Why can’t people tell the difference from lust and love?

Question

I mean yes it may be the case that they have never fell in love before. But you would have thought the amount of times they fall in lust, they would be able to tell wouldn’t they? I mean it took me a long time to realise this, because I thought I was in love for the first time, until I realised it was just another crush. I was just wondering though what is love actually like?

Answer 1

The difference is loving someone, even though you don't like some of there habits, the way they eat, they may be sloppy, etc.,but you still love them anyway. Lust is the easiest emotion to control and true love is the hardest to obtain and keep!

Answer 2

I suppose it's when the person you love is more important to you than you are.
There is a difference between loving and being IN love.
Being in love is a bright, consuming passion during which any moment not spent with the beloved is a dreary waste of time, when the whole world revolves around that one dear face and nothing else matters at all.
Being in love is far too bright a flame to last for long, no matter how all-consuming it may feel. The problem for many people is that they think that's the way their relationship should stay, and as soon as the spark dies down they're off to try to find it again with someone else. If you hang in there, give it a bit of work, then love may grow from the embers of being in love.
Love is a gentler glow, in which the beloved is seen as they truly are, and accepted, faults and all.
Sure, there may be differences, rows even. Certainly work is needed to keep their trust and affection. One needs to see clearly ones own selfishness and other faults as well as seeing and accepting the other's
But love, which values the beloved more than oneself, grows out of resolved conflict, grows deeper with little acts of selflessness. Love is not a free gift like being in love. Love is something you work for.
Consider a mother's love for her new baby. After the birth there is the moment when mum really SEES her baby, then there is bonding, then she gives her all to the baby - and the love just grows.
As for lust, that's your hormones driving you to keep the species going. It can be very useful and instructive to control lust, to say 'no' sometimes.
(I personally believe that there is a spiritual dimension to love but that may be a different discussion. What do you think?)

Answer 3

That's an excellent question.
I think that the mistake happens when we are being needy in some way.
I mean if you are a happy single, you won't be in any rush to commit to someone and are bound to take things slowly and analyse the situation better; Whereas, when you feel the need to be with someone, you're just happy to find someone and tend to make things better than they really are.
You do just live in your own world, not even with that person, because you don't look at things the way they are.
It's like when you're hungry or thirsty, instead of taking each spoonful slowly, or sip slowly, you just swallow, without tasting, appreciating, and then you eat or drink more because you didn't take time to digest either and are persuaded that you're still hungry, or thirsty. Only to realize too late that oh, you're feeling sick, or have a tummy ache...etc..
So it's the same as being infatuated.
Things look good because you are looking at your needs, you rush into a situation, tick the boxes...
Then obviously, very soon, you are bound to admit that oops!..
It's only then that you acknowledge that yes, it was not love.
And you may well have hurt this person on your way to discovery.

Answer 4

certainty from fiction, certainty from diction. At 1st look they the two seem the resembling the untrained. Upon close inspection one see that love is fairly like the silk to lust's satin. Lust: Is self-indulgent Love: Is outward giving. Lust: non everlasting. Love: There for existence Lust: Non committal Love: entirely committed. Lust: accomplished 1st in the past construction lines of verbal substitute. Love: accomplished after the floor paintings of verbal substitute is achieved Lust: Like renting. Love: Like possessing Lust: Is actual in simple terms. Love: Is metaphysical and soulful. is almost a 5 direction meal, by no skill leaves you hungry. Lust: is almost a snack cake no longer a meal. is by no skill adequate. Love: Is greater effective than you are able to ask for, you're consistently satisfied Lust: For the immature. Love: For the mature. Lust: The booty call Love: A loving relationship that in simple terms has intercourse in it. Lust: you're controlled by utilising your physique. Love: You command your physique. Love can strengthen from the seeds of lust besides the undeniable fact that that's perplexing. as quickly as intercourse muddles the water, all those issues that could desire to be there or is understood to be there yet truly ain't can not be seen simply by fact no person wanted to provide up the intercourse. in simple terms marry somebody you have had solid conversations with in the past you grew to grow to be a pair. those uncomplicated verbal substitute skills would be far greater considerable years from now.

Answer 5

Once you are in love you really can tell the difference between love and lust. But before then, you have no frame of reference to define lust against. Your question is written as if you cannot feel love and lust at the same time.

And your last sentance? well i can't really describe love...
Have you ever been shot? its a bit like that i assume, but much more enjoyable.

Answer 6

I think that people say they love someone when they become emotionally dependant on them. Just because you get on with someone and would miss them if they went away, doesn't mean you love them. I think love is a load of old crap. Everytime you fall in love you get let down, usually because they are unfaithful or unattentive. At least with lust you feel alive and exhilarated. My bf and I got on great when we were in lust. Now we love each other, we argue and have nothing in common. Bring back lust anyday!

Answer 7

Well considering there is no such thing as "Love" or should I say it's not a singular definable emotion. love is an amalgam of things like lust, comfortability, passion, awe, respect....etc....

The quote I always remember is "There is no such thing as love, it's just lust that changes into familiarity"

You can view this outlook as cynical, or just that the human emotional landscape is a complex terrain and cannot be explained away as a four letter word.

Answer 8

love the ultimate(ulta-mate) (yes that is a deliberate spelling mistake) 4 letter word! lust is, moonlight ,seduction,a world seen in candlelight(hey we all look good in candlelight) a moments maddness which at the time feels it will last for ever.without the moonlight we don't see the dawn.hey i've seen so many moonlight nights i feel like a bat but one day after the moonlight a beautiful dawn broke and its been sunshine for 21 years had 2 little brats sorry mean bats but i wish you a beautiful dawn

Answer 9

Some times people convince them self's love will come later and it never will!....other times it could just be that the person in lust is happy with that and really needs little else....who knows?...

Answer 10

Some people are just so wrapped up in the 5 min lust for someone's looks and charms that they don't think about that friend who you've known forever but never think about their feelings when they love you and you don't realize that you do to...