i am 14 years old and i am fed up being shy i find the stupidist things ebrassing its impossible to make me do a speech cause im too scared and noone understands why im so shy some days its so bad that it makes me depressed my new year resalution is to become more confident but i dont no how to please give any help or tips!
2006-12-30 04:46:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I was painfully shy at 14 also. I got bad grades in school due to not speaking up in class. THis is not something that you can solve with a New Year resolution, but with time and activity. Here's one way: find out what you are really good at and what you really enjoy doing, then start with that, being in public or helping someone who isn't as good at whatever it is you are doing. As you work on that, you will find courage to do more things. I think by the time you graduate high school, you will feel more comfortable with yourself.
2006-12-30 04:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by moonshadow 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best way to gain more confidence is to counteract negative self talk with positive thoughts & words. Practice this when your alone so that when your in social situations you can be more confident.
Here are some examples. I know they may seem corny but the truth is if you can learn to love yourself, you will become more confident.
Look at yourself in the mirror and say things that are positive lIke. I love you . I am great. I'm good looking. Practice your small talk. ( Hi. What's up?) Just so you feel more prepared to talk to others,
and when you're in public keep reminding yourself that noone knows you're shy or embarrased unless you reveal it to them. Try to go on acting normal no matter how you may feel inside. Look at how the other kids interact and do the same thing. If you can talk yourself out of overreacting everything will be fine. The more you put yourself out there the easier it will get. Focus on making one good friend then you will have a strong ally to help you get pass your shyness. I hope this helps. Good luck
2006-12-30 05:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by genuine1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by setting small goals such as initiating conversations with one new person every day. When this gets easier, try going to more public events. After you're doing that, start inviting a friend to your house once a week. Later, start having parties.
If you take small steps like these, you will begin to feel more confident. I also used to be very shy. I took small steps and have really changed. I started the process when I was 18, and now, at 36, I am much more confident and successful than I was when I was starting college. I have accomplished a lot and have good friends. I am really enjoying life. You can do it too!
2006-12-30 04:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by ahhihello 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to rent the movie The Wizard of Oz, or read the book. The scarecrow wanted a brain, the lion wanted courage, and the tin man wanted a heart. But they had those things all along. Maybe you don't need more confidence, you are already confident enough. Some people find shyness charming in a person. Good luck!!!
2006-12-30 09:31:00 · answer #4 · answered by Professor Armitage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something you just need to work on and it will not be corrected overnight. Things that might help: Take an acting class. A lot of actors are shy people. This will give you confidence and may even turn out to be your passion. Hopefully your high school has drama classes. If not, check out your local little theater groups in your town. If this is not available to you, try any kind of activity that gets you in front of people. It may be hard in the beginning, but stick with it and you will be surprised on the outcome. Take care and good luck.
2006-12-30 04:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by Rea 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey i answered this question already but realized i only focused on presentations/speeches. when you look in the mirror, what do you see? do you love yourself? you might be shy because of low confidence? if thats the case then just try for a little self improvement (anything that will help you come closer to lovin you). also, i really do think that breaking out of your shell takes time. what type of things do you find embarrassing? and how are you shy? you mean like shy as in approaching people and talking? just do it. find someone who just seems welcoming. especially people who like to talk. then you can just listen (which is my favorite thing to do)
2006-12-30 09:23:13 · answer #6 · answered by chikka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
real confidence comes from within. Find yourself respect yourself and who you are. Dont ever worry about what people think of you or how you look to others. Once your comfortable with yourself and who you are thats all you need. What do you like find something your good at thats always a good confidence buildert.
2006-12-30 05:15:16 · answer #7 · answered by joseph g 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU'RE 14 - GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK
BEING 14 IS HARD....YOU WILL BECOME MORE CONFIDENT AS YOU GET OLDER AND SEE WHAT A GREAT PERSON YOU ARE............YOU'RE ALSO SHY.............MAYBE THAT WILL PASS TOO BUT SOME GIRLS FIND SHY GUYS CUTE............TAKE IT EASY.YOU'RE NORMAL.........ENJOY YOUR LIFE........................................
2006-12-30 05:56:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be ur self and dont listen to what others say
2006-12-30 04:55:13 · answer #9 · answered by tayler a 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋