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you don't just love him? Because I think that if you were IN LOVE with him that you would be physically attracted to him.
And by not physically attracted, does that mean not sexually attracted either? Because if you plan on staying with him for the long run that could be a big deal.
2006-12-30 15:54:34 · answer #3 · answered by Dirty.Little.Secret. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual energy is a two-way street. Men are responsible for seducing the women, and this question would be better asked by your partner. He's the one who needs to figure out how to get you excited, not the other way around. Women seem to let men off the hook for all kinds of things only men can do.
I would tell him what you are asking here in this public forum and see if HE can answer your question. Like I said, it's his job to get you hot, not yours to hotty up yourself. He must be doing something different or your sex would still be amazing. Ask him why he's changed?
2006-12-30 15:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real love has many branches, one of them is physical attraction, it's generally the one thing that draws two people together. It sounds to me like you are settling for something that just isn't good enough.
2006-12-30 15:56:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If youre not connected with him in a physical way, you probably shouldn't be together. Some people are just better off great friends.
2006-12-30 15:53:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your sex life is too routine. Spice things up. Try some new positions or new places of the house. Blindfolds and handcuffs always do the trick, but you might have to work up to that.
2006-12-30 15:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard I know. It's just after a while we get tired of the same old thing and we want a little adventure. It's nothing either one of you is doing wrong. But I bet it would hurt if he said the same about you, right? Love isn't just about lust... it's about trust, companionship, laughing.. lust dies. It'll die eventually with whomever you're with.. but to spice things up..
Imagination. If he does sweet things for you and makes you really happy... you'll want to return the favor.
2006-12-30 15:57:58 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Krista Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Foreplay
2006-12-30 15:59:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The lust is over. If you feel you have to be physically attracted then move on. cause looks arent gonna change over night.
2006-12-30 15:57:18 · answer #10 · answered by mgtyjo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋