Hi all i got a situation in work theres a guy i like who seems shy and quiet as everyone says he is, im shy myself and i really have tried to get a rapport with him. He gets on with most of the flirty types in the office and hes such a nice guy that i would like ot get the same kind of response from him. I have tried to initate convo with him more but i just feel a tension/awkwardness from him and dont know whether its me or him. I did think he liked me but im not so sure now. How can i make him feel more comfortable round me and if he isnt interested why does he give off this tension awkwardness bout him
2006-12-30 03:46:01 · 8 answers · asked by joanne100uk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
...you are thinking too much about this
2006-12-30 03:49:48 · answer #1 · answered by mørbidsшεεŧnεss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not an easy situation to deal with, however with patience you can succeed.
Take it slow. The reason he gets along with the flirty types is because they are more outgoing than him. They are easy to talk to.. It is always easier to read an open book rather than a closed one. A really good book takes time to get through.. you know that right?
Start slow. Conversation.. " hi, how are you today?, Did you see " " in the paper today?, What about that snow storm in Denver isnt it amazing they got so much snow!... "
State the obvious.. "What a nice day.. I think the sun will stay around for a while with us,..
It is easier to start a conversation with the obvious that is going on around you both.
Ever heard the phrase " keep it simple stupid" ? I am not calling you stupid ( please do not take it that way at all) My point is .. conversation is real easy when you start with something easy. If the feelings are mutual he will open up like that good book..
GL and most of all.. Be true to yourself.
2006-12-30 04:10:49 · answer #2 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you're both nervous, you're both concentrating on this. Move the attention somewhere else.. Don't bother with quirky comments because this also builds nerves as he's trying to think of something funny to say back. A big punch in the ego for him when he can't think of anything! Just say hello and let it roll from there. If the tension builds, talk about something at work, something you both know about and understand. A much easier way to be confident..
2006-12-30 03:58:06 · answer #3 · answered by Steph C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The tension is him being nervous. Nervous guys love a little shove into gear. Try asking him to hang out. Asking him out on a date with push him to far out if his boundries. I think girls mix up being shy and not being interested. You never know, he could be at home right now practicing asking you out but can't work up the nerve. People do this alot more than you think. I was that guy once and then I found out she was doing exactly what you are doing.
2006-12-30 03:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by TheSingleFriendthats2muchfun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you think likes you?meaning,you're just assuming things.continue establishing rapport with him.maybe he's just really shy,if you have,say like,exhausted every means possible for him to treat you the way he gets on with with the other girls but,still have this awkward tension then maybe both of you are not compatible with each other.its all about connection,about being comfortable with each other.if you dont have it with him,you dont have it with him.do you really want to continue pursuing him???its like trying too hard and very desperate.maybe opposites do really attract.and in your case,you're not with him.so find that guy you're at home with.good luck...
2006-12-30 04:04:15 · answer #5 · answered by Ivy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience. He's probably feeling awkward because he fancies you. I'd suggest an informal meeting in a 'safe' place with lots of friendly faces, but not at work. Find a subject he's confident in and ask him about it. He's relax with you when he knows you a little better.
2006-12-30 05:03:25 · answer #6 · answered by Cookiemo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its awkward then i think its yourself because of your shyness. i think you should just talk to him despite your awkwardness. sooner or later it wont be awkward and then you can do what you plan to
2006-12-30 03:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
relax, relax, relax.. and b confident (or try). ask him if he wants a coffee and tlk about work!. gd luc
2006-12-30 03:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by StealthyX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋