Do you think fourteen is to young to be in love?My parents say its just puppy love...The guy im in love with is fifteen.He has already asked me to marry him....I told him we would have to wait until we are older.Am i too young to be thinking about marrige???Are my parents right?I really think its true love but I need your advice.Thanks
2006-12-30 07:16:08 · 37 answers · asked by halleyluvu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course you can love someone at your age. Hang out together, study together, have fun. Don't worry about going steady or marriage just yet. You are a teenager, not an adult, and trust me that is a great place to be! Listen to your parents, they have been a teenager before, too, and they have your best interest at heart. You don't have to agree with everything they say but you do need to respect them and their wishes. Follow their rules and share your feelings with them. Together, there is common ground. Respect yourself, expect respect from others, and have fun!
2006-12-30 07:24:51 · answer #1 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are right to want to wait. I got with my husband when I was 15 and we got married when I was 17 and it was the biggest mistake in my life. We are not mature enough to handle it until we are older. My suggestion, is to wait until your are at least 18. Stay together but make sure you do not get pregnant. You only want to be together if you have your parents permission though unless you want him to go to prison. Avoid sex for as long as you can. Your parents are right about this might not be true love. It happens occasionally though. If you have both sets of parents permission though you can see if you guys are still together when you graduate high school. If so, by then you know everything about each other and are willing to wait for each other. You will also not be breaking any laws by then. Again though I would wait for sex if you have not already done it and if you have then make sure you use protection every time. Good luck.
2006-12-30 07:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Fourteen is not too young to be in love.
Fourteen (or fifteen for that matter) is entirely too young to be thinking about marriage. This is not the Middle Ages, you're both likely to live another 70 years...that's a long time to worry about finding "the one". Enjoy what you have, it may just be an adolescent infatuation...we all go through that...or maybe it will turn out to be serious. But, don't push it.
The only thing you need to be careful of is that all this marriage talk doesn't make you reckless about sex and you end up pregnant. (The one thing you're LESS prepared for than marriage, is parenthood.)
Take Care, Be Careful, and Have Fun...
2006-12-30 07:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by David G 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think girls are capable of falling in love earlier than boys, but why be in a hurry to end living your life as an individual before it is started? A person really needs to experience life and live it to it`s fullest. I started dating my ex-husband when I was fifteen. We were involved all through high school and later married. We were married until we were 40 years old. We did not know what it was like to be without one another. We grew miserable and apart after being married for 10 years. We both finished our educations and had our family after we married, but we did not grow and mature as individuals, because we were so involved with one another way too early.
You are smart to realize that this is too early, so continue to date other boys taking care to not become sexually active early. Finish your education, and see and experience everything that you can because life if so short. There is plenty of time after graduating from college to get married and start a family. You will be prepared to provide adequately for yourself, and a family later if you have one, when you get the best education that you can.
2006-12-30 07:26:36 · answer #4 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I believe that your parents are right. Even though you don't think this now, your interests, beliefs, etc. will most likely change within the next 5-10years. Your body isn't fully developed and neither is your mind. Why do you think they make people wait until 18 to get married without a guardian signing a paper for them oking it? You shouldn't think about marriage at that age. You have so much ahead of you that if you did get married it could possibly destroy your life/ make things extremely difficult on you. Once your married you are on your own and responsible for yourself. I'm sure right now you live in your parents house, they pay for your food, bills, etc. Could you imagine doing all of that on your own right now? Getting a full time job while being in school? Could you imagine if you got pregnant and had a kid? Seriously, enjoy your life. If you really think you love this boy then marriage can wait. You should never feel rushed to get married, if you love the boy and he loves you he'll wait until your old enough to support yourself and make a life for yourself. Don't sell yourself short on life, and don't think you have to stay with the first boy you think you love. I'm in my 20's and I've thought I've been in love with 5 guys in my time, and I am still not married. The first boy I thought I was in love with was when I was 15. He was great back then, but now he is a drug addict living at home with no job... that just shows you how much people can change.
2006-12-30 07:21:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
they are right in a sense but it doesnt make it any less real to you or him,,enjoy it,,feel great but the chances are that this person isnt the one you will marry,,our tastes change as we get older,our idea of what and who is acceptable changes,everything but your teeth changes and the same for him,,you are more than likely in love and no one can take that away from you but this will likely change,,when you realize that when out with your friends dancing/clubbing you like the attention of other man,some you fancy some you dont,this time will come and if you are with someone you thought you would be with forever does that then make the feelings wrong? no,,,it just means you want to experience different,change,something more than you currently have,this is an exciting time but try not to place too much importance on it.
2006-12-30 07:23:16 · answer #6 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give it a little time (And by little I mean a year or two) before you start thinking that seriously. It isn't impossible, but you are both so young and being 19, I know that a LOT of things change in the next few years so just go with the flow but don't rush into things. Most would say you are far too young to think about marriage.
2006-12-30 07:19:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
U may think it's true love but in reality it could be puppy love. Marriage is obviously too young to do, u can think about it just not to much.
2006-12-30 07:22:29 · answer #8 · answered by Aly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, 14yrs is too young to be in love! adolescents feelings change right up to 18yrs and possibly older. you may have other relationsips along the way before you find the one that is your sould mate. this won't happen untill your much older. as a parent myself your mum is right im afraid. its your first crush/puppy love scenario at your age. if you both do however stand the test of time and stay together for the next 5yrs or so, then i would say yes, this would really be love and talk about marriage then. your still young, so seriously do not even discuss marriage, and make sure your not thinking about sleeping together!! be careful always. believe me don't be in a hurry to grow up to quickly. enjoy your youth, study well and travel a bit before settling down. my own kids understand this, and its not lecturing, its common sense!! good luck
2006-12-30 07:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by emzc 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
when I was a kid the neighbors told me the same story, they have loved each other since grade 1, parents made them separate, no good, they got married at 16...maybe 1905..and they have been in DEEP love their entire life until the pasted at around 90
and never fought or got mad at each other, so it can happen
but I have not heard it more than two times...so be careful and listen to your parents, make good plans with him, sit down and think about COLLEGE and work....you need them both to have money to be able to LIVE..get a news paper and look up apartments and and then make list o everything you have and need to spend money on to live together, and then see how much a month it actually costs to live, so go get a college education, stay together but get your educations
good luck
smile
2006-12-30 07:29:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋