i have bf but he has herpes, he got it 10 years ago.he said that every one year this herpes arised once in a year. can we still continue our relationship? i need advice and help.pls.....
2006-12-27 19:22:39 · 13 answers · asked by shane 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
Of course you can why not??
He has no life threatening disease that will kill you....it is nothing more than cold sores not on mouth but on genitals.
If you practise safe sex with condoms ,even when he has no outbreak all will be fine,it depends on how much you want to be with him.
Considering 1 in 8 ppl throughout USA have Herpes, it would be a sorry world if everyone stopped having relationships cos of this STD.
There are plenty of websites for info just Google the word Herpes,
it can be kept in check with the drug Valtrex....♥
2006-12-27 20:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well that is very cool he told you he has herpes. Now you have to be VERY careful. Herpes can be transferred to you if you have un-protected sex. Some people do get outbreaks only once a year, which is lucky for them. But sometimes people can have an internal outbreak and never know it. best thing to do is always use a condom. This is for your sake. You don't wanna catch that std. Because if you do, you are stuck with it FOREVER. And any new partner you get you have to face telling them you have an std. Herpes can only be transfered over when that person has an outbreak. This could mean a full on cluster of soars or maybe just one lil single one. Be careful, be happy he told you
2006-12-27 19:28:44 · answer #2 · answered by Noah's Mommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2015-09-24 18:16:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Candice, except her statement that one in eight people have herpes. It's actually four out of five.
One in eight (or more) have it around the genital area. The rest of us have it around the mouth or elsewhere in the body. It is nearly always a trivial infection that rarely gets beyond the severity of "nuisance".
There are, actually, two herpes simplex viruses: 1 and 2. There is little difference between the two, except a supposed slight preference for type 1 for the mouth and 2 for the genitals. And even that is doubtful.
His having genital herpes is as much a threat to your health as his ever having had a cold sore.
2006-12-27 23:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you can. There is no reason why you can't still have a relationship.
Below is a link to a great source of information on Herpes. It's called the Herpes Handbook and it can give you information and statistics on everything that has to do with herpes from cold sores to pregnancy.
Good Luck
2006-12-28 10:43:36 · answer #5 · answered by Neea_Gastino 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have to answer this from my heart and my mind. my mind says no-he is contagious only during an aoutbreak(but)if he doesn't know he's having a outbreak then how would he warn you not to have sex at that time. in woment and men the break out can occur inside the vagina and penis so you would not know you were having one. if it is on the outside you'll know due to the pain. so regardless there is a big chance he will pass it on to you. i would not have sex with someone who had a std, but with that in mind i am married and have known my husband for 13 yrs we dated for a year and got married-we've only been married for a year and a half and if he would have told me he had a std i would have had to take my chances-i love him and have for 13 yrs. i'd much rather had taken the chance of contracting an std than live without him. there is always the scare of divorce and dealing with it for some. so you might want to keep that in mind. basicly you can get it no matter what anyone else says-it just depends on how strong your relationship is and how much you care about this guy. if you think it's worth the chance then do it. if not i'd walk.
2006-12-27 20:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by heatherstamey05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes dear, you can continue the relationship if he is truely the one you love. Is your boyfriend taking Valtrex or any other Herpes medication for treatment? I would also advise you against any sexual contact if any sores or scaling are present. If you need to get any prescription meds for herpes the place to go is http://herpesrxfast.com/ . they have US licensed Dr.'s issue you a free prescription and a US licensed pharmacy will ship it to you via FedEx overnight. Any virus of the herpesvirus group, which comprises a family of 70 species, 5 of which are pathogenic to humans; the term also refers to any infection caused by these viruses. Since these pathogens are ubiquitous in nature, most individuals of all populations are exposed to and thus immunized to these viruses. The five pathogenic groups include herpes simplex I and II, varicella-zoster, cytomegalovirus, and the Epstein-Barr virus. A group of related diseases and the viruses that cause them. These diseases are marked by the development of blisterlike sores on the skin or mucous membranes of the body. The herpes virus may invade the mouth region, producing fever blisters or cold sores, or may cause a sexually transmitted disease in which the painful sores appear on the genitals. Chicken pox is another disease caused by a herpes virus. Good luck and as long as preventive treatments are available you can be protected.
2006-12-31 13:41:59 · answer #7 · answered by Nicky R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a tough one. As a rule of thumb, you don't want to have ANY unprotected (ie without a condom) physical relation with your bf. If he has got oral herpes, you might even want to rule out simple French kisses at all times, not to mention cunilingus and that jazz.
In day-to-day life though, things run simpler than that and one finds accommodations. You might just want to think about getting infected and the consequences of it. Herpes has been known to ruin some people's life, especially oral herpes which is socially so conspicuous at times. A possible infection with genital herpes is also a thing to take into consideration if you want to get children.
2006-12-27 19:55:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You do not have to have an outbreak to pass it and he definately can pass you the virus which is what causes the outbreak and you are stuck with it for life. Everyone is different i know someone who had about 15 years ago and never broke out again genital wise. I asked my dr. about std's he says herpes are very painful, and also from what people on here describe i think they are very distinct, but anyway consult your dr. if you want a relationship with him to see what precautions you need to take
2006-12-27 19:35:07 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All I know is Herpes can be on the genitals- which are very itchy and herpes can be in another form: cold sores. Which are on the lips and hurt.
2006-12-27 19:25:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋