I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 months, I was diagnosed with HPV about 4 months ago...I have been holding off because I'm still not comfortable with my situation and the possibility of me giving him HPV. I told him I have it and he still accepts me and loves me for me! I love him so but, would I be better off being with someone who has HPV...should I let him go now before I get more attached?
P.S. I've known him for 10 years!
2006-12-27 09:20:04 · 7 answers · asked by lotsofluv007 4 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
HPV is no serious obstacle (more of an annoyance, really), so long as you FULLY disclosed it before becoming intimate with your boyfriend. As long as he accepts you (and your condition) and doesn't care, why should you bother yourself?
Still, you should be realistic and take responsibility for the situation. He should get tested, and if he's negative, you two should practice "safe" sex if you're going to be sexually active before marriage. No offense meant, but the relationship might not "work out" long term, and it wouldn't be fair to expose him to infection if something bad were to happen to the two of you.
2006-12-27 10:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by Humberto 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
HPV is nothing to freak out about. It can be devastating at first as it was for me because mine caused genital warts. Some strains can cause cervical cancer, but most likely what u have won't. I had HPV with genital warts about 2 years ago. I got a prescription cream from my doctor and the warts cleared up within a few weeks and never came back and at my next pap smear six months later there was nothing abnormal or any trace of hpv. If you have warts or still have abnormal pap smears you should use protection when u have sex with ur boyfriend, but hpv is not that serious and is nothing to end a relationship over.
2006-12-31 00:45:55 · answer #2 · answered by candy86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he knows and doesnt mind then you shouldnt end the relationship. There are many strains of HPV (10 I believe) do you know which you have? Did you discuss it with your doctor? It IS possible for your body to develop a resistance to HPV over time, and even test negative for HPV (after years). However you CAN get another strain if you are exposed to it. Did you consider taking the new HPV vaccination? It can protect you from any strains you havent come into contact with yet. If you are still uncomfortable take your new boyfriend to the doctor with you so you can both ask all the questions you like and get the best answers available. Dont forget to also get PAP exams every 3 months to make sure you dont develop pre-cancerous cells, they grow quickly and once a year isnt enough to catch em.
2006-12-27 20:19:00 · answer #3 · answered by noviceinsd 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hope you know your facts about HPV...it is really not that big of a deal. For him...no problem at all. For you...ust keep up with your paps to prevent cancer.
Tell him the facts and tell him that it is so common he probably is carrying it anyways. The facts are simple and clear and no biggie.
Your HPV will go away in a year or two (mine went in 1 year) and you will look back and wish that women everywhere would take their paps and want to support women who think it is the end of the world.
According to the CDC...over 80% of women will deal with HPV in their lives...throw that one out there!!
2006-12-28 21:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by stephasoris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel. i started dating this guy, and yes we had sex. i took my trip to the doc and a few weeks later i received the phone call that i had HPV. he was there and heard me discussing this with the doctor. which was better, i didnt want to have to just randomly bust out with it one day. I was so scared because i love him so much, and he had told me a story about how he broke up with a girl in high school because she had spit in her braces, i was sure he was going to get up and walk out the door considering how germaphobe he is. all he said was, "babe, i love you and no matter what im here for you, we have to do this together now and i still love you more than anything in this world" i was so surprised. i didnt want to be left alone without my babe. you shouldnt have to either. he is a sweet guy and he will stick by your side. you will be fine. it is an uncomfortable situation, and i think about it everyday. but im happy, and there is no obstacle big enough to take the love of my life away from me. and he loves me enough as well to understand that people have issues and you work through them together, you dont leave someone alone. and it sounds like your guy sees things the same way.
2006-12-28 11:27:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, stay with him, he accepts that you have HPV and it's cool. You should see a gynecologist..if you haven't already...that way they can give you a pap smear. Make sure you get a pap smear every year. If you decide to sleep with him, just make sure he uses a condom. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-27 17:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i understand that it's hard for you to accept that, but if he's okay with it then you should be too.don't give up someone that obviously is a big part of your life, because you're scared of something for him.
2006-12-27 17:34:42 · answer #7 · answered by Gage's Mom 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋