My gf confessed that she went out drinking when she was away on hols and woke up with a guy. Doesnt remember a thing and is claiming that she may have been drugged. She can drink to blackout at times. Is the drugging excuse just that?
2006-12-30 01:55:13 · 35 answers · asked by vertical c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would say CHEATING for sure. Get rid of the ho.
2006-12-30 01:57:15 · answer #1 · answered by eric c 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you think its just an excuse???? You know her..you know (and apparently so does she) that she drinks to blackout stage. She is an unwise and unsafe party person. There is nothing wrong w/partying, but to blackout stage????..Thats no fun....She (and you) better hope she doesnt wake up with Mr. Aids one day. Man, you gotta be safe! You gotta be smarter than all that.
The "i may have been drugged" is the oldest excuse in the book.
2006-12-30 02:03:17 · answer #2 · answered by Lrn'dTheHardWay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. Do you believe her? Why don't you believe what she is telling you? Has she lied to you in the past? If she can drink to blackout at times then more than likely she is telling the truth. If this is the case then you need to help her not do this anymore. She needs to stop drinking so much or at least to the point of blacking out. Any thing can happen after a person blacks out. It is dangerous to say the least. Give her the benefit of the doubt.
2006-12-30 02:00:40 · answer #3 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Despite the fact that she was drinking and wasnt with someone who could take care of her properly, I dont really believe this is cheating. Cheating I believe is a conscious effort, and she doesnt remember ne thing. Not that she gets off easy or ne thing cuz she was out partying. but I think you should sit down and talk about it. If you truly care for her you will find it in your heart to forgive her. You need so set some guidelines (and i say guidelines not rules!) with her to protect her from this happening again. If she is going to drink and carry on like this at least do it with someone she feels safe around and wont take advantage of her. Hope this helps.
2006-12-30 02:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by thegirlu_wishuhad07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has been drugged then it was probably very scary for her. Can you imagine waking up in bed with someone and not knowing what happened? You should encourage her to go to the police if she thinks this. If she is too evasive it may be that she is lying to cover up her cheating but she might too afraid. How bad would you feel if you dumped her for cheating after she was raped? I don't mean to sound harsh, I just don't want you to make a decision that you will regret. Take care x
2006-12-30 02:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by rainbow_brite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she call the police? If not, she just let her guilty conscious get to her. She wanted to let you know she screwed someone else, but thought of some way to make herself seem not responsible for it.
P.S. If she can drink to blackout at times, be ready to put up with a lot of her waking up in the morning with guys who drugged her, but she can't remember if she had sex with them.
P.S.S Not to self: "He drugged me." is a good excuse to get away with cheating.
2006-12-30 02:00:37 · answer #6 · answered by QTPYE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she drinks to blackout soetimes then she has a drinking problem.
She cheated!
The drugging excuse is probably just an excuse.
If she was truly drugged then she was raped and the guy who did it needs to be hung drawn and quartered and have his penis fed to him before he dies, but it sounds to me like she just got drunk and went home with some guy, after all he was still there when she woke up.
Guys who take advantage of (But DON'T force) drunk women are not very honourable but if the woman gets drunk knowingly then what does she think is going to happen.
2006-12-30 02:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she cheated and felt guilty - as not to lose you she claimed she was drugged! However that is very judgemental of me and it would be very bad if this was the case cos no-one deserves to be drugged and then raped. I would ask around her mates that she went away with to find out or tell her you are going to take her to the police as you want her to report it!
2006-12-30 02:02:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm if your gurlfriend has black outs that points toi a very serious problem with alchol. You both need to talk to a good counselor. This is a very painfull episode for all concerned.
At least she is being honest. That is a plus. May i suggest AA for her and there sister support group fro loved ones of aa.
She and you both need to be checked for stds. That is very dangerous. How much do you love her. What is the chance for her to repeat the behavior that resulted in this consequences again..She and you have to face the truth. She has to take responsiblity for her choices. I would say yes this must be hurtful for both. She needs serious intervention before she takes you both down AA programs work if you work the program .. God bless to both of you!! take and let me know
2006-12-30 02:07:14 · answer #9 · answered by tennessee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless she went to the authorities and had a rape kit done, it is likely you will never know the answer.
It sounds like your girlfriend has a drinking problem that needs to be addressed though. If she did not care about you and want to preserve the relationship, she would not have told you but would have hid it from you.
2006-12-30 01:59:45 · answer #10 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always hate it when I wake up the next day and can't remember the sex from the night before. You still have to have the guilt of cheating but without the fond memory of the sex. Cut her some slack I am sure she will not do it again, until next time.
2006-12-30 02:02:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋