My b/f worked extra hours last night and has worked 62 hours this week. He was sleeping and I was playing music and he came storming out of the bedroom and told me to turn that $%^^# music off and muttered something about killing me. I asked him if he was serious and he glared at me and slammed the bedroom door practically in my face. How should I handle this?
2006-12-30 03:53:16 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get your things and go...
don't take a chance where he may take your life away from your loved ones...
you never know what he may be capable of doing!
2006-12-30 04:18:17 · answer #1 · answered by mary_not_cathy 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
First, I would tell someone you trust that he said that; joke or no joke, it was threatening and nasty, and even if someone loves someone, stress can make even the finest people crack and do things that are very unlike them. So, just for safety's sake, mention it to someone, like a best friend or a sister or maybe your mom, or someone who's like a mom to you. Also, ask yourself, has he EVER said anything like that before? Or has he ever DONE anything slightly mean before? (If yes, then you need to get some space beween you two.)
Second, when he is rested up sometime and the two of you are hanging out together (although not when you are in bed--that's nearly always a bad place to bring serious issues up!) being up the fact that what he muttered about killing you really upset you. If he is truly caring about you and in love with you, hearing that you were disturbed by something he said about/to you will make him apologize. (I would also mention that you are sorry you didn't think about his stress when you were playing your music.)
If he does not apologize about how he acted, I would watch out, because he cares less about you than you think.
And then I would be sensitive the next time he has had little sleep, extra hours (i.e., extra stress) or anything else stressful that's going on. Sit behind him when he's home and give him a shoulder rub, or offer to give him a back massage, or even a foot rub, with some lotion. =) He'll melt.
2006-12-30 12:05:59 · answer #2 · answered by imtheriddling1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the age of your boyfriend,pr what kind of work he's in. I do know that any threat to your well being, should be taken seriously!!!. Maybe you should rethink your relationship. Always better to get out now, while it's only a threat,as opposed to after he has hurt you or anyone else!!! DO NOT be afraid!! There are places to help just these kind of situations. I am sure in your home town there are also.. Just look in the phone book.
2006-12-30 12:12:17 · answer #3 · answered by jokerod50 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he's working so many hours maybe you should think about getting headsets so when you want to listen to music it won't bother his sleep. I don't think the way he handled it it was right but at the same time you have to be a little considerate to others especially when you know they have to be tired from working so many hours and not do things you know will prevent them from getting their sleep.
2006-12-30 12:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young Lady Please pack up ASAP and go where you are safe.
No man, should be threatening, and yes he could be very serious about it. go to your parents, or some friend whom he does not know, and do inform them of why you left him, iif something should happen at least you would be abl;e to get help and stay informed of what is going on behind the closed door. My advise is to go to the police station file a protection from abuse order and don't back down, until you have it, for it sounds like your in over youtr head and need to get help. Please I beg you to get help now!!!!! God Bless
2006-12-30 12:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by grandpajim1920 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, he doesnt sound sweet and girls like sweet. maybe he is just grumpy and said that maybe he didnt mean it. i know you love him but you should report this. what if he was kidding?what if he wasnt? you dont know. how long have you known this boy?? obviously not long enough. go find another boy, make him mad, run off with another boy. no one likes to be threatened. dont start a scene before you go or he will surely try to stop you or kill you then, dont take any chances what so ever, you know how many people die everyday?
2006-12-30 12:12:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a joke, either something to say!!! This man can be very dangerous and it's a beginning of verbal abused. Please leave and go to a safe place. Good luck.
2006-12-30 12:45:46 · answer #7 · answered by Jo-Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from this guy. He sounds dangerous. Don't take any chances.
2006-12-30 12:01:11 · answer #8 · answered by Yahoo Con 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him move away do what you have to do. we can give u opinions but ur opinion is more reliable than any of ours.
2006-12-30 11:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋