Why it is so hard for me to break up a relationship. I would like my bf to dump me and I could accept it but why I couldn't break up with a guy eventhough I don't feel happy with the relationship anymore?
2006-12-30 00:27:09 · 8 answers · asked by Arianne 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry you're not so happy with the relationship, all I can recommend is you find the courage to say "NO". If you don't want to be in the relationship anymore, just tell your boyfriend you've had enough of it and you want to move on.
2006-12-30 00:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you don't want to feel like the b*tch who was heartless and mean for dumping the BF right? But in essence you AREN'T, anyone who would think otherwise is just ignorant and takes the cowardly approach to such a situation. If you don't feel happy with the person..THEN LEAVE. Now there's a COMPASSIONATE way to go about it, talk with him, let him know it isn't gonna work because you don't feel that way anymore. Some take it hard, some take it maturely, either way you're doing THEM a favor because you're not pretending and playing them for fools...so in essence....if you want out of something..GET OUT..don't wait for him to do it....especially if they really loved you, they'll work with whatever trifling thing you try to do to end the relationship...and if you cheated, well THEN you look like the heartless b*tch n yadda yadda, because that's the WORST way to break up with someone, it ruins who you are and then only causes more drama.
2006-12-30 00:35:46 · answer #2 · answered by Dennis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to do what is right then break up. Every person deserves to be with someone who has a mutual love . Maby you feel bad because you don't want to cause hurt. In the long run you will cause more hurt staying with the guy then if you just cut the strings now. If you really do care you will be honest and send him on his way to find someone that is more suited for him.
Kourtnie D.
2006-12-30 00:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by Kourtnie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you love him and the possibility of seeing him with anyone else hurts you? And everytime it continues you feel like somehow it could better even if it isnt and never does? But you know that if it ended it would feel like all the love that was there never existed? And made an impact because now it never has had what it used to be?
2006-12-30 00:33:28 · answer #4 · answered by Mayonaise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do yourself and him a favor, and tell him that things arent working. Im sure that by now he knows things arent going well, unless he is completly in denial or blind. Probably no one is very happy right now. the lack of intimacy and your grouchiness should be turning him off by now. Why prolong the agony though, let him go maybe he doesnt know why things are bad and is blaming himself.
2006-12-30 00:37:36 · answer #5 · answered by tomhale138 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh, you need to learn the word "no"
try it now. repeat after me:
NO
NO
NO
feels good, huh?
now, go begin practicing NO to this guy. when he asks about what to do tonight.... NO
whatever he says or asks.... NO
he'll begin to get the message and will dump you as you prefer.
NO
NO NO NO NO
feels really good to say that
NO
2006-12-30 00:31:51 · answer #6 · answered by Goddess T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your too mcuh of a nice person and don't like to hurt peoples feelings and make them sad!
But you need to learn to do this and think about yourself otherwise your'll be unhappy for the rest of your life and your'll also be stopping them finding the one their meant to be with and the person that's meant to be with you will never find you.
Good luck.
2006-12-30 00:31:01 · answer #7 · answered by JD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its like pulling a band aid off it hurts but its better if its done quickly
2006-12-30 00:30:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋