In going to this i would be missing a week of school. It is also the week before mid terms so id be missing quite a bit. something else to consider is its 550 miles a way so should i go/
2006-12-30 04:18:39 · 16 answers · asked by Katie M 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Im 15 in in High School btw
2006-12-30 04:24:32 · update #1
I see him once a year if that much.....
2006-12-30 04:44:46 · update #2
I don't think it would be a faux pas not to go. He's a somewhat distant relative (figuratively and literally), and no one is going to question why a student didn't travel over 500 miles during her midterms to bid adieu. If you can afford it, though, ordering a flower arrangement would be a nice gesture.
And I am sorry for your loss-I hope your exams go well for you.
2006-12-30 04:22:02 · answer #1 · answered by Jennie Fabulous 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have some good reasons not to go.
But I would recommend asking the ultimate question here...did this great uncle have some special place in your life, or are you going more out of a sense of obligation.
When I was a freshman, my dad's brother died over 700 miles away. It was the week before Spring break and I didn't feel like I could go due to conflicts with school. My parents went without me and sent my condolences. My aunt totally understood. I had only met this uncle three times in my life and I really had no connection with him. But if it had been a relative I was a lot more connected with, I definitely would have gone. In my case, this was the right decision.
2006-12-30 12:39:34 · answer #2 · answered by Searcher 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, sounds like someone wants to stay home while the rest of the family goes to the funeral. So the question is really moot, since your parents will be the ones to decide this.
But look at the question as if you were an adult on your own, what would you do. Funerals are not for the dead. The dead could care less if you attend. It is for those who are left behind and grieving. You should go if those you love are grieving. Thats what we do, we comfort each other in times of grief.
Don't make this more difficult for those who are in grief by getting bent out of shape, or acting like you are being inconvenienced. Compared to them and your uncle, you are not being put out that much, they have lost a loved one. Please try to understand how they feel, and not just what suits your desires of the moment. Sometimes growing up means doing things that aren't always fun or what we want. Your desire to stay home alone is not reason enough to blow off a funeral, regardless of what you feel for the deceased. It may not seem like it, but you'll be glad that you went, not just for yourself, but to comfort those who need love and support now.
Do the right thing.
2006-12-30 19:08:54 · answer #3 · answered by monkey dance 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would talk to your teachers and explain that you had a death in the family and see if you can have your mid terms put back a week. Some schools will allow this. If they won't do it then I think it is totally acceptable to miss the funeral. Send flowers and note of regret to your great uncles family.
Good Luck
Quin
2006-12-30 12:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by quinlangal 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How close were you to your great uncle and/or great aunt? Would a condolence card with a personal handwritten note be acceptable with an explanation of why you did not attend (midterms) and an expression of your sorrow on the loss?
Remember, funerals are really for the living and it's a way to obtain closure. If you weren't close to your great uncle or great aunt then your absence may be noted but a nice note would be most appropriate.
2006-12-30 20:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by Inquisitive125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how well you liked him. If he liked you, go, if you liked him enough, go.
Any other kid would never pass up an oppertunity to be out of school for a week. If you do go, notify the teachers so they'll give you your lessions and study plans. You might be able to take the mid-terms when you get back.
2006-12-30 13:29:18 · answer #6 · answered by grumpyfiend 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, for gods sake he was your great uncle and this is your last chance to pay your last respects to him and if you go you could regret it later in life. Your great uncle will be disapointed in you if you dont go. Also, the remainder of your family will see that your missing and didn't bother attending and will remember that for a long time. Do the right thing and go. I hope this helps.
2006-12-30 17:02:04 · answer #7 · answered by Jake C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you feel the need to go, then go. You can always make up your mid-terms, and it may give you some extra time for some cram studying. If not, I agree about the flower arrangement.
2006-12-30 14:35:42 · answer #8 · answered by Gator 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how close you were to him.If you were in constant contact with him and his family then I say yes you should go.But if you rarely or never had contact with him and his family then sending a condolence card or letter is OK.
2006-12-30 12:24:59 · answer #9 · answered by hjbergel 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You'll only have one chance to go to his funeral. You can always make up the mid terms.
2006-12-30 12:27:28 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋