My kids father and I have been broken up for 3y.And i cant complain about what he is doing but then again I am complaining.He is very good with the children even the one thats not his.Anytime I need something he is always there for me.But the only thing is that he is a HO! and he already lives with another baby mama.He wants to get back with me but i dont know .I am afraid if I start to act as if i am not intrested in him he wont do ofor the kids .What to do?
2006-12-30 05:00:51 · 8 answers · asked by AMBRASIA C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he has not left the kids he will not anyway... mind yourself
2006-12-30 05:13:15 · answer #1 · answered by simplegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man is a s*l*u*t, then he's a s*l*u*t, pure and simple.
You know this bc he did it to you and now he's doing it to you again, making YOU the other woman this time round.
It is totally possible that a man can be a s*l*u*t and care for his children and for his ex. I've seen that happen, so I don't think you have anything to fear about him neglecting the kids. He sounds real solid on that front.
Otherwise, you totally know the score with him and relationships. Don't walk into this with your eyes wide open or you'll get precisely what you don't want and will not be able to honestly blame him when he makes you romantically miserable.
You know what the right thing to do is, so Just Do It. .
2006-12-30 05:10:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's very important to have a father in the picture, especially if you think he's good to them and will set a good example for them (well, except that he likes to sleep around, that's not the best example for them, but they won't understand that until they're much older). On the other hand, it sounds like if you got back together with him, it'd be just for the kids and not for you. The kids don't need to see you living with each other and fighting all the time because he's cheating on you, etc.
My personal advice would be to be very nice to him, make sure he knows he's appreciated and he's always welcome in your house, try to be friends with him, but don't sleep with him or go out on dates, etc. Instead of giving him just enough of a hope that you might get together (which would be the way a lot of women would handle this), I'd suggest being totally open with him and saying that you don't see the two of you working out right now, but he'll always be a part of your life and your kid's life and it means so much to you to see him being a good dad.
You don't have to sacrifice your personal happiness for your kids' happiness (there are situations in life when you would, but this isn't one of them). Keep your head up, show him that you're strong and you can stand on your own two feet, but also show him that you truly appreciate him being a good dad.
Hope this works out for you.
2006-12-30 05:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by yishor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get back with him, keep things the way they are, just because hes good with your kids does not mean you would have a happy life together
2006-12-30 05:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him to have a relationship with his kids and find yourself another man
2006-12-30 05:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes. Yes, he can use those kids as leverage against you, but then you should have acted more responsibly.
2006-12-30 05:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by Creampoof737 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's living with another woman why do you even have to think about this....ask your self one thing...do you consider your self anyone's wh*re?
2006-12-30 05:04:46 · answer #7 · answered by Pryceless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him*******he sounds like a playa
2006-12-30 05:04:50 · answer #8 · answered by lisa_08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋