i am gay and my friends know about it, i'm really good friends with this guy at work and wamt to bring him home! how do i tell my mum and family that i am gay? knowing that she will kick off and we don't get on that well at the best of times!!
2006-12-30 06:48:16 · 42 answers · asked by me!! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sit her down and get it out, You say that she might kick off but you won't know until you do. My son told me that he was gay a few months ago he is 19 and since he told me he is a changed person. Before he was always feeling depressed because he did not know how to tell me, I have accepted him the way he is and I will love him unconditionally, If you mother does not like it tough luck, give her time she will get used to it. You have to live your life. Good Luck!
2006-12-30 09:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by superstar68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she already has some inkling of your sexual persuasion, mothers are like that you know-after all, she DID bring you up right from entering this world and has looked after you ever since...through the good AND the bad times-so SHE may know something that YOU don't...how about that!! And besides, apart from the fireworks-(and the casting out-and the naming in the Will!)-what CAN your mother really do? It is your life, to do with as you please-granted it is respectful to tell your mum that you are gay-but its down to you in the final analysis, just try to tell her in the best and most positive way that you can.
2006-12-30 07:17:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then, don't go and make a long speech, just blurt it out before going to bed or in the morning.
If she has any questions she will come and ask you.
Give her a week, and you can make sure everybody who needs to know will.
I don't particularly think you have to tell everybody. I mean, only the ones who matter need to know really.
It's like when you're seeing someone, you don't go and tell everybody, they just see for themselves or eventually they get to know somehow.
But it's not like you've done anything wrong.
Give your mum sometime though before you bring anybody to her house.
You don't want it to be spoilt by a heavy tension, or silence, nor by insults or third degree.
So give her some time to digest it.
Good luck.x
2006-12-30 06:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok look at this this way, if you dont get on anyway what have you got to loose. at the same time she is your mother and she will love you anyway, cliche i know but when ive had really hard tings to tell my mum, whenever ive been in troiuble, my mum has always surprised me.in a good way. you just have to take a deap breath and do it, be prepared for the worst and only something better can happen.good luck and i hope you and the guy from work are happy
2006-12-30 06:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by cookie 85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mum thought I was gay for years, even asked when I would be bringing my 'partner' home so that she could meet her! Bless her she got a shock when I turned up with a man!
I would not make to much of a deal of it, afterall nothing has changed, if she finds it a challenge then try and introduce her to some of your friends parents so that she can see how normal it is for others which may help her appreciate how difficult it can be to bring a subject like this one up.
I wish you all the very best and hope that your mother accepts people as people whomever they love
2006-12-30 06:56:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Think you may underestimate your mum. My eldest son, as I was leaving from visiting him at Xmas a few years ago.......suddenly said...I've got something to tell you. Told me he was gay....but I knew anyway, and said as such. It hurt........for selfish reasons, but I want him to be happy and that is what matters most. I'd had an inkling since he was a toddler. Dare say your mum has too, and maybe that is the cause of the friction between the two of you. She may know it but be reluctant to acknowledge it.
My son and I now have an understanding..........he'll introduce me to his boyfriend when I have one to introduce to him :-)
Hopefully your Mum is as proud of you as I am my son, irrespective of his sexuality. He's my son, I love him.......no conditions.
By the way, my son thought 'I'd kick off' too even though all his friends had, apparently, told him that I knew anyway.
Don't keep it secret, it'll hurt you, in the long run.
Wish you well and hope your Mum takes your news resonably well. I say that because she'll be disappointed at the prospect of no grandchildren from you. But, hopefully, as I did.......she'll get over it.
2006-12-30 07:03:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say mum I'm gay. There is no point beating around the bush you either want her to know or not I would hope she will accept things as they are because whatever happens you are her son it may not be a good idea to drop this bombshell standing next to your boyfriend. let her get used to things first then introduce him in time. Good luck.
2006-12-30 07:01:00 · answer #7 · answered by Joel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will probably just have to sit her down and tell her. I would let the idea sink in for a while before you start bring guys around to meet her.
good luck
2006-12-30 06:51:39 · answer #8 · answered by jelly 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her. If she's got a problem then it's not YOUR problem. Maybe you should look at moving out and then you'll be free to live your own life, alternatively you may need to wait before developing a relationship with someone.
2006-12-30 06:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to come out and tell them straight up. I know it'll be hard and they won't be happy about it but if they love you like they should they'll accept you for you and love you for you and look past your choice but the only thing you can do is be honest with them and tell them before they hear it from someone outside your family.
2006-12-30 06:50:52 · answer #10 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋