I'm falling in love w/ a girl I met this summer in college. We talk about everyday...and she likes me alot and I the same. However, she has a long distance boyfriend who she's been seeing for maybe a month...and really rarely sees. She has expressed deep interest in being with me, but she feels like it would be unloyal and unfair to leave her boyfriend. I'm falling in love w/ her and don't want to pressure her. What should I do? Should I sit back and play it cool and just be her friend. Tell her how I feel about her? And if I do how should I tell her? Should I talk to her in person about it? Over the phone? through e-mail? Should I text her sweet things everyday and tell her things like she's beautiful and special to me? I'm completely falling for her, but its hard b/c of the boyfriend thing and I have several classes w/ her next symester...I don't want things to be weird between us.
2006-12-20 23:45:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Keep doing what you have been doing maintain the closeness that you have. She has a sense of loyalty and that is good. Long distant relationships most often fall by their own wait. If you profess your love for her, you will increase her conflict and, perhaps, lose what you do have and what could evolve naturally.
2006-12-20 23:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by DrB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds nice and also sounds like a good friend.My thing is you are right there with her and you said that she has showed deep interest in you,but at the same time she feels like it will be unloyal and unfair to the present boyfriend.That alone tells me that she is a loyal young lady.That is how something special happens you start as good friends then everything will fall in place.I say just hang around be her best friend then things will fall in place good things happens to the people who wait. GOD BLESS and good luck.
2006-12-21 08:01:07 · answer #2 · answered by gigi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to have a serious relationship that may lead to a life time commitment you need to per sue her. You need to tell her how you feel about her. I suggest you do this in person. Be honest with her. If she's open about this even if not admittedly then start sending the e-mails. As a young women in college I would have preferred my compliments to be in my presence.
You could go to a show, and hold her hand.
Make your moves slowly so as not to scare her and give her time to think things through.
Long distance relationships are difficult to maintain at best, so giving time may be all you need.
I wish you the best of luck
2006-12-21 07:53:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a man right what are you afraid of just talk to her even you can ask her out for a dinner and find out if she really love the guy let her open up to you and also you can express your self and tell her how you feel about her. pliz don't let it go just try your best and i wish she will chose you but don't let her play you two.
2006-12-21 07:52:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right idea, just continue to be her friend until she figures it out. Don't make the mistake of asking about her situation. She will let you know when things become different. The key here is to be a friend.
2006-12-21 07:48:44 · answer #5 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, be honest about your feeling for her before you burst! Tell her (in person) how you feel, but don't "gush". Just tell her the way you said it here. See where she stands with her boyfriend, and take it from there. Hope for the best!
2006-12-21 07:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be great if when we fall in love with someone they instantaneously fall in love with us. But it doesn't work that way.
It sounds as if you two are drawing close, but she needs time to sort things out. I wouldn't pressure her as you just might drive her to go away from you instead of towards you.
Continue the way you are going, but keep your declarations of love to yourself for now.
2006-12-21 07:49:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think you should go with this girl because she would talk to you and not her bf. think about what may happen in next year she may do the same too u
2006-12-21 07:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by Gum Mo Jai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find other girl..
At this point you don't know whether her interest in you are sincere or not.. She got LD bf and you don't know whether she's just using you as a spare tyre..
Move backward step by step.. just be friends with her..
2006-12-21 08:04:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yhe i know what youre talkin about mate its just the way it is, sometimes you fall for a girl who is already taken. all i can say is you dont want to be her mate, you wanna be more than a mate. she cant just leave her boy she might stick with him for a long time probably ending getting married with him. you dont know how nice he is to her. just be her mate for now we will see what happens.
2006-12-21 07:55:28 · answer #10 · answered by bbxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋