I'm just curious....please let me know your views?
If you were breaking up with some one and couldn't stay with them, because you had a lot of issues to deal with but knew that the only real connection with you and this person that always worked was sex....would you have sex with them one more time? and in order to justify the guilt you felt, would you consider it unfinished buisness, or just for oldtime sake?
2006-12-30 01:42:21 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would think that continuing to have sex with this person especially if it had been the only real connection with u two woudl worsen the situation i think you could find better elsewhere.,...sex isnt everything in a relationship its doesnt even really play a big role....so why keep doing something that would only result in hurt in the end?
2006-12-30 01:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by thegirlu_wishuhad07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is both! It will not be intimate and romantic and close and personal. It will be like a one night stand. Sex for pleasure only--now get out. If the relationship is over, then you need to move on and resolve your personal issues before being with someone else. If you feel guilty about the way you treated this other person then you need to talk it out with them or someone who is impartial and won't judge you to help you put into words some of your feelings so YOU can get past the guilt and realize why so it won't be a factor in your next relationship. Sex for me is very personal and I need to have the intimacy and connection. Sex for pleasure is not something that is pleasurable for me. I can't do it to do it. What is sex to you and what do you get out of it? What is sex to the other person and what do they get out of it? What is it going to say to them that you are willing to sleep with them one more time, or one more time, or one more time....?
You are looking for them to forgive you and by being intimate with that person it is almost like saying I forgive you, because you open yourself up completely. But when it's done and the clothes go back on you are saying okay that's that--see ya. And the pain of rejection and the hurt will seep right back in and over take forgiveness.
Not what you want to hear, I'm sorry.
2006-12-30 09:59:47 · answer #2 · answered by J2099 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on if the other person knows about all this and is cool with it. If not, you are using him/her for your own satifaction and peace of mind. And by you saying "justify the guilt", and even asking this question, I'd say no.
2006-12-30 09:47:06 · answer #3 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you would only be holding out false hope and lead them on. If it is over, leave it over.
2006-12-30 09:45:12 · answer #4 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depend if its just sex and no one will get hurt then why not. but if somone will get hurt then its not worth the bother.
2006-12-30 09:45:29 · answer #5 · answered by NICOLA G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men , sure, go for it!
women, don't do it!
life sucks, huh
2006-12-30 09:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by memo_phx 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋