My b/f worked extra hours last and has worked 62 hours this week. He was sleeping and I was playing music and he came storming out of the bedroom and told me to turn that $%^^# music off and muttered something about killing me. I asked him if he was serious and he glared at me and slammed the bedroom door practically in my face. How should I handle this?
2006-12-30 03:52:33 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get your things and go...
don't take a chance where he may take your life away from your loved ones...
you never know what he may be capable of doing!
2006-12-30 04:19:02 · answer #1 · answered by mary_not_cathy 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
How much do you value your life? This is not a joke, no matter what he says...someone like that will eventually act out, and you will be trapped in a vicious cycle of abuse. Get out now, get a restraining order, and no matter how much you think you love him, do not give him another chance because he says "he's changed".
It doesn't matter how hard he worked, how long he worked...in no way is that an appropriate response. I grew up with a father who would come storming out of the bedroom if we made too much noise; it's scary!! Fortunately, it never went beyond that, but I know if it did, my mom would have been outta there with the kids in a heartbeat.
Leave, leave, leave...now, now, now.
2006-12-30 03:58:34 · answer #2 · answered by smokincasey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's being extremely childish, and if he has to say he's going to do something that violent, then I'd go find yourself another boyfriend..... that is unless you like the verbal abuse. I had fights with girls before, and they got heated, but never a mention of physical harm to that person. And working 62 hours a week is not justification for saying crap like that. I've worked 100 hour weeks before, and girlfriend woke me up just to push me around.... Worst thing I said was FU, then I walked out the door to get some fresh air.
2006-12-30 03:57:16 · answer #3 · answered by FearDragons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most likely he was tired,,wait till he is fully awake and just point out that you will not be spoken to this way,,that you will not accept this is normal within a relationship and that being tired is unfortunate and you do get that but in future could he please engage his brain when he requires you do something he feels entitled to.nip things in the bud right away and there is no confusion,,he then knows how you feel and if he doesnt listen you can take it as he doesnt give the proverbial and work out what to do,,,,do not think that you have to wait until he has repeated this numerous times before you have the right to complain about it,you dont,it was a nasty thing to say and you at least want a 'sorry'.
2006-12-30 03:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could try being more considerate if the man is working that many hours he NEEDS to SLEEP!!! If you feel he will hurt you then get out! Has he ever hurt you before? If so then leave NOW! Otherwise be more considerate when he is sleeping and keep the music DOWN!!
2006-12-30 03:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd come unglued too if I had gotten woken up to something like that especially after working 62 hours in one week. Turn off the music and keep it quiet, people need their sleep!!
2006-12-30 04:12:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems very scary.No matter how long someone has been working and how tired they are ,they should never feel like killing you.You find out peoples true colors when they are mad.
Example.
Say their is a girl in school you don't like so you avoid her but she thinks you like her.When she makes you mad you would tell her how you really feel about and what ever you have been holding against her comes out.
He did the same thing.He acts like everything is cool but once you make him mad you see his true identity.He was very serious and this maybe the first signs of abuse.I think you should talk to your parents about this because it is very serious.
2006-12-30 04:00:53 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was pissed off. People say a lot of things while there mad. Dont worry about it.
And quit playing music while hes sleeping. That show no respect at all. The man worked a long week. Give him the peace he deserves.
2006-12-30 03:54:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say your boyfriend was extremely tried and his words came out of sheer frustration and tiredness on his part. he has worked 62 hours!@!!..he needs sleep, you need to be more considerate and lower the music down or go out to let him get his much needed and deserved sleep. It is not an uncommon thing for people to react differently to things when they are over tired..i myself get extremely bitchy..and i know..once i sleep..ahhh, back to my sweet self again.
Don't go over board on this if he has never layed a hand on you before, or if he has never threatened you before...if he is not abusive..just chalk it up to him being deliriously over tired.
2006-12-30 03:58:12 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously your boyfriend was exhausted from working too long. You didn't help the situation by playing loud music well he was sleeping. He was upset when he said those things to you. Don't think too much of it. I am sure he didn't mean it. Let him cool off. I am sure deep down he still loves you. I hope that helped. HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!
2006-12-30 03:57:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This type of response to an irritant is completely irrational. Although keeping your music low so that it does not bother others is just good etiquette, your boyfriend sounds as if he could use some anger management.
2006-12-30 03:56:40 · answer #11 · answered by maggiepirsq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋