What do you do about a guy that says he loves you but needs time to sort out his feelings? He says he needs time to see how much I mean to him. I dont get it. I didnt call him one night because I was busy with my kids and then not feeling well and he took it like I dont care about him. Now he wont take my apology and he says he needs time to make sure it wont happen again but he loves me. What does that mean??? Why is he playing games?? Wouldnt it be better to be together to work this out?? Why are guys so difficult???
2006-12-30 05:10:52 · 11 answers · asked by Brittney 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he wants to distance himself, then let him. Leave him be and take a nonchalant approach...see how he reacts to that.
2006-12-30 05:13:52 · answer #1 · answered by Creampoof737 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I'd tell him if he wants to make sure it won't happen again I can save you a lot of time. It will happen again because I know one day I will get sick again, and probably won't feel like doing much of anything. If my children need me that comes above all else, and if any guy is trying to put himself before my kids he can stop trying at this point - That Won't Happen !!
I'd also tell him for him to "Get Mad" because I was not available when he called is a very childish thing to do. It is I who has to decide if I want to continue to go out with someone who is so immature that they get mad because I was not there when they called, or unavailable, or got sick.
Hey, life happens and if gets mad over these little non-sense things can you imagine a real issue coming up how he will react. I also feel this may be an infactuation thing with him, which could always turn violent at some point.
but for now it seems he is attempting to intimidate you into being controlled. By trying to make you feel guilty, as if you did something wrong - you didn't. I think, it may be wise for you to reverse the whole situation and tell him you need a break you have to sort this whole mess out and decide if you really want to be with someone who gets mad over such nonsense. That this is the type of behavior you would expect from your kids, not from someone you are dating, you somehow expected more him.
Note: Does this not sound like the relationship is "To Serve Him" with little to no regard to you, no compassion, no understanding, and no forgiveness.
2006-12-30 05:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't normaly work stuff out together. To a guy working things out together is doing it her way. Only if working together was a 50/50 split...but typicaly it's the woman's way or nothing. And you wonder why he wants alone time.
He may not like the kids getting in the way. It's hard when a woman puts the kids way before her man. Take the example you gave...you could not spare 20 seconds to make a phone call because you were with you kids.....
2006-12-30 05:17:05 · answer #3 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are difficult because it is their nature (sorry guys) If he loved you he would know it and wouldn't need all this time. I think he is just playing with you to see your reaction. tell him that you love him (if you do love him) but tell him that you can't always wait for him. tell him that if he loves you then speak up but otherwise, move on.
2006-12-30 05:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by monkey8kenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need that kind of bS, especially when you're raising kids. If he won't respect the time you need with your kids now, then he needs to go. You deserve someone way better girl :)
2006-12-30 05:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to talk to him ask him why he's being this way and tell him you DO care about him tell him how you really feel...if that doesn't work out then give him some space for a little while until you've been desperate to talk to him... just lave him be for little who knows maybe he's just testing you too see if your either a sucker for love or maybe he just wants to see if you love him back?and why are guys soo confusing?.. i ask myself that question everyday!
2006-12-30 05:17:20 · answer #6 · answered by soccerrrr ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eventhough you have feelings for this man he is not good enough for you if he can't accept your appology. You shouldn't even have to apologize, he is probably cheating on you and can't decide who he likes more. Sorry that's what I think and I'm always too honest.
2006-12-30 05:15:37 · answer #7 · answered by michael m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly you have a nut on your hands. A controller, I've seen it many times before, move on hun, you can do better. I promise.
2006-12-30 05:15:00 · answer #8 · answered by Chey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's over.
2006-12-30 06:06:16 · answer #9 · answered by chantell_hanna_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT MEANS HE'S JUST "NOT THAT INTO U"-FIND SOMEONE ELSE, THIS WAS ON SEX AND THE CITY, AND A GUY WROTE A BOOK ABOUT IT GO ASK AT THE BOOK STORE.
2006-12-30 05:18:56 · answer #10 · answered by littlegirllost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋