Is it time we forget asbos and thrash the parent/parents.?

Question

But on a more serious note! Why is it only me who truly believes its the parents fault.If one of my children was to act like most kids of today I`d tell the police to lock them up.Im so gratefull that they are well educated and respectfull and Im a working class lone parent.

Answer 1

I fully concur that in the main, parents are the first issue regarding juvenile 'mis-behaviour' ... however, I don't think that there's enough of a deterrent to put kids off mis-doing in the first place. We have a Government full of 'wish-bone' and not back- bone, far too much beaurocracy and red tape keeping Police Officers in the Station and off the beat, way too many idiotic laws and white paper thingies being passed and presented in the Commons / House of Lords, etc (over 6000 in 2006 alone!).

We need to go back 20 or 30 years and re-learn basic policing, put the Bobby back on the beat, reduce the paperwork and make the job 'easier' to implement. We also need Coppers with a bit more of a moral upbringing (and common sense come to think of it), and less of a Gung-Ho approach to matters. Have you noticed the sarcastic tone that accompanies nearly all of todays Officers?

Kids also need to be taught correctly both at home and in school: at home they need to learn respect and a sense of discipline, likewise in school but also basics that were taught when I was in school - the cane didn't do too much harm to us and had the right effect ... it put you off doing it again. Nanny State is the name of the game today, and I really believe we need to go backwards in order to go forwards.

Sorry for running off at the mouth but you hit a nerve!

Incidentally - I am a proud parent, in a 24 year marriage (probably unheard of in todays society), and I take my hat off to you being a lone parent. Our son is 12 yrs of age, respectful to all from peer and above, has a good sense of discipline and a terrific sense of humour. We both practice Aikido together (maybe that's another downfall of todays fast pace of life - no time for the kids ... and before you ask, I work 12 hrs a day x 4 days). He's also a higher grade than myself !!

Answer 2

I too am a single parent and have a problem teen and i keep him indoors, he does not leave the house other than to goto school. His father refuses to help in any way
He went through a phase where he absconded from school , stole my jewellery and money and took my credit card for a trip to tescos.
I took him to the police station and asked them to press charges and they declined. His so called freind that came in my house with him while i was at work stole things from my house and the police said i cannot do anything about it because my son invited him in.
I asked social services for help because i was finding it difficult to control him and they took him on day trips ...not the answer. he enjoyed the attention and his younger sister could not understand why he got rewarded for such bad behaviour
We are currently waiting for help from the child and adolescent team as it is believed he has mental health issues .
So...you think I should be punished if he absconds from school and breaks a law?
My other son is 19 and a respectable well educated young man , his sister is 11 and at the top level at school and behaves very well . It is not always the parents fault. On many of the occasions the school failed to inform me he had even left school. Will i get sent to jail for his poor attendance too?
I think the lack of discipline is an issue but if i hit him I lose my job ( I am a peadiatric nurse) I lose my registration and possibly my kids.
Incidentally he does not leave the house because he has not yet got to be brave enough to bypass me !

Answer 3

I agree with you totally! My kids too have been brought up to respect themselves and those around them! I cringe when I see how some kids treat their parents .... I am also a lone parent, but took the responsibility of my children seriously! I reckon there should be some sort of penalty for parents with unruly asbo kids.

Answer 4

that's infrequently incredible! N.Z. is a much greater effective group. we've greater effective batting intensity (oram at 7!), and 2 of our bowlers are interior the acceptable 10 in ODI's and oram is at 12. England's suited is at 15. think of how badly they could have been overwhelmed had we had Bond and Andre adams bowling! The rain did upload somewhat swing for a jiffy, yet can not be presented as an excuse for the detrimental batting.

Answer 5

It is definitely the parents fault, and the enviroment in which the parents choose to bring up their children, they werent just born like it.
However the parents had parents too, and it was their fault that they are the way they are.
Blaming the parents and punishing them is not really going to help, they have already done their job in raising their childrin terribly, what needs to be done is to educate the badly behaving kids so that they will learn to bring up children properly and the next generation will be respectful, mature people. Thats the only solution.

Answer 6

Point is that most of those parents have had poor parenting or not very good models to copy. All it takes is for one parent to have different views about parenting to the other to produce chaotic individuals. Creeps of either gender who forget they have kids once the divorce papers are through, who play silly buggers over contact visits, or who can't wait to engender a whole new miserable family on almost the same all add to the problem.
Respect to you for bringing up yours with such firm boundaries.

Answer 7

Yes. I think if parents were actually fined for their children's behaviour they might actually take an interest in what their children are doing. This could also be used to enforce good behaviour in schools. Hit the parents financially and they're not likely to be so tolerant of their little darlings. Too many parents think that their kids are angels and it's just the company they keep.

Answer 8

You can't always blame parents for the way theyre kids act. Some kids are just screwed up and don't listen its not necassarily the parents fault.

Answer 9

thats a tough one ,my boys are a handful , but they have special needs ,not that you can see it.we try so hard to be good parents but at the end of the day if some one is going to do something they are going to do it .we cant be with our children 24 hours aday.... before i found out my boys had special needs i would have agreed with you . but now i am more tollerant.

Answer 10

i agree with u i work at a school and the teachers have no control over the kids at all.the kids go into a rage and smash every thing they can and the teachers cant touch them.and yes ur right its the parents that r at fault.