For much of that five years the sex has diminished to barely once a month.
Previous women I've had relationships with always initially crave sex, claiming sex with me's the most intense and most orgasmic they've ever had and after a few months it fades.
With my current significent other and other past women, why does they're interest fade if they're bragging all day long about how great our sex is and then it diminishes to barely none at all?
It's not due to lack of romance, love or compassion at all... So... Any advice?
2006-12-30
06:56:09
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A couple people noted spicing it up and not do the same thing all the time.
Trust me, I've done many things to spice it up.
Do I just do what gets me compliments? Ha, sorry, I'm a lover not a selfish guy at all. My entire needs sexually are usually based on pleasing my partner. That's what more or less makes me tick regarding bedroom behavior.
2006-12-30
07:04:30 ·
update #1
So far, thanks for some of the advice.
I do flirt with her. I let her know how much she means to me. We've also discussed this and I'm literally at a loss trying to figure out how to increase our activity time together (not just for sex.)
Usually when I flirt with her she backs away and hardly notices it, or ignores it. Compliments? Basically the same reaction (but not always.)
Give her flowers? Done that.
Wine and dine her? 2-3 times a week.
Toys, play, etc., we do that.
To the gal who said something about getting sex for free... I pay the bills too.
2006-12-30
07:14:54 ·
update #2
As in any relationship the initial honeymoon stage is grand and things appear as if they could never change or get any better. But then reality sets in and things have to be prioritized and sometimes (often actually) sex takes a dive and falls very low on the hierarchy scale. Don't fret as you are not alone in this situation and it is natural as the sun rising every morning.
2006-12-30 07:00:14
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answered by crazylegs 7
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because you guys are so attached to each other that you have become somewhat "brother and sister", or she might want you to flirt with her more instead of saying hey babe lie down for a minute and blah blah. or she might have someone else who is giving her more pleasure not only sexually but emotionally. you know how its is when its a beginning relationship get so excited and all o a sudden its like oh man your'e still here why wont you leave for got sake. try and try to make it the way it was before when you guys first meet. get her exicited. good luck homie
2006-12-30 15:05:05
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answered by Sparkle 1
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You should be in the prime of your sexual desires. Are you doing anything to peak her interest? Perhaps trying something new and different will open her up to more possibilities. Go overboard to show her how much you love her - how much you want to be with her - how much you want to make love to her. Create new ideas that will be hard for her to resist. Pleasure her with new sexual positions, new toys, etc... If you love her enough to keep her - then you will need to introduce new sexual desires and positions to her. Creams, lotions, toys, etc... If you have done all this and it's till not working -- then perhaps it's time to move on to someone that will appreciate all you have to give in and out of bed.
2006-12-30 15:04:10
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answered by Brown Eyes 1
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First, make sure she's not taking any medication that has a side effect of decreased sexual appetite. Many will do that, including some birth control pills.
Secondly, talk to her about the lack of sex. There may be a reason behind it.
2006-12-30 15:00:28
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answered by Anonymous
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Advice is to discuss it with them...only they can tell you why their interest has waned...no psychics here to read their minds for you.
And the "most orgasmic" sounds like you're trying to boost your own self esteem as it wasn't a necessary part of the explanation...perhaps you get lazy and don't perform the same later as you did initially and thus they care less about playing with you? One possibility...
2006-12-30 15:05:53
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answered by . 7
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That is life, I have been married twice and it happens to me too. The sex is great in the beginning but I don't know with time it just fades away not on my part on their part. Which is sad because I have a high sex drive.
2006-12-30 15:00:13
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answered by just_acali_girl 4
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A good relationship shouldn´t depend o sex. If that´s how you started then you never really knew the person. Maybe you should take her on a romantic trip if you want to bring a spark back.Or try talking to her to see if anything is wrong.
2006-12-30 15:02:30
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answered by Anonymous
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all things are great when they are new. But you must keep variety in the recipe if you expect to keep that level going. Are you involving their needs into what you do with them? Or, are you just doing what gets you the compliments?
2006-12-30 15:00:01
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answered by MIn.Tia 1
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maybe its getting boring or normal for her? put some "spice" into the relationship. take her out to somewhere that you dont go to so often or do something out of the ordinary. if it's not too obscure, buy some kinky stuff that might get her aroused or more in the mood.
2006-12-30 15:01:40
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answered by diesel_478 2
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Well you just have to set the mood again thats all it takes? Take her out like in the beginning,cook dinner with her that works to
2006-12-30 15:02:05
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answered by ac_ohfosho 2
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