I know some real assholes. And I was reading about a guy who's wife had genital herpes and he still treated her the same. Are all guys like this? Or is this rare? I know some real assholes, and If I ever get an STD [Hopefully NOT!] I would want to know if I'd still be treated the way I am now? Or will I be treated like I AM the disease?
2006-12-24 14:32:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
Roo,
A few years ago, I dated a woman who had genital herpes, with outbreaks once every couple of months. We stayed together for 18 months, and both enjoyed our time together.
Did her condition affect the relationship? Yes, but not just in a negative way.
Let me explain. I was a naive young man who had never really heard of the condition. In the early days of our relationship, I had to take time to learn about herpes and how it could be transmitted. I had to go through the emotions created by knowing that someone I was head over heels for had been treated so callously. All this, of course, meant that the relationship developed at a different pace than if she hadn't had herpes, and raised some soul-searching that would otherwise have not taken place.
But once the initial confusion had passed, my hesitation began to change to admiration. I mean this in the sense that the way my girlfriend coped with the unfairness of her situation (she'd been infected by someome who didn't think to warn her he had herpes) made me respect her even more than I might have. I mean, too, that her condition became something of a bond - 'our little secret' in a way.
I think, then, that the answer to your question is that:
- if you caught it, herpes would affect all your future relationships in some way, whether the guy was an asshole or not;
- that some guys would indeed treat you less well because of it, mainly through anger at the situation and the guy who put you in it (which is of course no excuse);
- but that there are guys who would still treat you with the same, or even greater, respect and admiration.
If you want to know more about my experience as a man who dated a woman with herpes, you can visit my website at www.genital-herpes-corner.com
Happy New Year
2006-12-26 09:22:22 · answer #1 · answered by Robert C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 04:19:21 · answer #3 · answered by Holly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-09-24 17:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ever do get SYDs and I hope you never do than be out front with your boyfriend or hubby to be. If he can not accept you as you are than move on. He isn't worth your time and you are too much woman for him. Probly too dam pretty too:).
Personally I know that STDs like herpes are too easy to contact for eveyone to be at risk these days.
I am personally cetain you can get herpes from toilet seats (which is why i look for clean bathrooms and wash the seats).
I also know that you can get then from a sex partner who you may or may not know has them.
**** happens and so does accidents. you can contact herpes from heavy petting if skin close, and condoms cannot do the job every time. Nothing is guranteed. We just have to do our best.
Personally knowing my wife had herpes would not make me treat her different other than learning about the disease and being extra careful.
I also know the person who has the disease could be me as well as her or any woman .
2006-12-24 14:44:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question is really confusing. What do you mean "treated her the same"?
Anyway I think it all depends on the scenario. Did she cheat and she got herpes? Or did she have herpes before they met? Or did he cheat and gave her herpes?
Love depends on respect. How well a man treats a woman, no matter what, has to do with his respect for her.
Everyone deals with the STD situation differently, but the final outcome will depend on the love factor which depends on the respect factor.
2006-12-24 14:39:01 · answer #6 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love the person not the disease. Chances are he would have it to by then. Just because he might not have the physical symptoms he could still have the virus itself. May need to take extra precautions but if he loves her then it really shouldn't change things.
2006-12-24 14:39:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1 in every 4 adults have herpes. if i liked the girl it wouldnt matter as long as she wasnt broke out. i have slept with women who have had herpes and i treated them no differently.
2006-12-24 14:35:19 · answer #8 · answered by askmike 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well kinda hard to deal with someone that has a disease that you cant cure. it really dosent shorten your life but with condoms having only moderate protection against it i would say yeah thanks for sharing but i gotta go.
2006-12-24 14:35:01 · answer #9 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how you get it.
If the womens is a whore then I couldn't care less.
2006-12-24 17:45:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋