what to do with 16 year old boy with ADHD and still will not behave?

Answer 1

ADHD is a crackpot diagnosis from crackpot psychologists. It's a ruse to get gullible parents who are afraid of doing what it takes to instill disipline in their children. These so called doctors all get kick backs from phamacutical companies for prescribing addle brain drugs like Riddilin, to your kids, with no care of what it's going to do to them later in life, when they can't focus or concentrate without being stoned. ADHD is BS!! If you can't solve this problem wih some tough love and disipline, then send him to boot camp or military school. That will sort him out.

Answer 2

16 year old boys in general don't behave. As the mother of 2 boys, I know this. You also don't state "how" he misbehaves. People also have a misconception that a pill will fix everything, not the case in the real world. Medication will provide you with tools to make changes, not provide the changes. If he is criminally misbehaving, seek counseling on top of the medication, depending on the diagnosis some medications can exacerbate the condition. Some children with bipolar are put on ADHD meds and they can make things worse. It might just be he needs new meds, see psychiatrist not family doctor, they are better at prescribing these types of drugs.

Answer 3

Well at 16, he's almost an adult. Maybe its time for him to take more responsibility for his own condition, do more of his own thinking, and educate himself about the exact nature of ADHD and strategies for dealing with it.

This wikipedia article lists common behaviour patterns. If you skip any big chunks of text that he can't concentrate on and go straight to the lists, he can think about which behaviours he displays and ways of thinking or behaving differently.

You and he can follow any links to related pages, such as 'procrastination' and 'perfectionism' (which can lead to not doing something because you won't do a perfect job).

You can also sit down and make a list of specific behaviours that annoy people or stop him performing well at something and explain that he's not in trouble, but you want a calm rational discussion on how to change his behaviours. Its just a step-by-step problem-solving exercise, not a blame session. Divide it into one short session per behaviour. ADHD is a very emotional thing, but you're not forced to solve it in an emotional way. Try to approach it calmly, like any practical problem, such as fixing a car. Keep a written summary of the results of each behaviour-discussion.

If you concentrate on changing one behaviour at a time, you can think of solutions yourselves or ask on here or an ADHD site.

You and he are unlikely to be the first person to experience a particular problem, so other people will have solutions/ideas already.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Medication could definitely help, although some parents say it alters their child (personality-wise... some children become docile and don't seem like themselves).

The key to helping a child with ADHD is to provide a very structured environment where he knows what is expected and can settle in easily. Simplify things... chores, expectations etc. Don't throw too much at your child at once otherwise he will not be able to comprehend everything.

Exercise is also really important (preferable vigarous exercise). It helps focus attention, works off energy, stimulates certain hormones, and provides good teamwork skills (in a lot of sports). If it's something fun that your son enjoys, he may continue to do this for the rest of his life!

You might also try asking your son what might help, what he needs etc. The best "expert" on your child is your child himself! Kids with ADHD are often very intuitive. You might also think about the positive aspects of having ADHD... these kids often have a lot of energy, are good at multi-tasking, are willing to try new things, have a good sense of humour, are imaginative, are willing to help others, and are generally fun! Try coming up with activities that build on your child's strengths. These kids live with a sense of failure so encouragement and positive re-enforcement is a must. If you are playful or flamboyant yourself, and allow for creativity while still providing structure, your child should respond positively!

Good luck!

Answer 5

There was no ADHD when I was growing up. Kids nowadays have so many tools to manipulate gullible parents and do whatever they want having parents feel sorry for them and grant their every wish in the process. I'm never having kids seeing where things are going. My mother would still be doing time from what is now considered child abuse if there was such thing when I was a little kid, only back then it was called disciplining your kid, which is a good thing, by the way. You're the parent, your kid has to do what YOU say, not what he wants, if you can't pull that off, you shouldn't have had any kids, sorry to be crude like that but think about it. Give him his meds, whatever, but he's exploiting you, don't let it keep going.

Answer 6

ADHD, nonsense!
Does anybody realise that the flood of ADHD sufferers coincided with the reduction of punishment for children!
There is nothing wrong with your boy, that good old fashioned discipline and a paternal figure will cure!
Children generally can be a bit rougish, but for Gods, sake why give them a flippin' label, when all they are, are disruptive and naughty! Discipline never really did the majority harm. It pointed out the correct way to behave and in formed the youngster what will NOT be tolerated.

Answer 7

although i do not know much about parenting, my boyfriend has adhd and he really struggles with it as well. when we started going out he was always getting into trouble at school and found it impossible to concentrate on studying and therefore began to fail in alot of his subjects. however since then he has been directing his energy into sport and other active activites which he enjoys. if you find a hobby that your son is interested in he will begin to focus his attention on it and you never know it could work wonders. the problem with adhd, in my opinion, is that the person has endless energy and an extremely active mind without anything to amuse them. boredom is an awful thing and it tends to lead to mischief. ask your son why he does the things he does and then work with him to channel his energy into something more productive. Good luck xx

Answer 8

Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder is real for sufferers. Omega3 (found in fish oil) can assist with some of the symptoms as can some multi vitamins. The medical model uses Ritalin for school aged children and this has profound effects. Sometimes the effect is a loss of 'sparkle' or personality in the child.
ADHD is an inbalance of chemicals in the brain but has a behavioural manifestation.
I have had success working with children by setting regimes for them to adhere to. The success is partly due to structuring the child's activities as well as introducing them to the notion of consequences.
The child is not 'misbehaving' but cannot help themselves to some extent. If they have a strict regime to follow and are allowed to explore their own views about their actions they can develop more acceptable behaviours.
They do want attention as well but sometimes cannot handle it because of the previous responses to their behaviour. It's like they get into a pattern of activity.
Be patient as the child will grow out of it but give them as much time as you can and talk about their views of how best to help them. Sometimes we forget children are people with views too.
Good luck and try the fish oil and vitamins A, D & E.

Answer 9

He is a sixteen year old almost man - he will have to learn the hard way to deal with the consequences of his actions. If he has ADHD in my experience he will also have some endearing qualities such as kindness and thoughtfulness and this will see him alright for the future

Answer 10

rather than medications which could affect him negatively later in life- check out the Pain and Stress Center:

http://www.painstresscenter.com/

They have a book called Stop ADD Naturally- I have seen amazing changes in quite a few children with ADD whose parents went this route. My daughter has seen some amazing changes since we have gone through this book and used the techniques explained. They have a wonderful product called Teenlink which is a mixture of essential amino acids and will give the brain the things it needs to function properly without the negative harmful side effects