2006-12-30 03:20:25 · 34 answers · asked by nicey 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
she will get pregnant to spite you
2006-12-30 03:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by lepke 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you can keep her from having a boyfriend. She will just sneak behind your back. Besides there is nothing wrong with having a friend that is a boy. You just need to make sure you stay active in the relationship. Without being harsh, but also communicating with very clear rules you have for your daughter. Besides, at 18 our minds and our bodies mature a lot and then you have no control over what she does. A lot of mistakes can and probably would be made. I would say be positive with your daughter about this but stay active and comminicate your desires and rules. This will help her make better choices when she is 18 and by the time she is 18 she will understand more what a true relationship is versus "puppy Love" As a parent we all dread these days. Hang in there! we all go through it. I know how your heart feels about this but we as "good parents" can't keep our kids from growing up we can only grow them wiser by the way we handle these things. Most of all, when her heart gets broken for the first time, be strong and supportive let her know you are there for her no matter what.
2006-12-30 03:45:40 · answer #2 · answered by two_piecesof_bubblicious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think 14 is to young, I have a son that is almost 14 and I see the girls he goes to school with. They are definitely more mature than he is, most of them dress more provocatively than the 18 year olds around here. But I think telling her no dating will back fire and cause more problems at home. Maybe having "group" dates or family dates is the best answer for you. That way she gets what she wants, but you do also, you are still in control of the situation and keep her happy.
I also have 3 daughters (10,9, and 8) and I am not looking forward to this dilemma. Good Luck!!
2006-12-30 04:05:41 · answer #3 · answered by Brandy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do this, chances are she will go behind your back and do more than just have a boyfriend. Having a boyfriend or girlfriend is part of growing up. My 14 year old daughter has a boyfriend and he is one of the best kids I know. Trust your daughter and be open and honest with her, that's the best way to know what's going on in her life.
2006-12-30 03:26:40 · answer #4 · answered by whatever2006 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
14 is old enough to have a boyfriend as long as they are not allowed to be alone together. if you wait until she is 18 she will probably rebel and you will have more problems than if you just let her have a boyfriend with restrictions. Teach her about responsible relationships now while she still has your guidance. Don't wait until she is 18 because you won't be there to help her.
2006-12-30 03:26:43 · answer #5 · answered by Summer 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How, exactly, do you suppose you can stop her? It's more realistic to set reasonable boundaries and limitations on her dating at this age. Fourteen is certainly too young for "no rules" dating.. but group or double dates with curfews and rules about parents being present ... well.. that would all be appropriate. For instance... "it's okay with me for you to go on a group date or to double date, so long as I know who's driving (parent drivers only) who's going (nobody over two years older than your daughter) and what time you will be home."
If you've raised her with good values so far, she will maintain those values... if you have not, it's too late to instill them in her at this point, and trying to force the issue on her will only cause her to rebel.
Good luck!
2006-12-30 09:24:48 · answer #6 · answered by Amy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a perfect world, yes. I wish I could but I don't think it's going to happen. They will find ways around the rules. I'm not going to let my daughter date until she is 16, but if she wants to have friends that are boys before that I will make sure she is supervised. Have him over to our house. Group outings and the like. I'm going to trust that I have raised a good girl who respects her parents and will abide by our rules. So far so good. She's 11 now and is a very good kid who knows when she steps out of line.
Good luck.
2006-12-30 03:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by beanietara 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't be that you are keeping her from having a baby. Just let other positive things in her life influence her. She is 14. Sit down and talk to her about the seriousness of having a child. Let her know that if she does she will be taking care of it. If she has dates now, make them supervised unitil she is mature enough or atleast 16.
2006-12-30 04:20:19 · answer #8 · answered by nodesignerdogs4me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ugggh my parents did this to me! They told me when I turn 16 I could date as long as they knew where I was going and approved of the person and then when I turned 16 they changed it to 18 and now that I'm 17, I have already dated behind their backs many times and the relationships never worked because I made poor choices about who I chose to date. Fact is, She will most likely go and date anyway. But she will eventually learn that she's better off listening to you. After time and having my heart broken, I decided to just respect my mom's rules and wait a while. I live in a town where most of the teenagers have fully devoted their lives to drugs, sex, and drinking so when I am ready to date; I will find someone with ambitions and goals for life residing somewhere other than where I live. I hope I helped!
2006-12-30 03:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
When I was a teen, I was allowed to have "boy" friends, but not actually date until I was 16.....and my father had to meet the boy first. Just allow you daughter to have these boys visit the house as friends where she can hang out under your supervision. Let her enjoy being a kid- she has all of her life to date and with boys. For now, leave it as just friends. You won't be sorry. I am very proud of the my Father enforced this rule. Of course, then I was pretty angry at him- but now I see his reasons.
2006-12-30 04:03:05 · answer #10 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I did not date until I was 18, and unlike a lot of the girls I grew up with I'll have my BA next semester (I'm 20) and I'm engaged to a wonderful man. I'm not pregnant, I've never done drugs, and I have a good job. You should encourage your daughter to be friends with boys. Let her hang out with guys, let her go on group dates as suggested at 16 or so...but make sure she has a curfew and she is supervised. Explain to her that when she proves herself trustworthy she will recieve more freedoms, but make it clear that if she violates her trust you're going to cut her off.
She may not like it now, but encourage her to finish school, to be responsible for her actions and to be happy with herself. If you teach her to respect herself and appreciate her womanhood and her strength, she will be very grateful when she is older.
2006-12-30 03:36:35 · answer #11 · answered by Girl with Kaleidoscope Eyes 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋