I have tried internet dating, and have had numerous "first dates" and a few relationship trials. Perhaps I am just an old fashioned girl, but I look for a mature, responsibile, respectful and financially secure potential partner. Since I still work full time, my play time is limited to evenings and weekends. I am in SW Florida, and seek creative ways/activities to meet quality potential life partners. I prefer to not use a dating service or the bar scene.
2006-12-30 01:51:10 · 14 answers · asked by Sunny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A cousin of mine was in the same boat but she wasn't looking (she was married for 28 years). Here's her situation; After her husband left she decided to just enjoy her life. Because she didn't wear makeup that much during the marriage, the first thing she did was she got a makeover. She went into a salon and they applied make up that matches her skin tone (not a lot of make up but just enough to give her a natural look). She also got a new hair make over for she had being wearing the same style for years.Her daughters helped her "lively" up her wardrobe with colors that were stylish for women her age, complimented her body and skin tone. She walked (for exercise) to help her feel better and to keep the weight off. The bottom line is, she had a more active lifestyle.
My cousin said she hasn't had this much fun in years. Now after loving herself and taking care of herself, she has found love again and as she says she is "having the time of her life".
My advise is just enjoy YOU. Do things for YOU. Since you haven't dated in such a long time, the dating scene has changed tremendously. Nothing wrong with being old fashion just know that it may be hard to find old fashion now a days (not trying to scare you but it is the truth). Please don't be desperate (because that is how you sound in your post, no offense) and don't settle for anything. Men smell when a woman is vulnerable and desperate and sometimes, they would take advantage of you. You may not get the exact man you want but strive for close. I wish you well in meeting Mr. Right.
2006-12-30 02:34:25 · answer #1 · answered by Who me? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good Luck I am in the same boat it seems like there is no one out there to date but I am sure there is.I am not into the bar scene and never was I have volunteered places etc and still no luck.Online everyone is so far away it does not make it feasible unless you live in a big city then there must be millions of online opportunitys.I have had dates but some of these women are wilder than the girls I dated in my teenage years and I thought we all grew up.lol I will keep looking and you should to if its meant to be that we have partners it will happen when we least expect it. Good Luck.
2006-12-30 01:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by sparky75us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the club sister! The rules have changed very much since I've been in the single world too. I keep wondering if there is a man out there that would just get "real" with me? I just keep telling myself to be patient. There HAS to be men out there fitting the description that you described. I was married for 20 years and I'm not looking for that kind of committment, just someone to enjoy, to trust and have fun with. As far as a life partner goes? That is in much bigger hands than mine. : )
I hope you find what you are looking for. There still may be some "John Waynes" left out there..lol
Good luck to you!
2006-12-30 02:16:23 · answer #3 · answered by no cutesy name : ) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not going to be easy. Get some cards made up and when you see a guy you like give it ti him he might call you. This is what both men and women are doing down south now I have a female friend who live in Georgia and she meets a lot of guys that way. Hey I am 24 and cant find a nice girl to even chat with. Good luck sweetie.
2006-12-30 01:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a single girl in NYC and the quality of dating in general seems to be lacking. I am not sure f the scene in S. Florida but I have women friends everywhere that are having a very hard time. I do not want to discourage you but be prepared for dry spells.
I would say also, that you may have to be open to other races if you are not already, it is a huge playing field and the men seem to be in charge. Play safely too please.
2006-12-30 02:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by Honie B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, guess I missed you question. Perhaps you should be looking just to have some fun for a change. Your message keeps referring to meeting a potential partner and maybe the men you're meeting want the same thing, but not to begin with. Maybe you're scaring them off.
2006-12-30 01:56:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with being old fashion. If you have single co-workers around your age consider having a single night out (go bowling, out to eat, walking, etc). If there's any groups in area that has organizations for single women etc. Other than that enjoy life like traveling (it's o.k. to go alone) do something you always wanted to do and hopefully a man will come your way.
2006-12-30 02:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by stergre1975 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a similar situation or was --- 30 year marriage dont like bars or pubs/clubs --- tried the online chat rooms and found my lady by total accident (was online) --- the people you are looking for exist and probably feel the same way you do --- where do i find someone genuine and looking for something long term --- persevere i think even in the chat rooms ---- and someone will come along and surprise you from way out of left field
2006-12-30 02:01:37 · answer #8 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should start a web sight for us women with the same background. We are an uptapped source of vavavoom. We're the decent grandmas who have worked all our life and know how to solve problems, keep a house and tell the truth. I'm with you. Good luck!!
2006-12-30 01:56:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep 20 yr marriage and out babyboomer here too.Glad to know were not ectinct.Central Illinois here,Male
2006-12-30 02:26:23 · answer #10 · answered by Nevada S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋