am i obessed?

Question

someone recently pointed out to me that i spoke of my ex relationships too much. i thought this was normal, because i believe these people have influenced me in some way and i could never let go of them. am i right or am i just obessed?

Answer 1

No you are not obsessed! There is nothing at all wrong with reminiscing about past loves and times you enjoyed. If you are thinking about these people and things you did together, you obviously enjoyed them. Maybe you shouldn't share them in too much of an intimate detail with people, as they not only feel that its none of their business some times, but they will also more probably be jealous that you look back on life and experiences so fondly.

Don't ever forget anything, but don't share your most intimate memories with many people frequently, otherwise you run the rick of devaluing them to yourself.

Answer 2

What do you mean you can never let go of them?

I am sure you have been influenced in some way and I hope you take any positive part of those relationship with you ..

what good things did you learn from the experience? Take that with you , but let go of the relationship and go on... there are more people to meet.. maybe the right one is out there in your future...
...Go.. live life!

Answer 3

Well when you are starting a new relationship with someone they do not want to hear about past relationships wheter they are good or bad things the good will make someone think that hey she is still in love with this other person and the bad will make you sound like a complainer that won't let go of the past and make the person want to move on.Believe me starting a relationship is hard enough and to think that you are competing with someone from the past it makes it hard.Good Luck

Answer 4

Too much is a relative term. When they really mean is "more than they want to hear about it".

We do tend to talk through the things that influenced our lives and the fresher this last relationship is, the more likely it is to cross your mind. On the other hand, if more than one person has pointed this out, it does seem likely you might be a little hung up...but don't worry about it too much. You'l end up obsessing about obsessing, it's a vicious cycle.

Answer 5

Don't let other people define you. You are whoever you think you are and what you think is what's important to YOU! Nothing is wrong with your thinking about your past relationships. I just hope you learn something good from each one that will help you with the future. You're doing just fine. Don't sweat other people's wrong opinion of you. Only you can know what's right for you... ;)

Answer 6

theres nothing wrong with a healthy amount of obession. This is why we come on Yahoo Answers and answer questions!

Answer 7

if it was good effect u got from these ex relationships it never wrong but if it was like u can't get over them and it hurt some in ur life now u just being areason of some one u care about or they care about u pain .

Answer 8

you are not obsessed we all think about our past relationships.We need to hold on to that which is good, even when it's over. You will find someone new someday, but until then keep thinking of the good times you had with your ex.

Answer 9

British accents are large. yet i'm basically captivated with John Krasinski and The place of work. basically observed License to Wed and it became impressive. John Krasinski on the huge reveal- want i say extra????

Answer 10

Seeing as you brought up the subject, email me and I'll send you a blow by blow description of every sexual encounter I've had in the last 38 years...lmfao...yes, you are obsessed!