Keep my Pentacle hidden around my dad's friends?

Question

I recently came out of the broom closet to my dad. He is a Christian minister and so are both of his parents. I got my license a few months ago, but not in Christian ministry. Anyway, he says the Witchcraft thing doesn't bother him, but he doesn't want me telling any of the family friends about it, even if they ask, and he doesn't want me to wear any of my Pagan jewelry, including my Pentacle around them. I cannot take off my Pentacle unless I am sleeping, showering or doing athletic stuff. Plus I have one tattooed on the back of my neck, so now I cannot wear my hair up around his friends either. Do you think my dad is out of line here? I think I should be allowed to be myself. My dad has a gay brother and he was asked to "not flaunt his sexuality in front of people" and now they don't speak anymore. Should I adhere to my dad's wishes, or should I be myself and not care what anyone thinks?

Answer 1

My father and stepmother are very devout Christians. However, once I was living on my own they stopped telling me what I should/should not do. My father is a fair man---he would not ask me to do something that he was unwilling to do himself. I don't tell him he must hide what he believes from my friends, what jewelry to wear, or how to wear his hair. He doesn't dictate those things to me either for him to love me (no one does, including my husband). It is about mutual respect. Our religions have always been different---and we respect one another for it. Yes, I think that your father's demands are inappropriate for an adult child. But only you know where to draw the line between how much power you choose to give you father over your adult life. What if you are in a nearby town with your hair up and pentacle showing and you run into some of his friends? Are you going to hide? They'll probably find out sooner or later anyway and you know how fast gossip travels in a congregation. You can be low key but what your father is asking is much more than that.

Answer 2

This depends a lot on the rest of your relationship. Are you living with your Dad? Are you paying rent?

How often you you wear your hair up, anyway?

But even more important, is the pentacle you're wearing for the benefit of the public, or for YOU?

Don't we find flaunting of religious beliefs annoying in other people?

There's a reason that we sometimes refer to ourselves as the "Hidden Children of the Goddess".

I do sympathize with your feelings, but please keep in mind that you may do more harm than good by being stubborn on this one. Pick your battles carefully.

Honey, wear your pentacle under your clothes. It's supposed to be for you, not for anyone else.

If this is all you have to worry about, be thankful. do you have any idea how many people have been disowned by their families because they are Wiccan? Or had their families try an "intervention" with round-the-clock praying over them?

Answer 3

LOL! You must have been really disappointed when the shock value of being a Wiccan didn't work on your parents.

I think if you've gon to all the trouble to tattoo the pentagram on your neck you've posted this question probbaly to bait some of the evil "xtians", and have people reaffirm your commitment to violate the rule of secrecy (To Know, To Will, To Dare, To Keep Silent). But of course, practically no one keeps that rule anymore, since shocking people is the real power of witchcraft.

Your pentacle doesn't have magic powers, and someday hopefully you will realize this.

If you are living under your parents house, you have to abide by their wishes, wether you're 8 or 88, and everyone knows that, so no, your father isn't out of line.

In the meantime, do some more research on Wicca (it was really started as little more than a sex club) and try reading C.S. Lewis.

Answer 4

Just be yourself.

Maybe your father ought to stop flaunting his heterosexuality and his religious beliefs as well?

As a sidenote, have you ever read any of Gardner's writings?

" To avoid discovery, let the working tools be as ordinary things that any may have in their houses.
Let the pentacles be of wax so that they may be broken at once or melted.
Have no sword unless your rank allows it.
Have no names or signs on anything.
Write the names and signs on them in ink before consecrating them and wash it off immediately afterwards.
Let the colours of the hilts tell which is which.
Do not engrave them lest they cause discovery."

"If any person not in the Circle, speak of the craft, say, 'Speak not to me of such, it frightens me, 'tis evil luck to speak of it.'"

Answer 5

for my section, i think of your father could admire your decision of religion. Him asking you to no longer placed on your pentacle and different pagan rings is like asking him or any Christian to no longer placed on their go. So for my section, definite i might think of it truly is somewhat out of line on your father to ask this sort of element. yet for the section approximately what you may do, i think of it truly is as much as you completely. In a worst case state of affairs, going forward and brushing aside your fathers desires could desire to reason relatives drama. If it grow to be me, i might instruct my faith with delight. yet nevertheless, my mothers and fathers are not very non secular, and may be able to no longer likely care. with your father being a minister it may desire to be fairly a various difficulty, counting on how your father might handle this of direction.

Answer 6

It all depends on how YOU feel. My family is mostly Baptist. I am a Satanist, and have several Satanic tattoos. I keep mine covered at family functions out of respect of my older family members. That's just me. You need to come to your own conclusion on who/how you want to be.