If you're a naturally quiet person, why do people always have to comment on it?
Why do they have to always say, "She's so quiet!" or "She's too quiet!"
How are you supposed to respond to that?
2006-12-30 00:03:09 · 10 answers · asked by Chelsea 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If you are such a quiet person, you wouldn't be expected to say anything.
Are you too shy to talk to adults? Are you at a loss for words? Are you just interested in listening to others' conversations more than joining in to them?
If you are being accused of being "too" quiet, then you may be stirring up some curiosity in others. They may be threatened by your lack of socialization and consider it to be a lack of acceptance. Show them the loving person that you are and smile at their comments. You don't have to be "on stage" all the time, but let them know that you are part of the group.
If you want to keep silent, nod when in agreement, raise eyebrows when you are impressed or surprised and smile when you are pleased with positive words. This will keep you involved and silent, but won't leave you as the "quiet, sinister" one in the corner.
2006-12-30 05:06:03 · answer #1 · answered by joe_on_drums 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe just tell the person that you want to make sure that what you say is worth listening to . . . unlike those who keep badgering you about being quiet. My dad was a quiet man but whenever he said something it always fit the situation.
I have a very close relationship with my 19 year old son. Sometimes we go on road trips together. One time we drove to a city 500 kms away and likely didn't say 50 words to each other on the way there, and maybe a few more on the way back. But we still had a great time.
2006-12-30 19:19:07 · answer #2 · answered by kennyj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always been this way. Off and on, I hear things like this, usually from spastically chattery people:
You need to talk more!
Stop causing all that trouble!
You're too quiet!
Why don't you talk more?
I guess it's just because these people want everyone to be just like them. I also get people assuming I have no sense of humor. I worked at a camp this past summer, and one of the girls I work with once called me a "party pooper" (how mature was that? heh) and said that I had no sense of humor. You know what? I had NEVER had a conversation with that girl! In fact, I don't think I ever even knew her name. I have to admit, I want to get bothered by that comment. But, then I just stop and think that if she's going to make such a hasty judgement on me without taking the time to get to know me, she probably doesn't need to be in my circle of friends, anyway. And btw, I DO have a sense of humor.
I think it's odd how we preach that people should be themselves, be who they are, and all that, and yet we still criticize people for not talking enough.
2006-12-30 03:21:37 · answer #3 · answered by I'm Still Here 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything. Just stay quiet - it'll add to the mystery. Some people who are the complete opposite of you, as in all they do is talk, can't stand silence and feel uncomfortable when others don't participate in the conversation. I used to be one of those people, but thankfully I've learned that not everyone likes to talk as much as me. Just let them think what they want to - you don't owe anyone an explanation as to why you're being quiet.
2006-12-30 03:00:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
i was very shy and quiet growing up...i hated when people said that too...
so many people talk just to hear the sound of their voice, or just so there won't be silence......i'm just not a person to talk for the sake of talking.....it's strange to me that being quiet is seen as negative....to me talking, yet saying nothing of value is more negative than keeping quiet....
...i don't really know how you should respond...maybe...
"....i'm a good listener, but when i have something important to say-i definately make myself heard"
or
"what's wrong with being quiet?"
or
"you could learn something from me"
....good luck!
2006-12-30 01:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life has always been unfair, my dear..
If u r talkative, ple will still comment on you.
Being quiet, pple will still comment on you too..
Then when is the best time to talk or be quiet? :>
Pple r hard to please..
So long as you do stuff that does not betray ur conscience, then be happy abt it.
2006-12-30 00:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by rinoao 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
say" I'm not too quiet, maybe your just too noisy."
no, actually, i just sort of smile at them and continue to ignore them without making a comment.
2006-12-30 01:29:01 · answer #7 · answered by joey7638 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just smile at them and keep on being "so quiet".
2006-12-30 00:20:15 · answer #8 · answered by Lori H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
those people are dumb cuz i love quiet people. i can go on n on about my problems n they listen without interrupting or takin out their cell phone to text
2006-12-30 00:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How about - "Well, if you'd just shut your big yap for one second, maybe I could talk."
2006-12-30 02:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋