evrything has gone wrong the last few week, i get lonely alot on my own with the kids, well they are my grandchildren sometimes i would like to have a job, i do study full time, but my grandaughter has been excluded from school, this bloke recently dumped me said he did not go out wth unemployed layabouts, my friends say hes a prat, and thats nasty, cos they know i do alot, but i got to close to him. i dont, study enough and i would like more money and a nice job and some nice friends i have a few. but i would like more my type bit ex hippie bohemian. independant own mind. i dont, trust men anymore. i feel really low. i know i need to study to get myself out of this trap, i am fat as well i hate my figure, love to be slim again been years since i have been slim. i feel lonely. their s n o nice men out thier.
2006-12-30 07:50:00 · 6 answers · asked by denise g 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Life may seem like it sucks, but tomorrow is a new day. So maybe you are having an altime low but don't let that bog you down!! YEs!!! I just got dumped as well and I am sad as hell!!! I will tell you it hurts! and I can tell you no matter how much my friends say. " oh its alright you'll find someone better" and " don't worry you will feel better in about a week" it does not help. So I won't be like everyone else and tell you the thing you wanted to hear that it will magically heal. Sure it can heal and sure it hurts. But I can tell you this. It is not your fault. Everything happens for a reason. You maybe low right now but you can change things!. " Everyday is a new life to a wiseman" start a change tomorrow! Start a revolution!!! Maybe that will help your low!!! Start out slow! look for a job!!! accomplish that and maybe start going to the gym playing more with your kids. Your dream man will find you! don't go waiting for some loser to come back to you. Don't let him have the gratification knowing you can't live without him! You CAN live without him! you will be just fine! and you WILL find someone else.! just keep telling yourself and live each day like it is your last! people don't realize that life is too short for worry. " Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distnace, but to do what lies clearly at hand." work on one thing at a time and move!! Good luck! i hope I helped!
2006-12-30 07:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by LIZ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds as if you have a lot on your shoulders! The man that rejected you was completely unworthy of your love. You seem to want to take good care of your children and grandchildren. I imagine you are from Europe and while I know very little of the available services there you should look into support and help for raising all of them. If you like bohemian, then I hope you can accept me as a friend across the miles. =)
Life just sucks sometimes. There are so many ways out though! Never let anyone treat you as your ex has. Seek counseling so that you have someone to talk to about your deepest fears and frustrations. As for feeling heavy, diet and exercise are pretty much it, yet I know how difficult that is to maintain with so many kids in the house! Perhaps you can all take time out each day to do exercises together. Make it fun. Show them how to do sit-ups with their feet beneath the couch, try to laugh and have a good time. It will be a healthy experience (and a beginning to weight loss!) for you and them.
There are kind and wonderful men out there, although I completely understand why you don't feel this way right now. You will know a good man by the way he treats you and your children. I know it's so hard right now and I believe accepting some help and speaking with someone objective will be a great deal of help to you right now.
Other than that, if you ever want to have a quick chat, e-mail me any time. I wish you and yours a happy New Year.
2006-12-30 08:54:11 · answer #2 · answered by Me, Thrice-Baked 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Txlady has some good answers. Try working on one thing at a time. If you try changing everything at once, things will only get worse. By the way, you don't need to be with a man to feel good about yourself. Work on your self esteem first. Find a part time job, even at the school you go to. Love your grandchildren but send them home when it's time. (if you have guardianship of the kids---find a baby sitter every now and then)
I have abstained from relationship for awhile now and feel much better about myself. I began to wonder if I wore a sign that said "Use me".
I too am a flower child and love my own way of doing things.
If you're not happy with school, chuck it for a job until you really want to go back. If you feel unhealthy because of the over weight thing start small, don't stress over losing weight.
And that's what you're doing----stressing! Over all of it. If you're a true hippie, a real flower child, think back to all the relaxation methods we used to do. I'm teasing a little but serious. You're letting others run your life it sound like. Step up and take it back. Good Luck!!
2006-12-30 08:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by Emma J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're understandably being over comfortable! I additionally think of your significant other could be slightly extra sympathetic than asserting daddy is extra helpful than mummy yet he probable does not particularly comprehend how confusing it relatively is. i recently went back to artwork section time. in basic terms 2 4 hour shifts and that i hate it so i in my opinion sympathise with you having to artwork a 9 hour day. i'm useful it gets much less stressful and you will cherish the time you get with your son much extra. attempt to bear in mind which you're doing it to your son. He nevertheless loves you! My little woman cried as quickly as I got here homestead too! What a welcome! i think of it as a results of surprise hit her that I have been long gone, in step with threat your son became the comparable. attempt and characteristic a communicate with your significant other, you like his help and that i'm useful he does not get how difficult it relatively is for a mom to bypass away. good success.
2016-11-25 01:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, please listen to me. You've got several issues all wrapped up in one little ball. Stop and unravel one issue at a time. Out of everything you want to change in your life, which one is the most important AT THIS MOMENT? Work on it FIRST. Which one comes next to you? Keep going down your list of things you've told us here. Trust in the Lord as you do. He will help you.
2006-12-30 07:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
get of your back and go clubbing with your mates !
sounds like you deserve some fun !
2006-12-30 07:59:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋